theseaofred1982 Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I was the other guy. She was married to a porn and video game addict for 2.5 years. They separated and we had an amazing time for over a month. She went back to him and tried once for a duration of 1 week. She said it's no longer there, the marriage is dead. During her separation, she became desperate because she has so much things to do to improve her life. School, work, etc...Well she partied too much and got a DUI yesterday, now she's back with her husband the same day. I know she will never tell her husband about me and that's fine, I don't have to live with that, she does. Were her actions to going back to her marriage out of desperation? I miss her and I know I need to will let go of her, but I know she's making a huge mistake by going back to a place that made her unhappy. She doesn't have to be with me, I get that, but I just don't see how her marriage can work after this. Can someone shed some light on this matter? Link to post Share on other sites
Josmatjes Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 She sounds confused. I would just let her be for awhile. If she leaves to be with you it's meant to be. But in the meantime try to focus on yourself.... Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 He isn't forcing her to go back, she's choosing this, which means she's not done with him. They may have an unhealthy dynamic and it's what she's used to and can't give it up, maybe she just loves him and can't see a life without him. Stay away because you're going to get hurt. This woman doesn't have your best interest at heart, she is only thinking of herself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Sounds like she is unstable, like her husband. My guess is that you were a temporary amusement/ respite. She is back with him and not you. You would be getting into a very unhealthy relationship with her. Just forget her. Her problems are not yours. I think you would regret getting in amongst that. It sounds somewhat sleazy dodgy. Focus on yourself. Poppy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Donate Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Her and her husband are both dysfunctional people....leave them to their misery Link to post Share on other sites
Chasing_mya Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 To me she's not fed up with the situation/marriage enough to leave permanently. She was with you for a month and you said you both were happy, yet not enough to stop her from going back to him. I'm not sure if its financial or she's just co-dependent on him but she's not ready to give this up just yet. I'd work on walking away from her so not to get any more emotionally invested in her. The longer you stay the hard it will be. Link to post Share on other sites
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