JadeStar Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 Hey this is for the ladies, would you think its a big deal if your husband introduced you and your kids to a woman he works with like this, "Lynn, this is (insert my name) and (insert kids names"). In other words he didn't introduce you as his wife (insert name) and kids (insert names). I guess its not a big deal. He probably figured she knew he was married and had kids, which I know she knows that, but who knows, oh well. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
innerconflict Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 Uh? Don't sweat the small stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 lol Ok, I talk about my husband at work a LOT. So everyone knows that my husband's name is John*. So when I introduce him to my co workers, I might say, "Bob, this is John. John, this is Bob." I might introduce him as "My husband, John" but if I didn't, it's because everyone already knows my husband's name is John.... *names have been changed Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 I can understand. You'd think he'd say "This is my wife, Jade Star and our sons Jade Jr. and Jade Jr." It implies a protective ownership that excludes the OP from that circle. Is it a big deal? Probably not, if its just a casual co-worker that he has no interaction with outside of work. Does he generally introduce you as his wife, and this is an exception? If it were a 'friend' who you had been hearing increasingly more about, or was chatting him up online, or spent time with him outside of work - then I'd be inclined to be a teeny bit suspicious. If for nothing else, I'd wonder if he left out the 'my wife' part as a subtle way of distancing me from him in her eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 Oh dear lord.. You are just looking for things to sweat over. Stop analyzing every little thing, it'll drive you nuts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JadeStar Posted April 15, 2005 Author Share Posted April 15, 2005 LOL...jmargel not sweating it, its just a question. No more retarded than some other posts I have read. Lucreiza, yes he usually does introduce me to others as his wife and kids. He has introduced me to his male buddies as wife etc, but this is the first female co-worker that I have been introduced too. Its the same woman that awhile back he was sending dirty emails too. Like I said just a question. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 I always introduce my wife as "my wife", unless the OP all ready know us. I just feel its curtious and polite and it also recognizes your companionship with eachother. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 ....oh Lord, here comes tiki..... I wouldn't have thought anything about it, naturally. But with this woman?? It's like it never ends with her?!?! I'm sure she knows he's married. Have you considered asking him why he didn't introduce you as the 'wife and kids'? Do you think he was nervous, did he seem nervous? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 Originally posted by JadeStar Its the same woman that awhile back he was sending dirty emails too. I can understand your concern! I'm sure this woman knows who you are and that you are his wife, but still... Link to post Share on other sites
Author JadeStar Posted April 15, 2005 Author Share Posted April 15, 2005 tiki, no I didn't ask it would have probably been a waste of time just for him to probably say, "I wasn't thinking about it." LOL....They were all there when we got there, and she wasn't facing him, but I kept looking at him and he would look over at the table every once in awhile. Then she got up to pay and came over to the table, she didn't appear to be nervous, but he kind of did. I'm not sure what to make of her. She goes to clubs (is married) without her husband cuz he doesn't like going. She sits at a table full of men during lunch and discusses how big and swollen her P*ssy was when she was pregnant. Thumbing, thats how I see it too. Its like out of respect to say this is my "wife" Jade Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 I'm kinda glad I learned this for future reference. I'd have never thought to MAKE SURE I actually introduce him as my husband too. I learned something. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 Mention to him, the next time you introduce to me somebody, it would mean alot if you said, This is my wife .... (insert name) That way you don't make it seem like a big deal. If you react he's gonna get pissy and think you're totally jealous. Who is this woman he works with? Is she a threat to the marriage? Just wondering. Other thing is men are men. Thought process isn't as deep as ours. I'm sure he didn't intend to insult you or hurt your feelings. I'm sure he thought it was pretty obvious that you're the wife and he's the father of the kids. Don't you think he's told this woman he works with about his family? Does he have any photo's of you all on his desk? Try not to worry. Unless you feel something is going on, just let it go for now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JadeStar Posted April 15, 2005 Author Share Posted April 15, 2005 My post was called Big deal? Probably not. So I'll just go with probably not then. Thanks for the replies. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 She sits at a table full of men during lunch and discusses how big and swollen her P*ssy was when she was pregnant. Blah.. If some chick said that to me while I was sitting next to her, I'd walk away. That's a sign of not having any class. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 She sits at a table full of men during lunch and discusses how big and swollen her P*ssy was when she was pregnant. That's gross and honestly makes her sound insecure and she's totally looking for reaction and attention! F**k, by saying that atleast she gets talked about! Agree with JM, she has no class. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup she has no class. ....and a fat pu$$y. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JadeStar Posted April 15, 2005 Author Share Posted April 15, 2005 Yes she has no class. When my husband first told me about what she said during their lunch break, he told her that was gross and he was trying to eat lol. Since I know what kind of person she is, thats why when he used to send her dirty email jokes pics of monkeys in a zoo giving BJ's, I told him to stop. I thought it was inappropriate being that she could think he was trying to insenuate something. Not meaning she would, but could. He acted like it pissed him off that I asked him to stop, but he did. Guess I should be more concerned if I asked him to do so and he didn't. Thanks again for the replies. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Author JadeStar Posted April 15, 2005 Author Share Posted April 15, 2005 Originally posted by tiki ....and a fat pu$$y. LMAO Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 That's hilarious Tiki! Jade, unless she starts calling or if you drop by the office again and she's just 'hanging' out around him, looking and watching - I would try not to worry. She's married and probably enjoying the flirting with the boys abit too much. Anybody who says "HEY I GOT A FAT P*SSY while eating lunch is seeking attention! lol! Still is funny though... If I was out to lunch and heard that, I would LAUGH so loud too. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted April 16, 2005 Share Posted April 16, 2005 Whether she has class or not is irrelevant. She wants to get laid. That's relevant. I would expect my husband to introduce me to people as "This is my wife RP." Your husband didn't forget to say "my wife", he just showed that it doesn't matter that you are his wife. The story for you is "I forgot to mention that you're my wife? Big deal!". The signal to her is "I have a wife? Big deal!" Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 Hey Jadestar, Don't feel bad when my h interduced me to his guys at work they said to me that they didn't know he was married.. I was pissed .. I thought to myself maybe he doing things at work he shuoldn't be lol you know how womens minds wonder... I wouldn't like that too much at all if my h didn't interduce me as my wife and this is my children .. Link to post Share on other sites
SilentPrayer Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 Is she pretty? If so then your husband is polite to her. Statistics I have read a few days ago show that a huge % of men are more polite to pretty girls then they are to less hotty totty girls. He probably chatted to the gurl about you guys. He most likely bragged about you and kids. No one wants to lay some horrid facts of UP and DOWN aspects of your life to a complete almost stranger..and co-worker..so it is not likely she knows of any bad moments. ANyhow...he introduced you as a person and same as your kids. Obviously he has mentioned you and kids to her. So..no biggy~ Link to post Share on other sites
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