EIN Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Hey all, to make long story short: Met this girl who I was talking to but havent seen again until her last day (she worked across where I worked and I got thrown into night shift thus haven seen her in two months before that encounter). Her last day when we talked again was 4-27-05. I asked her number, called on next day. We chatted. Went to see movies, eat. Second date (week later): aquarium. Third outing (with her friends) last Friday 5-15-05. Heres problem lies: we talk on phone about daily activites everyday and family but when we go out, its always been on her terms. I try suggesting some of my things but she always goes" I do not like this, I do not like that" but the things she suggests, I always come down for. Tonight she suggested something to the Amusement Park. I am down but I know its going to be with her friends. Is she just keeping me with her as her tag along to her friends that shes not single? Heres why I thought of this: She is overweight and from what I can gather is the lone girl of all her friends and she has not seen anyone in a long time. I have been trying to initate small physical connection (we do hold hands when we are together) but just a kiss, nothing more. She dodges everytime. I am inclined to cancel this outing. Help Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted April 17, 2005 Share Posted April 17, 2005 Well, I think she is accepting you for the moment, because she hasn't found anybody else to go out and is afraid to be alone, but you are not what she really wants. You're someone who makes her feel good, because you are interested in her, but she doesn't give a damn for your feelings. You shouldn't go out on another date with her unless she asks you out again and is willing to try one of your suggestions. You don't seem to be in love with her yet, so cut your losses. Have respect for yourself and she'll respect you. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Quiet Guy Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Your in a strange situation. Personally if it was me i would end it why you can with out causing to much damage. You need to be comfortable with the whole thing, and if you cant do some things you want then it will never work, you are only fooling your self and leading to heartbreak, trust me i know. Your call, but if you not happy, why bother?? Link to post Share on other sites
jp79 Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I agree with the previous posts. What's the point of seeing someone who doesn't even try to take interest in you, or in things you like? Yes, this is a rhetorical question. Keep a distance; don't go to that amusement park thing. If she ends up pursuing you, and accepts doing something you want to do, give her another try. But don't let yourself get taken by her... keep your guard. In all likelihood she really doesn't care about you (I really didn't like the tone of that last sentence... sorry to put it like that! ) Link to post Share on other sites
macoxp Posted April 25, 2005 Share Posted April 25, 2005 Try this. You: I want to go to ######. Her: but I want to go to ######. You: Fine then you pay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EIN Posted May 1, 2005 Author Share Posted May 1, 2005 Thank you for all your response. It helped me reinforce what I did today, I ended it with her and we left on good terms. Link to post Share on other sites
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