Anyone ever had "love at first sight"? What did it feel like?

[Chaser of Eros]

I have a question for those who have experienced "Love at first sight". what did it feel like? how did it make you feel?

[Tayla]

Intense infatuation.

 

As love....

even at first site...

is blind....

....and sometimes that is fine with me, for the flaws aren't magnified then

 

Had that happen coming out of a grocery parking lot, loading up my car, the man brushed by me, we both looked at one another, and literally time stood still. It was the most intense moment, then just as quickly.. we both blinked, said our cordial "Opps!" , and off he went...and so did I. He was wearing a cologne I love, had on a Trench jacket like Keanu from the matrix and yes...when he spoke...it was with a lovely french accent!!!

 

No relationship...but was certainly intense and somehow a familiarity between he and I.

[Chaser of Eros]

Intense infatuation.

 

As love....

even at first site...

is blind....

....and sometimes that is fine with me, for the flaws aren't magnified then

 

Had that happen coming out of a grocery parking lot, loading up my car, the man brushed by me, we both looked at one another, and literally time stood still. It was the most intense moment, then just as quickly.. we both blinked, said our cordial "Opps!" , and off he went...and so did I. He was wearing a cologne I love, had on a Trench jacket like Keanu from the matrix and yes...when he spoke...it was with a lovely french accent!!!

 

No relationship...but was certainly intense and somehow a familiarity between he and I.

 

Thank you for your input.

Is there a difference between infatuation and love? or their one in the same?

[Donate]

Yes her name was M. Jones our meeting was destiny and I fell in Love with you the moment I saw her. In fact we pretty much fell in Love with each other at first sight. I never loved anyone as deep and complete....unfortunately I was married to someone else at the time.

[Tayla]

Thank you for your input.

Is there a difference between infatuation and love? or their one in the same?

 

Yes. One last longer. The problem is some folks cannot differentiate which one.

Have you had a love at first sight moment? Do share!

[blackcat777]

I've experienced it twice.

 

Once was with a guy I saw performing at a party. I saw him on stage and was instantly awestruck. I just HAD to have him... and I did. He was the one ex that I did wrong, and for a long time he was the one that got away. We clicked and had great chemistry.

 

I felt it again when I met my current boyfriend. I unexpectedly bumped into him when I entered a room, saw him, and just... stopped. I wanted to run away and scream, "NOBODY WARNED ME HE WAS IN THERE!!" It was like being struck by lightning. I couldn't even make eye contact with him because I'd turn beet red. I just couldn't. Couldn't even.

 

We still have those blistering moments of intense eye contact. It's awesome. Fortunately for me, I also grew up a lot and figured out how not to be a total beeyotch to guys and start appreciating them.

 

So, love at first sight is chemistry... some kind of crazy, electric chemistry. Something I've been able to pick up on from across the room. In each instance, it happened literally the split second I was there.

 

My two other serious RLs didn't have that spark at the beginning... the middle... or, at the end.

 

My boyfriend and I have a disturbing amount of things in common, so there was the chemistry AND compatibility right off the bat.

 

True love, the kind that weathers all storms, needs time to develop. I also think it continues to develop indefinitely, aging like a fine wine. Love at first sight, while electrifying, doesn't have the richness and the intensity of a bond cultivated through mutual love and support over time.

 

Love at first sight sure helps to kick things off.

 

But I did learn, through my behaviors the first time vs. the second, that developing strong personal boundaries, learning to communicate without aggression, and paying attention to direction in life (in addition to screwing constantly), is paramount to tempering the heat of the flame and directing it toward creating a beautiful relationship... rather than letting it blow up and destroy people.

[Chaser of Eros]

Yes. One last longer. The problem is some folks cannot differentiate which one.

Have you had a love at first sight moment? Do share!

 

I think that's what it is but I've never known the feeling of Love before. I Love my Mother and my Father, but that's like an ingrained Love that one has for family. but recently I had lunch with a woman I had been feeling for a couple weeks, after the lunch it was like complete head-of-heels. I feel chaotic inside emotionally, my thoughts are all over the place and I feel like everything is wild. it's as if I discovered a piece of me or a part of my life was missing only after falling for her.

 

But I'm beginning to think that maybe it's not a mutual feeling, which sucks but ultimately its helping me grow. I've never approached a woman before and asked them out, I'm normally shy but with her it felt like something I had to do. then (lol against the advice from some good users here and peers in real life) I ended up giving her a letter I had penned. explaining how she was motivating and inspirational to me by making we want to better myself to a level where a woman like her would gravitate towards me. I used to have fear of rejection and even though this is seeming to become another rejection, it's not bad. I no longer have that fear.

