I will confront my ex-gf about her affair!Wish me luck!

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Truthfully speaking i'm embarassed of how i am behaving and feeling lately and that I come everytime here to share my thoughts and emotions.I don't have any else other place to go.I cannot tell this to any close people to me since they will think i am nuts or something similar.I just want this soap opera to stop before it destroy myself and my sanity.

 

I wish i could have an button to switch feelings and emotions off like these 2 guys have but i don't and i can't stop my mind from wandering astray.

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Why not let her decide for herself whether or not she's being manipulated?

 

Besides, she wouldn't listen to you anyway since you're the scorned ex who has an agenda.

 

 

I think it would take her years to realise the lies and manipulations and I know she would not listen to me but right now i don't see other choiches.

[fardaxel]

And Ruby please don't ever give that advice to anyone ever.Please! IT IS OBVIOUS that she broke up with me so she can be with him. It's not like i am going to sit now with my arms crossed and applause them for doing this to me! If they would have at least had the decency to admit it or ask me if i approve but none of them did it so what you've said is really out on context here! I wonder how would you react to a situation like this

 

Even if she broke up with you to date someone else, it's not an affair. An affair would be if she dated you and him at the same time.

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Even if she broke up with you to date someone else, it's not an affair. An affair would be if she dated you and him at the same time.

 

Truth has been spoken.Yes it is not an affair but i couldn't find any other term for this "hidden relationship"? Even that we are not togheter anymore the way she behaves around me clearly shows that she is hiding something from me and she feels awkward coz she knows she's guilty.Right now none of them think that someone found out about 'em , in this case ME,the last person they would want to know hehe.Basically what i'm trying to say is that she behaves like it would be an affair even though we are broken-up.

WHick makes me pretty curious of how she would react if she knew i know about 'em. Many times i am tempted to play min d games with them and make 'em spill the beans lol. Dafudge is wrong with me? o.O

Edited April 29, 2015 by AdamantyumKrystal

[CarrieT]

WHick makes me pretty curious of how she would react if she knew i know about 'em.

WHY? Why, why, why, why, why, why, why?

 

What do you care WHY or HOW she would react to anything you might know about her?

 

She broke up with you. She probably doesn't think about you at all. What makes you think she gives a hoot that you knew or not????

 

My goodness - stop obsessing! She has moved on. Why can't you?

[Simon Phoenix]

I think it would take her years to realise the lies and manipulations and I know she would not listen to me but right now i don't see other choiches.

 

Your choice is to LEAVE IT ALONE and let HER decide what's best for HER in HER LIFE! You are trying to be a white knight for someone who doesn't want to be saved. And honestly, what you are trying to do comes off pretty damn manipulative as well. All you are doing is trying to expose this guy for your own selfish agenda because you dated her and didn't like that she dumped you. How are you acting any better than this guy? You're being just as selfish as he is. If anything, what you want to do would be looked at in a worse light by her because you are trying to play it off as if you are looking out for her, when in reality you just want your girlfriend back because she made you feel good about herself.

 

Leave it alone and stop being the weird guy that doesn't take a hint. If this other guy is truly harmful to her she'll figure it out on your own. And when she does, she'd probably appreciate you more. But that will never happen if you keep trying to meddle and EXPOSE him. No matter how bad she eventually finds him to be, she'll find you just as bad or worse.

 

It's her life, not yours. Leave it alone.

[Chi townD]

Truth has been spoken.Yes it is not an affair but i couldn't find any other term for this "hidden relationship"? Even that we are not togheter anymore the way she behaves around me clearly shows that she is hiding something from me and she feels awkward coz she knows she's guilty.Right now none of them think that someone found out about 'em , in this case ME,the last person they would want to know hehe.Basically what i'm trying to say is that she behaves like it would be an affair even though we are broken-up.

WHick makes me pretty curious of how she would react if she knew i know about 'em. Many times i am tempted to play min d games with them and make 'em spill the beans lol. Dafudge is wrong with me? o.O

 

 

Dude, please tell me that you are still in NC with them. Please tell me you aren't hanging out with them...

