Pinkdisney Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 (edited) BF and my 3 yr dating anniversary is coming up next month and BF has planned an entire day for us in the city this weekend. He even told me yesterday over the phone "5 more days" and it peaked my interest because he's never really been that vocal for something besides vacation before, and he even said he has dinner reservations planned somewhere nice. So of course I am expecting a proposal but I am no more than 40/60 about it happening. I don't want to ruin the fun day if it doesn't happen and come home from the city in tears when by all accounts it would be a great time regardless. Anyone else in the waiting stage for a proposal? What keeps you sane?? (We are both in our 40's, have FT jobs, live separately, I have kids so no bio clock is ticking). Edited April 22, 2015 by Pinkdisney Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 While we were dating, DH & I planned a cruise. Like you I was pretty sure he was going to propose on the trip but I was trying to keep my mind off it because I didn't want to ruin a great trip by being disappointed if it didn't happen. I took a lot of deep breathes & gave a lot of thought to what I would do if it didn't happen 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Bohonia Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Focus on the trip and make the most of it. Your expectations will what will cause you hurt. He has obviously planned this and is making it special for you, appreciate every moment of it without letting your mind linger on the unknown. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
georgia girl Posted April 22, 2015 Share Posted April 22, 2015 Our story was similar. My husband planned our vacation to a place that was special to him and planned a hike, dinner, etc. for one particular day. The day rolled around and there was no proposal. I was waiting a little bit the whole day but still really managed to enjoy myself. Later I found out - when he proposed a few days later - that my ring he had designed for me had not been delivered to him on time to ask me. It will be okay if he doesn't propose. Just have a good time! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LadyLee Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 So what happened!? Lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pinkdisney Posted April 30, 2015 Author Share Posted April 30, 2015 So what happened!? Lol It didn't happen Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 It didn't happen How do you feel about that? Was the trip nice otherwise? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pinkdisney Posted May 2, 2015 Author Share Posted May 2, 2015 How do you feel about that? Was the trip nice otherwise? Hindsight being 20/20 I definitely should not have gone into the day expecting it. It is hard to lie, I was disappointed and shouldn't have built this up in my head as I did. i won't do that again. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 3, 2015 Share Posted May 3, 2015 Sorry Pink Disney. Link to post Share on other sites
tinalooks808 Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Sorry to hear Link to post Share on other sites
nheeya Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 theres nothing we can do... im on the same page... it seems like im the only one daydreaming about marriage thing. but i cant give up the relationship...still hoping one day he will marry me... waiting in vane, yes! all because i love him Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 BF and my 3 yr dating anniversary is coming up next month and BF has planned an entire day for us in the city this weekend. He even told me yesterday over the phone "5 more days" and it peaked my interest because he's never really been that vocal for something besides vacation before, and he even said he has dinner reservations planned somewhere nice. So of course I am expecting a proposal but I am no more than 40/60 about it happening. I don't want to ruin the fun day if it doesn't happen and come home from the city in tears when by all accounts it would be a great time regardless. Anyone else in the waiting stage for a proposal? What keeps you sane?? (We are both in our 40's, have FT jobs, live separately, I have kids so no bio clock is ticking). Why would you come home in tears? Have you discussed that you guys plan to get married? I don't believe getting married is something you wait for indefinitely. It's something a couple agrees they plan to do and as the relationship gets serious you more or less agree that yes, we are going to get married. That way the day of the actual ritual of proposing is a surprise but it's not the same as just waiting year after year for a surprise proposal you've never talked about. Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 (((HUGS))) I hope you were still able to enjoy the experiences you had on the trip despite the disappointment. He obviously cares about you a lot since he went to the effort of planning the trip. Have you guys had any general discussions about what you hope to get out of dating? In other words are you on the same page in terms of where this might ultimately lead? Link to post Share on other sites
vrj Posted August 7, 2015 Share Posted August 7, 2015 it is simple just stay calm and enjoy your life Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 One of my friends was so sure her bf would propose when they recently went to Paris. She even kept me updated with day 1: no proposal...etc. He never proposed on that trip. But...he proposed a month later when they went for a casual walk and were standing at the place they first met. She wasn't expeciting it at all I wouldn't worry too much. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Goodness, people make such a big deal of this marriage thing... Many of those 'out' want to be 'in' while tons of those 'in' can't wait to be 'out'.... Seems folk are never really happy with where they actually are. By 'happy', I mean contented, satisfied and serene, making the most of every day.... If you want 'in' - why don't YOU propose? Buy HIM a promisory ring? A nice signet ring, or band with a small diamond, like this one... and ask him to marry you? Arrange something really nice, and spring it on him... Why does it always have to be the guy who does this?? So many threads from women who wait for years for the proposal that never comes.... Turn the tables - be the active one! Go for it!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 BF and my 3 yr dating anniversary is coming up next month and BF has planned an entire day for us in the city this weekend. He even told me yesterday over the phone "5 more days" and it peaked my interest because he's never really been that vocal for something besides vacation before, and he even said he has dinner reservations planned somewhere nice. So of course I am expecting a proposal but I am no more than 40/60 about it happening. I don't want to ruin the fun day if it doesn't happen and come home from the city in tears when by all accounts it would be a great time regardless. Anyone else in the waiting stage for a proposal? What keeps you sane?? (We are both in our 40's, have FT jobs, live separately, I have kids so no bio clock is ticking). As personal preference I would not propose to a man. It seems you are waiting for him to do so. Don't wait. You have two choices: Stay with him in uncertainty or leave him. My 2........leave. No man worth his weight will leave you with guessing/waiting. Link to post Share on other sites
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