 

So it's a mixture of ups and downs, but the over all emotional and mental feelings I'm experiencing are new and strange. I'm wondering if this is Love at First Sight or if it's infatuation, but I know it isn't the latter because I haven't been thinking about the physical aspect as much as I would previous times women have came into my life. I'm thinking on the sense that I'd Love to have her in my life to help me grow, it's something about her.

 

That's why I was asking.

[d0nnivain]

I had it twice but you have to understand it's lust not love.

 

 

Growing up my mom always assured me that when I met my soulmate I'd just KNOW. I met this guy. When we shook hands -- our 1st physical contact -- it was like lightening shot through my body. I immediately thought, wow I just met my husband! That delusion kept me in a dysfunctional relationship for over a decade. What a disaster.

 

 

When I 1st saw my husband, I looked across a room & though . . oooh yummy. He was so gorgeous & I wanted him. It was pure lust. At the time I was in the market for a player. Yes, players have bad reps but damn they give good date. All I wanted was a fling with a hot guy. Ironically my husband could not have been a player if I given him an instructional video.

 

 

My point remains, you actually know nothing at 1st sight other than what the other person looks like.

 

 

Any following up on a previous thread of yours, the worst thing you can do is send them a heartfelt romantic letter.

[Chaser of Eros]

I've experienced it twice.

 

Once was with a guy I saw performing at a party. I saw him on stage and was instantly awestruck. I just HAD to have him... and I did. He was the one ex that I did wrong, and for a long time he was the one that got away. We clicked and had great chemistry.

 

I felt it again when I met my current boyfriend. I unexpectedly bumped into him when I entered a room, saw him, and just... stopped. I wanted to run away and scream, "NOBODY WARNED ME HE WAS IN THERE!!" It was like being struck by lightning. I couldn't even make eye contact with him because I'd turn beet red. I just couldn't. Couldn't even.

 

We still have those blistering moments of intense eye contact. It's awesome. Fortunately for me, I also grew up a lot and figured out how not to be a total beeyotch to guys and start appreciating them.

 

So, love at first sight is chemistry... some kind of crazy, electric chemistry. Something I've been able to pick up on from across the room. In each instance, it happened literally the split second I was there.

 

My two other serious RLs didn't have that spark at the beginning... the middle... or, at the end.

 

My boyfriend and I have a disturbing amount of things in common, so there was the chemistry AND compatibility right off the bat.

 

True love, the kind that weathers all storms, needs time to develop. I also think it continues to develop indefinitely, aging like a fine wine. Love at first sight, while electrifying, doesn't have the richness and the intensity of a bond cultivated through mutual love and support over time.

 

Love at first sight sure helps to kick things off.

 

But I did learn, through my behaviors the first time vs. the second, that developing strong personal boundaries, learning to communicate without aggression, and paying attention to direction in life (in addition to screwing constantly), is paramount to tempering the heat of the flame and directing it toward creating a beautiful relationship... rather than letting it blow up and destroy people.

 

Thank you very much for your input,

when you said that you just had to have him. was it more on a companion type feeling (in the sense no individual thought dominated the other, it was a sense of wanting to be around them or have them around you) or the whole package (Love, Friendship, Intimacy, Family, etc.)?

[Chaser of Eros]

I had it twice but you have to understand it's lust not love.

 

 

Growing up my mom always assured me that when I met my soulmate I'd just KNOW. I met this guy. When we shook hands -- our 1st physical contact -- it was like lightening shot through my body. I immediately thought, wow I just met my husband! That delusion kept me in a dysfunctional relationship for over a decade. What a disaster.

 

 

When I 1st saw my husband, I looked across a room & though . . oooh yummy. He was so gorgeous & I wanted him. It was pure lust. At the time I was in the market for a player. Yes, players have bad reps but damn they give good date. All I wanted was a fling with a hot guy. Ironically my husband could not have been a player if I given him an instructional video.

 

 

My point remains, you actually know nothing at 1st sight other than what the other person looks like.

 

 

Any following up on a previous thread of yours, the worst thing you can do is send them a heartfelt romantic letter.

 

 

and I understand what you're saying. I don't feel any regrets behind it because I'll be able to put the "what if's" out of my thoughts. just kind of off-balance with these emotions. and thank you for your input

[Tayla]

I think that's what it is but I've never known the feeling of Love before. I Love my Mother and my Father, but that's like an ingrained Love that one has for family. but recently I had lunch with a woman I had been feeling for a couple weeks, after the lunch it was like complete head-of-heels. I feel chaotic inside emotionally, my thoughts are all over the place and I feel like everything is wild. it's as if I discovered a piece of me or a part of my life was missing only after falling for her.