[aliveagain]

She is not your problem anymore, quit trying to make her your problem, she fired you from that responsibility. You dodged a bullet yet you keep putting the gun to your head. If she's cheating and lying to you now how in the hell do you expect any kind of long term relationship working with her? What would she be like in 2, 5, 10 years time, how could you possibly keep her attention? We all see the truth and so do you. Until you stop wasting time on these deceitful people you will never meet the woman that is destined to come into your life.

 

You have been given pages and pages and pages of good advice. The best advice I can give you now is listen to the advice you have already been given, find a job, move out of your mom and dad's house. No independent and self respecting woman will take a guy who can't support himself and still lives with his mommy and daddy too seriously.

[Diezel]

At this point, it almost seems like you are enjoying all of this drama.

This is not healthy. Seek counseling. Go talk to a priest. Anything is better at this point than obsessing like this.

[frigginlost]

 

Why would i still care about her after all of these happenings? WEll first of all she was an important part of my life and she helped me grow as a person and become a better man.

 

The crap you took yesterday was an important part of your life at one time as it was the food that kept you alive...

 

... but you still flushed the toilet.

Edited April 29, 2015 by frigginlost

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Dude, please tell me that you are still in NC with them. Please tell me you aren't hanging out with them...

 

I'm not hanging with them, he called me today and i didn't answered. And i actually tried to see her once but she was busy,seldom we see on the street wave hello and dat's it.

NOw i am home alone for a few days so it's a friggin nightmare to face all this loneliness, i stay inside and play lol all freaking day like a lunatic so i can distract myself from those harmful thoughts. I wonder if i would still feel something for her if i get into a new relation-ship.

[Simon Phoenix]

I'm not hanging with them, he called me today and i didn't answered. And i actually tried to see her once but she was busy,seldom we see on the street wave hello and dat's it.

NOw i am home alone for a few days so it's a friggin nightmare to face all this loneliness, i stay inside and play lol all freaking day like a lunatic so i can distract myself from those harmful thoughts. I wonder if i would still feel something for her if i get into a new relation-ship.

 

Stop trying to see her!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, c'mon dude.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I'm not hanging with them, he called me today and i didn't answered. And i actually tried to see her once but she was busy,seldom we see on the street wave hello and dat's it.

NOw i am home alone for a few days so it's a friggin nightmare to face all this loneliness, i stay inside and play lol all freaking day like a lunatic so i can distract myself from those harmful thoughts. I wonder if i would still feel something for her if i get into a new relation-ship.

 

Create a website, or read a book.

Buy a fishing pool, and go buy a hook.

Take a hike around a trail near you,

Or just play league without feeling blue.

 

Do anything but acknowledge their existence anymore,

They aren't your friends, and she's just a little whore.

Quite obsessing about them, ask yourself - do you really care?

Move on with your life and ignore the deceitful pair.

 

I don't know how many times I have to repeat the same thing,

But if you want to torture yourself, be my guest, it'll sting,

Sooner or later, you'll learn there are 2 kinds of people in this life,

Those worth keeping around, and the others you leave in their own strife.

[fireflywy]

At this point, it almost seems like you are enjoying all of this drama.

This is not healthy. Seek counseling. Go talk to a priest. Anything is better at this point than obsessing like this.

 

Yes. Sounds like it here in the OPs case unfortunately.

 

This thread reminds of me this with the way the OP is going on. (Lol Watch the whole clip. Maybe you can empathize and learn the lesson being shown here.)

 

 

 

To the OP, "Blow up the damn ship!" aka leave her alone and LET IT GO!

Edited April 30, 2015 by fireflywy

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Stop trying to see her!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, c'mon dude.

 

have to give return her a book -_-..

[elaine567]

have to give return her a book -_-..

 

why???

......................

[Jessie1231]

have to give return her a book -_-..

