Do Cheating ex's ever really get payback?.

[2.50 a gallon]

Some 20 years ago, after returning to my home town, I rented an apartment in a 15 year old complex. Grandma M had been their very first renter. She had chosen a ground floor apartment, with a patio that the kids coming from the school two blocks a way had to walk by. And every afternoon, she would be out on her patio talking to them as they came by. They all loved her as she was a sweet lady. She just loved kids, once you got to know her she would constantly bend your ear about her many grand children that lived out of state. And how she was once again going to Denver or the Midwest that summer to once again spend time with them. She had these great blowups of her children and their families on all of her walls.

She had a little bit of money, every other year she got a new convertible. And it seemed at least once a month she revisited the beauty parlor to have her hair redone. The same thing with her French poodle that she walked around the complex.

The school down the street had a big baseball stadium used by the little leaguers. About 5 years later, I was there watching some of the All Star teams play when I ran across a high school friend I hadn't seen in over 30 years. The last I had seen of him was when he shipped out to Viet Nam.

He was there with his mom watching his grand son play.

Then I heard him say, "There goes the Wh*re, she must live around here" It was grandma M driving by in her new car.

As it turned out Grandma M was his birth mother. He was about 10, when she took a job with a large car dealership, and ended up cheating on their dad and marrying the owner of the dealership. They got custody of the 3 boys and a girl, but over time, with them going to Juvie some how their dad had regained custody after he remarried.

None of her kids wanted anything to do with her. She was the Wh*re. She had never seen any of her grand kids, much less of many great grand kids. She thought they had all moved out of state to Denver, Omaha.

That day she drove by the school not knowing that one of her great grand sons was playing ball two blocks away from her apartment.

Each year, one or two of the kids would send her a photo of their families and have it mailed from out of town. Denver, Omaha, Detroit, etc. And it was these photos that she was blowing up and putting on her walls.

She died about 5 years back in a hospital about a mile away, not knowing that her first great great grand daughter had been born there about a year before.

Edited April 28, 2015 by 2.50 a gallon

[Esraem]

Wow that is a sad story, but also shows your actions no matter how long ago will stick with you in the end.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Everything is random in my opinion. There's not some great plan for us. Do people get punished or whatever for stuff like cheating? I don't think so. To some degree life is what you make of it. Some of it is totally beyond your control. You can control how you treat others & if you want to hold hate in your heart.

[NYWoman]

I married young, to a real man several years older than me. He was truly gifted in all ways. After getting caught he walked out of my life for good. There was nothing I could do to get him to listen.

In order to preserve my sanity a couple of years later, I moved back to my home town, where I married my second husband. He quickly turned into the ultimate jerk, and when my two boys left home for good so did I and moved back to live with my mom, who lived in the city where I met my first Ex 25 years earlier.

I though I had long gone him out of my mind, only to find that he had moved back to the same city, and I would seem him quite often driving by my mom's house, in an old beat up pickup, as it was down the street from his favorite hobby shop.

When I went house shopping I found out where he lived and purposely bought a home far away from where he was living.

While on the search I found the most perfect house, but alas it was not for sale. I bought a place about a mile away, but still found myself driving by and dreaming.

Two Christmas's ago, my one son brought out his family. A couple of nights before Christmas, we all went out for dinner at my favorite Mexican restaurant. It was my first Ex who had introduced me to this place decade before so I should have had a clue. But I was still stunned to see him and this awesomely beautiful woman walk thru the dining room. She was carrying a single red rose and just by her look you could see that the two of them were totally in love.

Two night later, while taking my grandson out to look at lights, we drove by my dream house, as they always have a nice display that changes every year. This time, the garage door was open and there inside was that same beat up pickup truck.

That woman is happily screwing my husband in my dream house.

Edited April 29, 2015 by NYWoman

[doble]

I married young, to a real man several years older than me. He was truly gifted in all ways. After getting caught he walked out of my life for good. There was nothing I could do to get him to listen.

In order to preserve my sanity a couple of years later, I moved back to my home town, where I married my second husband. He quickly turned into the ultimate jerk, and when my two boys left home for good so did I and moved back to live with my mom, who lived in the city where I met my first Ex 25 years earlier.