 

But I'm beginning to think that maybe it's not a mutual feeling, which sucks but ultimately its helping me grow. I've never approached a woman before and asked them out, I'm normally shy but with her it felt like something I had to do. then (lol against the advice from some good users here and peers in real life) I ended up giving her a letter I had penned. explaining how she was motivating and inspirational to me by making we want to better myself to a level where a woman like her would gravitate towards me. I used to have fear of rejection and even though this is seeming to become another rejection, it's not bad. I no longer have that fear.

 

So it's a mixture of ups and downs, but the over all emotional and mental feelings I'm experiencing are new and strange. I'm wondering if this is Love at First Sight or if it's infatuation, but I know it isn't the latter because I haven't been thinking about the physical aspect as much as I would previous times women have came into my life. I'm thinking on the sense that I'd Love to have her in my life to help me grow, it's something about her.

 

That's why I was asking.

 

Enjoy it! IF there are moments of joy, accept them, If there are moments of wishing to grow, do it. I am glad you are in the "moment" with this person. It captivates you eh?

As for the letter, some folks express themselves in different ways....for you it was a letter. My son is rather literature savvy and when he was courting his now wife, he often wrote letters to her...she cherishs them to this day. His dance of courtship seemed to suit them. The art of letter writing has fallen into the background in this technology age, yet the language of love will persevere.

[Chaser of Eros]

Enjoy it! IF there are moments of joy, accept them, If there are moments of wishing to grow, do it. I am glad you are in the "moment" with this person. It captivates you eh?

As for the letter, some folks express themselves in different ways....for you it was a letter. My son is rather literature savvy and when he was courting his now wife, he often wrote letters to her...she cherishs them to this day. His dance of courtship seemed to suit them. The art of letter writing has fallen into the background in this technology age, yet the language of love will persevere.

 

I definitely vibe with all you've just said. thank you very much!

[Syberia]

It felt like a temporary high caused by a release of chemicals in the brain.

[Nikki Sahagin]

Yes.

 

3 times.

 

I don't know that it's 'love' - it's possible a strong reaction to someones look/aura/pheromones?

 

It just feels very magical. It's a deep, consuming sense of infatuation, curiosity, intrigue.

[Donate]

Yes.

 

3 times.

 

I don't know that it's 'love' - it's possible a strong reaction to someones look/aura/pheromones?

 

It just feels very magical. It's a deep, consuming sense of infatuation, curiosity, intrigue.

 

 

All this time, I never knew you felt that way about me...

[minimariah]

I have a question for those who have experienced "Love at first sight". what did it feel like? how did it make you feel?

 

i don't believe in love at first sight.

 

but i do believe in LUST at first sight & yes, i experienced it. it's this warm, fuzzy feeling, shallow breathing, red cheeks, parted lips & blatant eyefuxking type of experience.

[Chaser of Eros]

i don't believe in love at first sight.

 

but i do believe in LUST at first sight & yes, i experienced it. it's this warm, fuzzy feeling, shallow breathing, red cheeks, parted lips & blatant eyefuxking type of experience.

 

I understand your stance. my emotions is definitely not what you've described. I don't think its lust.

[2.50 a gallon]

I was 27, and was big into the social scene, meaning I had dated a lot of girls. Being as I was the only one of a dozen grand children capable of passing on the family name, I was getting a lot of pressure to marry and start of family. It had reached a point were I was beginning to have my doubts about whether I as capable of falling in love.

She worked at a sporting goods store that I frequented quite often. And the odd thing was the night we met, was her one year anniversary for working at that store.

My first sight of her, she was leaning over a table with her back to me, and talking on the phone to her then BF. The first thing I noticed was her long hair, cascading like a water fall, off her shoulders and half way down her back. Her hair was coal black, but when the over head lights caught it just right, it had a reddish hue, Then I heard her voice, and it was a voice that I wanted to be talking to me.

She heard me, cut short the phone call, and when she turned around to ring me up, I saw the face of a young Sophia Loren. I am a leg man, but for some odd reason I thought she had the most beautiful nose I had ever seen. I remember thinking before I even knew her name, "This is what I have been looking for. At last we meet"

From the moment I met her, I just knew that this was the face that I wanted to kiss good morning to for the rest of my life. I just wanted to take her in my arms and hold her. It was not lust, or infatuation, that came months later, when I finally talked her into our first date.

