DarrenBA2634 Posted April 11, 2015 Share Posted April 11, 2015 Hey guys, call me Darren. I was looking around the web and a user on another site recommended this to me, I just wanted to post my story to see what responses I can get. So there's this girl, she's sweet, attractive and back last year we dated for a good majority of the year, but in the end it was too much too soon as she had ongoing fights with depression and her lawsuit against her ex from five years back, more of a case of I was the right guy at the wrong time, I don't really want to delve into that story. She's what a lot would call an introvert, she doesn't like to go out practically often but doesn't have that much time in general these days to really go out with friends. Anyway it's been a year, we said after we broke up that we want to keep contact as friends so we did, nobody is using the other, it was a mutual decision after a mutual breakup. About two weeks ago she messaged me in a low tone mood saying she wanted to talk, I messaged back to ask what's wrong, she said she's got a lot on her mind so I nudged in and asked what was bothering her, she then brought up that she was thinking of there being an 'us' again. I thought this was a good sign, eventually in the end she said that she just doesn't feel ready to get back out there into the dating market, as she doesn't want to get stood up yet again, which is fair, she's a stubborn introvert and I can't help that, but like to how we got together in the first place I know the way to her heart is through friendship first. That said, I'm not in a 'that really good friend' position that I should be, I talk to her some hours a day, but that's it. We did talk briefly last night as I was trying to sort out my computer, I asked how she was as she felt reasonably down lately, I asked if she wanted to grab a coffee with a few friends and me but she's got her full college exams in a few days, but we said we'll talk about it after then so that's not a problem. So, my question is this: With everything said, what's the best course of action for me to follow? Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted April 11, 2015 Share Posted April 11, 2015 You still have nothing of any substance and you already agreed that you will talk after her exams. Don't push because reconciliation has to come from her. You were out of contact for the last year ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author DarrenBA2634 Posted April 11, 2015 Author Share Posted April 11, 2015 You still have nothing of any substance and you already agreed that you will talk after her exams. Don't push because reconciliation has to come from her. You were out of contact for the last year ? Agreed, I don't want to push her under any more pressure than she is in, I don't want to be that guy that's going to force something on her, we agreed if it's going to happen it'll be for both of our interests. After we broke up she asked a month to herself just so she can space herself from everybody and work on her depression therapy, we started talking again about a month afterward. Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 I don't trust in reconciliations where there was no very long time in nc. Link to post Share on other sites
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