affairing down

[adna89]

Well according to some survey done most men who were in affairs said they think their wife is better looking than the OW

[goodyblue]

Well according to some survey done most men who were in affairs said they think their wife is better looking than the OW

 

Well, my guy's ex was ok when they got married. Now she looks like Buddy Hackett. But I digress.

 

I never felt like a side piece and I did, and do, have all of the emotional power. If he had a problem, he came to me and listened to my advice. If he had a wonderful experience, he shared it with me first. If he was upset, sad, frustrated, I heard about it all first, before anyone else.

 

Of course he left his ex and we are together so maybe it is not the same...

[Furious]

Hello all

 

Just need some feedback on this topic, please know I respect a everyone's advice good or bad

I've just been thinking for the last couple of days about this, you see in movies that they always portray the ow to be better than the wife in every way

Looks, youth, money

 

But....In real life it isn't the case in most affairs

It really bothers me that my xmm pursued me, when I know he really is disgusted by me now, as I know he did affair down

 

What was the point of toying with me? I just don't get it

 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I really think you should embrace yourself and realize that cheating is a character issue and not a looks issue.

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[msblissful]

Seems as though your thread has digressed off topic. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I really think you should embrace yourself and realize that cheating is a character issue and not a looks issue.

 

Exactly agree with this. Who is to say what is better or worse? Everyone like different flavours shall we say. What is appealing to me is not going to appeal to everyone.

[gettingstronger]

Veruca- up, down- who cares- for the most part affairs are a life suck and leaving one if not all of the people touched by them feeling horrible- my main concern for you is your self image- I know you say you have all these reasons you can not get in shape, but I have say you have one reason to- yourself-

 

There are a ton of online, free programs you can join- Couch to 5 K is a good one- a friend is doing it and has lost 30 pounds- she posts her progress on FB and gets tons of support from everyone- wouldn't it be fun to have people you know cheering your progress on line rather than being online on LS-

 

Do one thing good for you today and see how you feel-

[Robert]

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[Popsicle]

As far as the WH feeling like he affaired up or affaired down, I haven't seen any consistency in this department that one or the other is always the case. Plus, how could anyone know for sure what is in his mind and how exactly he feels about the quality of either woman? What I do see a lot is the BW thinking the WH affaired down with the OW and the OW thinking he affaired up with her. But, again, as I said, we don't know what he really feels and it probably isn't that simple anyway.

[sophinla]

Studies have been done on men and women's short term mate selection strategies. Women tend to affair up, choosing more attractive men than their long term mate to have affairs with. Men tend to affair down, which means for brief encounters men relax their mate standards, physical and personality wise. Google short term mating strategies.