lisbon67 Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 Final Date for any objections to divorce...from either party...applicant..me...or spouse...WW...23 rd April 2015...I think my bottles starting to crash a bit...! Yep.The divorce is going ahead at a fast pace..but there is posturing on both sides definitely..I admit I'm still sad about it and don't really want to lose her..there is a big fear aspect on my part about losing her, because i do..or did..love her..of being alone...and also of her taking up with someone else....maybe someone I know... BUT the triggers and daily REMINDERS in the home just now are constant and they make me feel sick about her...dozens every day...reminding me what she was up to... I don't think I could live with that for another few months or years...They might susbide and get less after a while...but would never go away I think.. Friends on this site LS have said said my Wife doesn't THINK the way that I thought she might think...the woman that I married...or the way I THINK about things ..she is indeed NOT the woman I thought she was .She has NO empathy with MY hurt and feelings...doesn't care one iota! When I'm trying to get clarity and some truth...maybe trying to get some events clear in my head..nicely..about her affair..she gets angry , upset and says "stop torturing me" "your torturing me every day with questions. ..I can't take it any more ".."im not answering any more of your questions"! "I'm going to stay at my friends house"...etc So it's STILL all about HER feelings..not ONCE has she asked me about my feelings and my torture after her..eventually.telling me the full blown sexual details of her affair with her lover (but still not all of them.) I've just got to accept this and shut up really..and stop annoying her.my hurt feelings just dont come into her realms..she is just not interested in helping me with my damaged feelings and admittedly obsessional thoughts. Its All about HER. She's telling me now I need to go to a Psychiatrist to help me cope with my obsessional thoughts.! Is that not a real cheek?.she is the one who CAUSED me to be in this horrible situation. does she think I wanted to be here.? So no point Link to post Share on other sites
LifeWasted Posted April 15, 2015 Share Posted April 15, 2015 She has no remorse. Sounds to me like you answered your own question. You will hurt for a long while, but I believe a year down the road, after shedding her dead weight, you will be very happy and free. She on the other hand will always look back with regret on the poor choices she made. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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