I though I had long gone him out of my mind, only to find that he had moved back to the same city, and I would seem him quite often driving by my mom's house, in an old beat up pickup, as it was down the street from his favorite hobby shop.

When I went house shopping I found out where he lived and purposely bought a home far away from where he was living.

While on the search I found the most perfect house, but alas it was not for sale. I bought a place about a mile away, but still found myself driving by and dreaming.

Two Christmas's ago, my one son brought out his family. A couple of nights before Christmas, we all went out for dinner at my favorite Mexican restaurant. It was my first Ex who had introduced me to this place decade before so I should have had a clue. But I was still stunned to see him and this awesomely beautiful woman walk thru the dining room. She was carrying a single red rose and just by her look you could see that the two of them were totally in love.

Two night later, while taking my grandson out to look at lights, we drove by my dream house, as they always have a nice display that changes every year. This time, the garage door was open and there inside was that same beat up pickup truck.

That woman is happily screwing my husband in my dream house.

 

Yeah yeah NY, you did a number on your ex, and karma got you and him good. You are an overweight has been and his rose is in the hands of a gorgeous grandmother, I'll give you 2.50 for your thoughts on that. You had a winner, but after only a few months you cheated.

And he is so happy.

Karma

[bigman1]

i know cheaters whose lives are crap. its not because they cheated, rather its because they made the same bad decisions like they did when they became cheaters.

 

betrayed should stop focusing on waywards. its unhealthy. they are not a prize. a bird crapped on my suit the other day. i don't wonder how that bird is doing. get them out of your heart and mind.

[2.50 a gallon]

doble

 

 

I think you added 1 plus 1 and came up with 11

 

 

If you are alluding to NYWoman being me Ex, where is my pickup truck and the garage? I have been driving a Ford Escort for almost 10 years.

 

 

My Ex lives over a thousand miles and several states away

[Toodaloo]

I found out she had been having an affair with another married guy 20 years older than her, for 8 months of our marriage.

 

She is now with this 50 year old who has left his family and wife of 33 years for my ex wife.

 

Garrus.

 

Let me tell you what is going to happen there...

 

At some point down the line he is going to get old. He is already 50 so its going to happen very fast for her.

 

He will be 80 and watching day time soaps while she is still out working. He will have arthritis while she is still wanting to go out and party.

 

His ex wife will always be in the back ground. After 33 years they have far to great a connection for it to just be broken like that. And I can tell you now that his ex wife will do her damndest to look fantastic at every single event they have to be at together for the children. So every wedding, christening etc your ex wife is going to have to "compete"...

 

Even if they stay together and he lives to a ripe old age she is still going to be facing many years, old and on her own...

 

Does this make you feel better? Enough "Karma" for you? Its not Karma but her choice and this is the life she has chosen. Your ex wife is a douche.

 

Chin up chook.

[doble]

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doble

 

 

I think you added 1 plus 1 and came up with 11

 

 

If you are alluding to NYWoman being me Ex, where is my pickup truck and the garage? I have been driving a Ford Escort for almost 10 years.

 

 

My Ex lives over a thousand miles and several states away

 

Your stories are identical, down to the cats, how she cheated, your reaction, your revenge by bedding her coworkers wives, her realizing her screw up, and on and on and on. Your changing from bad boy image to a caring man confusing her allowing her to be plied by those coworkers. Even the Christmas lights, your living in her dream house, the champagne in trash, her checking the bed seeing you had sex, that scene waking her up, trying to reconnect, your ages at first meeting, her coming back three years later hearing you having sex, wanting you, the length of marriage, physical attributes, sexual dynamics, you being a stud, how tall you are, hair style, the single red rose, her description of your wonderful woman. The Mexican restaurant. TOO many similarities for coincidence. I am not the only one to notice 2.50. But the mods delete any mention. I could list many many more 2.50.

 

NY also relocated. Read over her posts, and either she is obsessed, she is your ex. OR the posters are the same person.

 

OR something very very fishy is going on. Coincidence no way.

[Holmes85]

GarrusVakarian,

 

Karma does catch up with everyone eventually, if might not happen when YOU want it to happen, but it mostly happens when they are too much invested in something, that's what I've seen it happen.

