Stylist1 Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 I love my sisters and my family. However , I have recently started dating a new man and they have jumped the gun on so much. They have told my dad about it (who lives out of state) and he and I are close but I didn't even get the chance to talk to him before they started in on it. I know they love me and are only concerned...but when they haven't even talked to me or even met him yet what right do they have going and talking about something like this. It would be different had they talked to me and or met him. How should I handle this with them? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 Do nothing. They weren't being as bad as I thought when I read your title. I thought you were going to say they reached out to the new man. They told your dad. big deal. They were probably just happy for you. When you cool off you can say, in the future I'd rather spread my own good news. Please respect my privacy & stop gossiping about me, even to family. Now that you know they can't keep their mouths shut, going forward, don't tell them things you don't want spread all over the family. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
annonme Posted April 8, 2015 Share Posted April 8, 2015 Just be straight forward with them. Tell them you had been wanting the one to tell your dad not hem...and then I'd be more careful about what I tell them in the future Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stylist1 Posted April 9, 2015 Author Share Posted April 9, 2015 The thing is what they told my dad was stuff they had heard from others, not from me or him. What makes the situation more difficult is that they think that if it is not someone who they already know then there is no chance Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 ask your family and friends to respect your choices and your personal space...ultimately to also respect the man you are with...if they care they will do so.......for after all it is your choice with whom you wish to be with.... to me ...it wouldnt matter what my parent or my sister thought if they didnt know the guy i started to date...if they care for me(which they do) and they understand i am happy with my choice.... they will get to know the guy without prior judgement or influence.... because i want him in my life......if they dont care ...they wont...and thats their choice...i make my own choices...as do you..what others tell each other or gossip about .let them you can not control what others say....only what you do...dont let it affect you or him or your relationship..serves no purpose whatsoever to let others influence you into feeling less than happy...stay happy.......good luck...deb Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted April 9, 2015 Share Posted April 9, 2015 They were probably just happy for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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