digger Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 She divorced me 13 months ago..i never saw it coming. She has treated me like dirt since. She says shes been losing the love for 10 years tho we were laughing and playing together. She told me 7 months ago "im gonna find someone who'll treat me like a queen". She told me she LOVED her ex boss, who has since moved 1000 miles away. She took my daughter to visit and was going to move there til daughter put her foot down. She has since sold "our house" and moved into one 4 miles away, instead of fleeing to HIM. She told me he never started calling until after we separated. Daughter says quote "they talk on the phone every night like shes a f****** 13 yr old whose just found a new b/f. Not sure what was going on at work before he left town 3 months before our divorce but she never seemed unhappy and was always on time etc even begging me to go out for 'drinks' etc when i was just to damned tired (my mistake). So my question: Is this a rebound? A big one? And what are the chances it'll last?? Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 Okay digger, I see you are still looking for that glimmer of hope. Well here it is: A friend of mine met a woman he fell for. They had a discreet long distance affair for over 2 yrs. They confronted their respective spouses and stopped seeing each other. That didn't last. They left their spouses and continued to see each other for a year. This was true love like they had never experienced before. Their spouses were distraught. One went so far as to manipulate the children (which is a common occurance). The woman called up my friend one morning and said it was over and she was going back to her husband. This was unexpected, came out of the blue and my friend, more than a year later, still isn't over her but is seeing other women in hopes that he can recapture that feeling again. So yes, digger, there is always a glimmer of hope that she will come back to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted April 15, 2005 Author Share Posted April 15, 2005 thanks..i needed that ray Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted April 15, 2005 Share Posted April 15, 2005 I'm going to be the bear of some bad news here. You have to look at the other side too. My parents got a divorce when I was 8. My mother ran off with my dad's best friend. They have been together ever since my parts divorced (11 yrs. ). I'm just showing you that sometimes it can go the other way. Now, In your case since she didn't move out of town to be with him there is "glimmer of hope" left. Give it time... maybe she will come back. She is just having mixed emotions now. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted April 16, 2005 Share Posted April 16, 2005 Originally posted by digger So my question: Is this a rebound? A big one? And what are the chances it'll last?? You should not be concerning yourself with any of this, so don't. Link to post Share on other sites
ready2moveon26 Posted April 19, 2005 Share Posted April 19, 2005 Digger-I think you thinking about this relationship that your ex may or may not be in will only make you feel worse. I am in the same situation right now with my ex. When he isn't in a relationship, we are great friends-do things together and talk about everything, but when he is in a relationship, I turn into the enemy again. It hurts me everytime he does this, but I fall right back towards him when he is single. He had surgery recently and I just happened to have a dr appt in the same hospital around the same time as his surgery. Seeing him lie there in the hospital made me cry-I love him SO much but at that exact moment, I realized I am done with him. I love him but can't be with him. We have been separated for over a year now and have yet to get the dissolution we had planned on a year ago. He is in a relationship now and is not nice to me at all-he tries to manipulate me and when I don't let it happen, he gets hateful. My advise to you is try and forget about her. It makes life a little easier not worrying who, what, when, where, and why he is doing what he is doing. He is no longer my responsibility except when he has our daughter. My advise to you is...try not to think about it...the more you think about it, the worse it will be... Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 19, 2005 Share Posted April 19, 2005 She is right digger. I know I told u a story that makes things hopeful, but that's because that is what you wanted to hear. Everyone else is telling you what you NEED to hear. You have two choices. Dwell on the past and be miserable, or look to the future and find a way to be happy without her. Start slow - it will take a long time. Don't waste any time. If she is meant to come back, she will when the time is right, but don't waste this time where you could be doing other things to enjoy your life. Just in case she never comes back....take care of yourself okay hun? Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted April 19, 2005 Author Share Posted April 19, 2005 i will--thanx Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted April 19, 2005 Author Share Posted April 19, 2005 and btw, i think i am starting to get kick started ive put my business up for sale and have a job opportunity (maybe) 400 miles away where my son lives--the one person who thinks the world revolves around me. God has funny ways of getting people back together...as for me: its me and my son. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted April 19, 2005 Share Posted April 19, 2005 Best of luck to you. I'm happy to hear you will be closer to your son. Link to post Share on other sites
Author digger Posted May 18, 2005 Author Share Posted May 18, 2005 it just pis**** me off so bad. Two weeks agao my ew and daughter are calling my son in another state for his birthday...like nothing ever happened..and then i tell my daughter im going to pick up my son and bring him back here for a week, would you please join us and get together. My son is here a week and not one damn call. Link to post Share on other sites
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