NicoletteCB Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 My ex sent me a really long message basically sending me below the belt insults and calling me ugly, writing me a laundry list of my unattractive feautures, even going as far as to say I have "sloppy" genitalia. Sigh. She also went off to include that I'm also very boring and have no style and she decided to make fun of my hair growth pattern which she knew I suffer from because of PCOS, I am saving up for lazer hair removal. Well, really I feel used up and I feel like for six months she dated me out of pure pity. I don't know. I already have very slow self esteem about myself and always have since being a child and I thought this girl truly accepted me but the fact that she went off to talk about my "dry" foundation and et cetera really hurt me. I'm just having a very hard time right now. I don't miss or want my ex back and she is with another girl now, and especially after that message I wouldn't accept her back for the world but now I feel so...ugly. I try my very hardest to fix myself and be attractive but she was truly the only person I trusted to see my no makeup in the morning face and she left me. I just don't know how to move on from the insults and how I'll ever trust another girl again. Link to post Share on other sites
Fufu Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 Never date with anyone who belittle you. Please delete and block this person, you don't have to suffer by these cruel words. Eventually, you will trust again. Please, start NC and for your own recovery. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
backandforth Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 This speaks a lot more about her character than it does yours. I know words hurt but you must see that she's incapable of expressing herself like an adult. She's lashing out because she wants to hurt you. Kick her arse to the curb. Not worth your time or your thoughts. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ApexTitanium Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 You are not ugly, that person is and they are not worth your sadness. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SLee Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 You are not ugly. She's being mean and awful for, who knows why. She's trying to hurt you and it just shows how ugly she is. Being so mean to another person like that is absolutely disgusting. Cut her out of your life. All social media, phone number, email, etc. Get rid of it all. You don't need or deserve that kind of toxicity in your life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Sisyphus Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 What a shallow b!tch! If I were you, I would take this opportunity to do something to raise your self-esteem. You should make this a priority. You're worth it. See a counselor and/or get some books on the subject. If you can't afford a counselor, check your local university. Many of them offer inexpensive counseling services--especially if they have a master's program for counseling. My daughter and I attended our university's counseling training center for $80 total for an entire semester's worth of weekly therapy. Of course you're sad now, but in time you will look back and see her for what she is. I say "is" instead of "was," because people like her don't change. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NicoletteCB Posted April 19, 2015 Author Share Posted April 19, 2015 Thank you, you are all too kind! What really takes me aback is she told me such petty reasons for my "uglynes." Such as my fingernails being dirty and my hair too messy? I don't understand that, all she had to do was tell me to brush my hair and pay attention to my fingernails and it would be resolved. Her list was a bit laughable but I was still hurt honestly, mostly that I feel lied to. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 Women can be such b*tches. Ignore. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 Thank you, you are all too kind! What really takes me aback is she told me such petty reasons for my "uglynes." Such as my fingernails being dirty and my hair too messy? I don't understand that, all she had to do was tell me to brush my hair and pay attention to my fingernails and it would be resolved. Her list was a bit laughable but I was still hurt honestly, mostly that I feel lied to. I have PCOS too. Those extra hormones make us pretty sensitive about our appearance and rejection. People like her hit where it hurts. She knew what would hurt you and did it. My husband has historically done things like this. If I told him I was afraid of the colour yellow, he would've pissed on the wall. Don't take it seriously. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Exitleft Posted April 19, 2015 Share Posted April 19, 2015 It takes a truly ugly and cruel person to say those kinds of things to someone, especially when they are already hurting. On the plus side, you're aware that you want nothing to do with her romantically again. Best idea is to cut all her avenues of contact off so she cannot cause anymore harm. She has to live with those words. Wish you the best. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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