Women are baffling

[DoesntGetIt]

I started going through a divorce in November which was due to me simply not having feelings for her anymore and opening up about that. So now I'm back in the dating world, and it sucks.

 

 

Woman #1: Coworker, jumped into things too fast after divorce, both agreed to keep it casual but it quickly became serious (mostly due to her actions, but some were on me too). She freaked about that and cooled it down. That didn't last. Then she tried to make it extremely casual and I said we should just be friends and be open to the possibility of it being a thing again someday. She agreed. Due to things a couple weeks later, we stopped talking for what had been a month. Everyone who knew about the dating situation thought she was acting crazy, so at least it didn't seem to be me. And for some reason she never took her keys back.

 

 

Woman #2: Started talking through OLD, but she lived 2.5 hours away so we agreed to not make it into anything and that at some point we would hang out when one of us was in the area of the other. We did talk/text almost everyday (including about dates we had lined up). We also sexted, and it was all fun. We talked about me heading out there one Sunday to which I made it clear this wasn't a sure thing and we'd see how I felt that day. Happened to go out drinking the night before, didn't feel great, didn't go. She got mad and ended the text conversation with a "take care of yourself" which I took as a piss off and we never texted or talked again.

 

 

Woman #3: Went on some double dates from OLD. Both women were great, fun, attractive, just all around good people. They both ended up liking me and not my buddy. On double date #3 it was on me to make a choice. One of them was REALLY into me, and it certainly would have turned into a relationship. The other was interested, but not as much. However, she really intrigued me and I thought our personalities matched up more so I chose her.

 

 

We had our first solo date, went amazing. About a week later she calls me and talks about how she truly does like me but she realized she isn't ready for anything yet. She dropped out of OLD and stopped dating all together but really wants us to still be friends and spend time together (and says she didn't offer this up to any of the other dates she had).

 

 

We went on a hike later in the week and I got more info about how she got out of a long serious relationship about a year ago where she thought she had met who she would spend the rest of her life with, and ended up getting really hurt. She thought she was ready to date again, but realized she isn't and is still afraid of getting hurt.

 

 

I was honest with her about become friends by saying "I can't promise I won't make a move on you again." to which she replied "I don't know that I would resist." And she said she would likely keep flirting (which she has) because she genuinely likes me and is attracted to me. So yeah, unfortunate outcome. She admitted part of it was due to me going through a divorce, which makes sense given her situation.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is crazy is I stopped talking to #1 and #2 and have been talking/making plans with #3 as she is fun to hang with (void of drama, always open, upfront, and honest which are traits I highly admire in people), and I do have the sliver of hope that it turns into something again at some point.

 

 

Then this week #1 starts talking to me a bunch at work again and is being very touchy and flirty out of literally no where. As I said above, we had ceased all communication for a little over a month.

 

 

Last night #2 texts me out of the blue and starts chatting with me again. This was also after just about a month of silence. Same night my ex I'm going through the divorce with texts and then calls me to talk.

 

 

 

 

Women need to decide what they want. Having multiple women saying they don't want a relationship only to have them keep coming on to me and wanting to talk/spend time with me is just annoying. After the friend zone from #3 I had taken down my OLD profile because I just felt I needed a break from dating/all of this, and then the other ones just start popping back into my life.

 

 

I don't find it hard to get dates, but man can it be tiring dealing with some of these women and their constant mind shifts/mood swings. I'm a really laid back person too. You would think that would make things easier, but amazingly it doesn't.

 

 

I'm not really asking a question with this post, just venting. Dating has never been a fun thing in my mind, I genuinely prefer relationships to dating multiple people.

[DoesntGetIt]

Also why can't you use the word "confusing" in the title of a thread?