We went on to get engaged, even had named the kids, but her older sister, set out to break us up. And although it took a few years, she finally succeeded.

Fifty years later, there is still a soft spot in my heart for her.

Edited April 10, 2015 by 2.50 a gallon

[PrettyEmily77]

Yes, once.

 

 

He was a surveyor and was checking all the houses in the neighbourhood for something to do with insulation. When he knocked on my door, time stood still for what seemed like an eternity. We locked eyes for a minute without speaking then he remembered why he came and did what he had to do. We were both so flustered and the conversation was charged and awkward. At that moment I really felt like I'd just met my soul mate.

 

 

I was totally devastated when he left after he'd finished his job but he came back 5 minutes later to collect the folder he'd left on the porch. He left again then came back because he'd forgotten to have me sign a form. My head was spinning and my heart was beating so fast I didn't know what to do.

 

 

He came back one last time, that time he blurted something about being sorry for being so forward and that he'd had to see me again; I just felt like the happiest girl on the planet, couldn't believe what was happening. I gave him my number and we agreed to meet for lunch the next day. I spent a sleepless night in a total daze and when we met the next day, the tension was still there. We were both single at the time and we carried on seeing each other for a passion-filled couple of months.

 

 

I now know it was pure lust as no real feelings developed after those couple of months. The relationship fizzled out naturally, no harm was done, we parted ways willingly and I still look back on those months as some of the most exciting times of my life.

[Tayla]

Yes, once.

 

 

He was a surveyor and was checking all the houses in the neighbourhood for something to do with insulation. When he knocked on my door, time stood still for what seemed like an eternity. We locked eyes for a minute without speaking then he remembered why he came and did what he had to do. We were both so flustered and the conversation was charged and awkward. At that moment I really felt like I'd just met my soul mate.

 

 

I was totally devastated when he left after he'd finished his job but he came back 5 minutes later to collect the folder he'd left on the porch. He left again then came back because he'd forgotten to have me sign a form. My head was spinning and my heart was beating so fast I didn't know what to do.

 

 

He came back one last time, that time he blurted something about being sorry for being so forward and that he'd had to see me again; I just felt like the happiest girl on the planet, couldn't believe what was happening. I gave him my number and we agreed to meet for lunch the next day. I spent a sleepless night in a total daze and when we met the next day, the tension was still there. We were both single at the time and we carried on seeing each other for a passion-filled couple of months.

 

 

I now know it was pure lust as no real feelings developed after those couple of months. The relationship fizzled out naturally, no harm was done, we parted ways willingly and I still look back on those months as some of the most exciting times of my life.

 

 

HEY!! That was my guy! ...he sure does get around the planet alot! LOL!!

[PrettyEmily77]

HEY!! That was my guy! ...he sure does get around the planet alot! LOL!!

 

 

Haha, wouldn't that be funny?! No French accent for mine though, just a very thick Northern English one - a lot less sexy but it seemed to do the trick regardless...

[carhill]

Here's an excerpt from one of my journals:

 

"My next significant experience is one which is still with me today, in reality, as I type this. I am currently visiting this person and her children a country away from where we both live. Today is "zoo" day, a first for her only granddaughter. Anyway, back in time.... I was 25, my dad had just died of cancer a few months prior, and I was starting to get my work and personal legs back.

 

At the time, I was working at a machine shop and had purchased my first home about a year prior. In all ways, just a normal day in a usual life for me. One of our customers called and said they were sending over a job for me to look at and gave me the name of the parts person who would be bringing it. I was working away at a lathe and happened to look up as someone walked through the shop door. What happened next was what would become a unique and defining experience for me. When our eyes first met, I saw this sort of glow around her and the room slowly began to rotate (in my mind, of course) and about all I could choke out was "you're XXX" and, strangely, that was all I heard from her. We just kind of stared at each other, something we still do to this day, and events beyond that became sort of cloudy to remember."

 

While a lot of life experience might cause me to be a bit cynical about mutual 'love', whatever it was it was sufficiently pervasive to keep us in the milieu for a quarter century.

 

At the other end of life I see such experiences more as the realm of the young. In any event, it was kinda fun.

[No Limit]

Happened once for me so far; first day in my new class, and then this guy walks in. The shy, quiet type. First few moments watching and hearing him was like the world held its breath, incredible. That feeling also didn't wear off easily, this infatuation remained for 3 years.

[Paterlany]

Yes, i`m with him. He looked at me 5 years ago. His eyes said it all.

[Chaser of Eros]

Thank you all for expressing your stories. I really appreciate the input.