Sick0Kitten Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Hi Ya'll I have a question to anyone really - that is willing to share their opinion with me. I am in a long term relationship, have been for the past 2 and a half years. My partner and I broke up today over a pointless argument. We live together so I'm affraid of what it will be like if we don't get back together.. My reason for writing today is because we were fighting over something trivial I guess now, but I didn't like the way he talked on a public forum.. it was slightly sexual and I didn't feel he respected me by talking like that ya nkow? So I email him and try to find out where he's coming from then he breaks up with me and says a whole lot of awful things mainly that he thinks i'm not normal for caring about that sort of thing, That all I think about is myself. That wasn't true because in the email I asked him if there was anything I could od to express my concerns without having him react so harsh and defensive.. but of course he couldn't do that. It turns out a lot worse.. His friend killed himself on the weekend, I don't know who it was or why, but all I know is he's taking all his pain and agression out on me possibly because I got in the line of fire? I don't know Do you think I should forgive him and be more understanding and take the upset and anger he's experiencing because it is something really serious? I have never been in this position before so I am at a loss as to what the appropriate way to act might be?Please guys, i erally need some help! I'm writing from work bit upset... ouch why does life have to be so complicated? Link to post Share on other sites
SunshineBFine Posted April 18, 2005 Share Posted April 18, 2005 Originally posted by Sick0Kitten First of all, chatting in a sexual way has nothing to do with his bad experience. If this individual is in a relationship with you why is he chatting to someone sexually? Did you know this person? Was it a joke? Was he telling all about his sex life with you? I would definitely comfort him because of his horrible and sad experience with a friend's suicide. This can't be easy..maybe he thought he should have seen the signs; you know blaming himself. I can see him turning anger towards someone he trusts. However, if you caught him this time chatting sexually, then how many times has he done it and you didn't catch him? But this arguement is not something trivial, I am sorry. You still need to deal with it. Good Luck and you are in my prayers, as is his friend and he Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sick0Kitten Posted April 20, 2005 Author Share Posted April 20, 2005 Thank you very much for your response. You sound like a very loving and caring person. Thank you for your kind words. It ended up being OK, Xander let me know he was sorry for acting so angrily and we have talked through the forum issue. He didn't say anything to any girl specifically but it was the tone, then again it was on a forum so its not the same as overhearing something in real life. He said it was a joke to make fun and make others laugh - I have expressed how it made me feel and I don't think he'll do it again now that we've talked. Thanks again! Link to post Share on other sites
SunshineBFine Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 I would join him in the chats - be standing or sitting right next to him. If he has nothing to hide; then he'll hide nothing. Good Luck and remember - he who has nothing to hide; hides nothing! Good Luck and Best Wishes! Link to post Share on other sites
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