believe in faith Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 I've been a lurker around this forum for awhile hoping one day that something bad won't happen to me. Well the inevitable happened 2 weeks or so ago. I've been going out with this girl for about 6 months, everything was great with her, no fights no arguements until beginning of march. In total we had about 3 little arguements/fights, after the first 2 arguements happened she asked for a "break." I said no, well cause i don't take breaks too well, i think that they could be the end of our relationship. 3rd arguement came around she asked for another one after we argued abit. I got caught up in the moment and said something i shouldn't have, "do you think maybe we should break up?" She hung up on me tried calling back, no answer, went to her house, no answer. Did everything i could to apologize for what i said. I know it was a dumb move, but like i said i got caught up in the moment. I've gotten several emails from her after that incident telling me to move on and best wishes. Well it's been 2 weeks now, exam time for her. I just don't know what to think anymore. I talked to her a few times after that but she seemed pretty "cold" on the phone. She's been pretty busy with exams at school so she has no time to talk or whatever. What would you recommend on doing? Sorry my story was pretty vague..I can't think straight. If you need more info I'll fill you guys in. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Move on. She is finished with you. If a couple of arguments breaks you up then what did you have to begin with? I wouldn't be upset because I think she's a flake and your better off without her. Move on... Link to post Share on other sites
sleeplessincnd Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 I was in a smiliar situation and I can say - do what is in your heart. Everyone will tell you not to talk to her and move on, but you know her best and are the only one who can decide what is the best way to deal with this. In my situation there was a misunderstanding and a lot of stress involved. It took him about a month to calm down and have a chance to realize what is important. Just give her some time and talk to her like a friend and the good person that she likes. If she has half a brain she will want to work it out, if she doesn't, why would you want to date someone with half a brain?? Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
pippen_2k Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Yeah man ur in a preety ordinary position right now, one ive been in just recently. She can say shes ' sooo busy' with exams and that she has no time to talk, but if someone actually cares about you they make time for you. Dont tell me shes studying 24/7! I dont think I would dissapear on her just yet tho.. but I definatley would give her some space. Hang around, try to act happy and friendly whenever u get the chance to talk to her, cause begging never works. Its gonna suck going through this so just hang in there and u never know.. someones gotta get lucky in here soon! Ha Good luck mang! Link to post Share on other sites
Author believe in faith Posted April 17, 2005 Author Share Posted April 17, 2005 pippen_2k, You've been in the same situation as me, how did things work out? I hope giving her space will give her time to think about what has happened. I apologized earlier to her and have faith that things will be alright. In the mean time I think you guys are right about giving her space away, let her think things through. I pray every night hoping things will go well. I don't want to lose her. Link to post Share on other sites
pippen_2k Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 I wont lie to ya, things havnt turned out the way I would have hoped, but I defiantley see inroads being made. Untill about 4 weeks ago I found myself falling into the same trap every week. I was begging for her to come back, I was telling her how hurt I was and seriously it was just hurting me more and more whilst driving her away. So I decided to change what I was doing, cause it had been about 2 months of this constant dwelling and feeling sorry for myself.. which in reality.. what girl would wanna be with a guy like that? .. how pathetic... So I kinda just stopped contacting her and left her alone.. cause I thought it was totally over. A couple of weeks later she contacted me ( to my surprise ) and we started talking again. She said 'shedid miss me and does care about me, but just didnt know what she wanted'. HA havnt heard that before.. errr But since that day, any opportunities ive had to talk with her ive acted all happy and been telling her what fun things ive been doing ( even tho deep down inside I miss her like crazy and am still hurting ). Last Monday,for the first time since our break up she called out of the blue and came around to visit me ( 1st time ive seen her in 3 months ), we went out to dinner the next night, and we talked for a bit on Thursday... even had a text message on my phone from her Saturday night ( which I missed ) asking me what im up to? Ill let you know that on all occasions it has just been 'friendly', with not 1 word on our past relationship. It hasnt been easy just doing the friends thing but I suppose you gotta start somewhere...? I could be diggin my grave doing this and setting myself up for more hurt... but you never never know... even tho she has given me no sense of any great hope, at least we are talking again, and thats a start. THIS ONLY HAPPENED WHEN I STOPPED HOUNDING HER ABOUT MY FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS TOWARDS HER, AND STARTED ACTING HAPPY AGAIN!. So yeah things havnt turned out the way I hoped as we are still not together and are still preety distant. But it is something I guess.. so see how you go with it all... Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author believe in faith Posted April 18, 2005 Author Share Posted April 18, 2005 It's day 4 since I've spoken to her. I kinda feel depressed and helpless. Why does everything remind me of her? Link to post Share on other sites
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