Just smile Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 We've been back together since January after many break ups . I've come to find his grown adult daughters hate me, I've been with this guy for. Six years and never had any interaction with his daughters, very little. So I don't understand the hatred . Fast forward . His oldest is getting married , this weekend, a destination wedding I was excluded . She asked I do not attend. He has begged me to please hang in there , to let her have this time,and when he returns he vows things will be changing drastically. He's away for six days and since I've known about this exclusion I've said nothing, and our relationship has strengthened like never before . It's shifted. But right now I feel edgy and nervous and like I am about to crack. His ex wife is there , the entire family , business partners etc, and I am excluded , I am humiliated and truthfully these next six days I have no idea how I am gonna get though . Any advice Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 I wouldn't feel so bad about being excluded from the daughter's wedding, in light of the fact she tends to "hate you." Plus, if an invite was forced, you would clearly be uncomfortable there. Why even wish to be a part of an event that would csuse discomfort for everyone? His ex-wife may not be enthusiastic about seeing the Dad of bride show up with a date, I could imagine that this could be a weird, frustrating situation. It is a personal family event, and that IS NOT your family, ya just got to accept this, and not take the lack of invite personally. And too, try not to put the man in the middle about this - there is nothing he can do about it (and being a b----- on this matter is just going to cause him guilt, confusion, and cause him to withdraw, as there is NO WAY for him to make you happy about this. Just let go, give a little apology for getting so worked up, and leave it at that. It is only one special day in his Daughter's life. If you're going to have s life with this man, you have to accept that he has a family outside of you, and, he will ALWAYS have to be there for his children's affairs - even into adulthood. Sometimes, as in this case, the ex-wife might be present. Big magnanimous - so, in comparison, you look GREAT, and CONFIDENT, when he returns to you from events he is committed to attend. That is my take. Yas Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 His daughters must have some reason for disliking you.... do you have any theories why this might be possible? How soon after the divorce did you start dating their dad? Why haven't you had contact with his kids for six years? What was the reason your boyfriend gave for this? Just trying to understand what's going on... Link to post Share on other sites
coryreply Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 His daughters must have some reason for disliking you.... do you have any theories why this might be possible? How soon after the divorce did you start dating their dad? Why haven't you had contact with his kids for six years? What was the reason your boyfriend gave for this? Just trying to understand what's going on... I agree, there are questions that need to be addressed here. I'm wondering why, after 6 years you've only had little interaction with his daughters. Was that intentional on your part? On his part? On theirs? Relationships like these have to be fostered and developed. They don't just happen automatically. How old were the girls when their parents divorced? How old were they six years ago when you came into the picture? Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 GAWD, I just scanned your post history....this man is a complete piece of douchery. WHY WHY WHY WHY is all I want to know. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 GAWD, I just scanned your post history....this man is a complete piece of douchery. WHY WHY WHY WHY is all I want to know. People only post about the bad times on LoveShack. That is the nature. When things are going well there is no need to post about it. In fact if someone did that often....they would be accused of bragging. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 GAWD, I just scanned your post history....this man is a complete piece of douchery. WHY WHY WHY WHY is all I want to know. Oh yeah.... totally agree. This is over the top: round n round we go ... Back again, yes I need help . Its me all me ..I've allowed is abuse to continue 46 solid years on and off constantlycame back the last even talking marriage proposal I think he would change this time for good...this time took me on a trip to New HOPE ACTING like he was doing me a favor- come home back to ignoring me for complete weekwhen I asked what was wrong he tells me he needs to be alone.... what ???? Had a blowout told me he loves me but csnt handle me !? Found out he does coke shocked) when I questioned him he procceded to tell me im crazy need to be put away ! told me I'm a w**** and that next time I'm with another man to please send him nude photos because I'm the best porn star he's ever knownyou also said how did that mans cock taste in your mouthI was dumbfounded and in tears I've never heard him with that tone of voice with me speaking so filthyI feel like I don't know this man and in reality I really don't I am the epitome of stupid taking a man back repeatedly over and over and over again I obviously have very little self esteem each and every time we've broken up he comes back he calls he apologizes he cries he promises I'm hopeful I'm stupid I fall for it every single time :/ Link to post Share on other sites
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