 

Has she contacted you and asked for the book? Based on this thread, she hasn't contacted you at all so I think she's handling life fine without the book. Don't look for reasons to contact her. She's moved on with her life, you really need to do the same.

[Chi townD]

have to give return her a book -_-..

 

Give it to one of her friends to return it to her or drop it off in her mailbox. That book is just an excuse for you to see her. And it's lame excuse.

[AdamantyumKrystal]

I did it.I finally deleted her off from everything.I will not answer to them anymore if they look for me.It's time to start the real NC-period and actually heal myself.I seriously hope he's not gonna start bomb me with calls and texts coz i will not answer.

[Simon Phoenix]

have to give return her a book -_-..

 

And in a few days there will be another excuse, and another excuse, and another excuse. You're going to keep inventing excuses to orbit her and try to suck on to her.

[Chi townD]

I did it.I finally deleted her off from everything.I will not answer to them anymore if they look for me.It's time to start the real NC-period and actually heal myself.I seriously hope he's not gonna start bomb me with calls and texts coz i will not answer.

 

 

Good, that's your first step in the right direction. Now, take another step. How's the job hunting coming along?

[AdamantyumKrystal]

Good, that's your first step in the right direction. Now, take another step. How's the job hunting coming along?

 

First i have to pass the exam which will be in a few months.For that i have to study a lot, and latest months i haven't studied at all coz my mind was in other place. I just hope i can study a few hours a day and pass that exam.After i succeed i will finally leave this little town and my own life adventure exploring the world.. meeting new people... GIRLS?!?!! and possibly a potential girlfriend to wife material preferably.

Meeting new girls will be weird as i still have her in the corner of my mind.Does anyone else still has feelings for their first true love? I mean not like wanting to be with her right now and stay in a relation-ship , just loving her.. in a weird distant way.Loving the past maybe?

[frigginlost]

First i have to pass the exam which will be in a few months.For that i have to study a lot, and latest months i haven't studied at all coz my mind was in other place. I just hope i can study a few hours a day and pass that exam.After i succeed i will finally leave this little town and my own life adventure exploring the world.. meeting new people... GIRLS?!?!! and possibly a potential girlfriend to wife material preferably.

Meeting new girls will be weird as i still have her in the corner of my mind.Does anyone else still has feelings for their first true love? I mean not like wanting to be with her right now and stay in a relation-ship , just loving her.. in a weird distant way.Loving the past maybe?

 

There ya go! Now you're starting to sound good. Good job!

 

Don't look for love... it will find you. ;-)

 

And yes, I still remember my first love. We ended on a good note (no cheating, no fighting, etc. She went back to an old boyfriend. I was her rebound) so I can look back a smile and remember the good times.

 

In your case, my guess would be that you are not going to remember her very fondly... if at all. :-)

[AdamantyumKrystal]

And in a few days there will be another excuse, and another excuse, and another excuse. You're going to keep inventing excuses to orbit her and try to suck on to her.

 

Well it's hard to break an addiction but it's even harder to restrain love.I was NC for 3 months , i can do it again, and this time for good. Slowly i begin to realise it is the only way to heal my myself and make use of my mind again.

 

It feels like **** to be alone in such a period when i see everyone with lovers but what can i do... -_-

[Chi townD]

Well it's hard to break an addiction but it's even harder to restrain love.I was NC for 3 months , i can do it again, and this time for good. Slowly i begin to realise it is the only way to heal my myself and make use of my mind again.

 

It feels like **** to be alone in such a period when i see everyone with lovers but what can i do... -_-

 

 

You can join a running club. They go around as a group and do 5k, 10k, half marathons and fulls. They even do mud runs like Warrior Dash and Run for you Life. And afterwards, they party it up!

 

 

You can take dive lessons and get your dive certification and join a dive club. Go on trips with this club and dive coral reefs.

 

 

There are things that YOU CAN DO! But, having a job will make it easier to explore and enjoy life. We are in charge of our own happiness. You need to figure out what you need to do to make yourself happy.