 

Everything takes it time to build, whether it's a friendship, an affair or a marriage, things just don't happen within a blink of an eye.

 

I always say that you treat them well like a Gentleman and let them leave, a girl who knows what she wants, would rather settle for a Gentleman who appreicates and thinks a world for her, rather than being treated badly for the rest of her life.

 

Trust me if you treated them well, didn't abuse or cheat on them, you would be sleeping a lot better at night compared to the guilt & shame they are feeling. Most of the times they convice themselves that they are happy and put on their best face like everything is rosey dosey, but practical people in life know that simply isn't the case, there are bound to be ups and downs in life.

[2.50 a gallon]

doble

 

 

About a month back another poster messaged me with the same concern as you and have since read her posts. The stories are in ways similar, but greatly different in the details.

Such as the Christmas lights, she says display, our effort is lights around the edge of the roof, in the car park, and the GF decorating a tree on the porch. We have cats, so it is impossible to put one indoors. I would not call that a display.

I have not read all of her posts, but do not recall her ever mentioning cats

Also I live in a gated retirement community and no one gets past the guard without our permission.

As for the lawn she mentions, the little front yard we have is all gravel.

Kind of wish I was her Ex as it has been years since I owned a truck.

She also mentions her Ex taking kids fishing. Alas, it has been over 30 years since a wet a line.

But, you can believe what you want

[Akashsingh]

I would not be much worried about Karma. If you keep wondering whether Karma will bite them, then it will certainly bite you more. Focus on yourself and your own growth...

[doble]

I think you can appreciate the multitude of similarities. Regarding the cat,

 

It is infidelity, back again, post 29. Excerpt:

 

He did let me come by a couple of times to visit with our cats. On a visit six weeks after he caught me, I realized, that he had not slept alone. He had screwed another woman in our bed. That is when I understood the pain that I had put him through. That pain takes years to get over.

 

There are a few more with more details. You should read her posts, it's almost a parallel to your posts 2.50 except from the betrayer's perspective.

There are more spot on things, almost verbatim events than differences. It is astonishing. Twilight Zone stuff.

Anyway, you have a wonderful woman, life is good. You got good karma, NY got the bad. I can understand the desire to have a truck again. I drive a equinox now. Miss those days.

Breast wishes. No, not a typo.

 

doble

 

 

About a month back another poster messaged me with the same concern as you and have since read her posts. The stories are in ways similar, but greatly different in the details.

Such as the Christmas lights, she says display, our effort is lights around the edge of the roof, in the car park, and the GF decorating a tree on the porch. We have cats, so it is impossible to put one indoors. I would not call that a display.

I have not read all of her posts, but do not recall her ever mentioning cats

Also I live in a gated retirement community and no one gets past the guard without our permission.

As for the lawn she mentions, the little front yard we have is all gravel.

Kind of wish I was her Ex as it has been years since I owned a truck.

She also mentions her Ex taking kids fishing. Alas, it has been over 30 years since a wet a line.

But, you can believe what you want

[No Limit]

That woman is happily screwing my husband in my dream house.

 

I find it fascinating that you refer to him as your husband when he's an ex. Basically little more than a stranger, a person of the past.

[Happilydivorced2013]

Not giving a crap about your cheating ex is the best karma.

[Tayla]

Why let someone rent space in your head or heart? Remove them and live your own life. What you think of them or them you is neithers business.

 

Keep the wisdom from the experience, lose the bitterness...its so not worth it.

[BC1980]

I think it's all random. Honestly, even if a cheating ex did get "karma" in the future, it's not like they are going to think something bad happened as punishment for how they treated you. They will simply think that something bad happened. They don't think about what they did that deeply, and they don't walk around with a lot of guilt. It's amazing what we can spin and justify. It's amazing how people can completely rewrite the story. I wouldn't wait around and worry about karma or someone getting what's coming to them. I would just keep moving forward with my life and trying to make good decisions.

 

A guy I work with left his wife and married another woman he met at work. This affair was going on for years and wasn't a secret. Years later, she left him for someone else, so, in that case, what goes around comes around. But I doubt the guy thought that he was getting payback for how he treated his first wife.