Why do women feel they own you after you've slept together?

[alphamale]

So I met this woman a month ago at a singles event and we ended up sleeping together on the 2nd date.

 

On that 2nd date we were like getting hot 'n heavy and she says "I'm not having sex with you tonite". So I am getting ready to leave at about 2am and she pulls me back into her house and be both hit the floor and go at it. I stayed all nite and thru most of sunday. We did it again a few more times.

 

The sex was great, facials, hair pulling, every position. She is a sexual dynamo, some of the best sex i've ever had.

 

So this past sat was our 4th date and i slept over and same thing happened, we did it like 4 times, in the bedroom, kitchen, living rm, etc... she likes it hard and rough.

 

Then we are laying in bed and she says...."where are we going?", "r u sleeping with anyone else", "I want to see you more than just sat nites", "you are commitment phobic" (meaning me), "i want a relationship not just sex" (meaning her).

 

I told her it is way to early for this shyt and that she is getting too close too fast to me and that if she continues this I'll be out the door. I said to her that right now our relationship is just sexual but it could turn into more down the road, i mean, who knows what will happen, right?

 

Why do women always do this shyt? Why can't most of 'em just stay casual and why do they fall in love with you after they have sex???

[Stone]

Maby your just that good baby!!!

[HoldOn]

Why do women always do this shyt? Why can't most of 'em just stay casual and why do they fall in love with you after they have sex???

 

 

Ours is not to reason why, ours is but to do and die. It doesn't matter what the reason is, you should just accept it.

(But the reason is probably evolutionary and biological: Sex = babies = dependence on a man)

 

You should be honest with these women up front and tell them that you are not going to have a relationship with them.

 

Then we are laying in bed and she says...."where are we going?", "r u sleeping with anyone else", "I want to see you more than just sat nites", "you are commitment phobic" (meaning me), "i want a relationship not just sex" (meaning her).

 

But also, she should have asked these questions before f--king you. Hello! So, it's her fault too.

[EC]

Then we are laying in bed and she says...."where are we going?", "r u sleeping with anyone else", "I want to see you more than just sat nites", "you are commitment phobic" (meaning me), "i want a relationship not just sex" (meaning her).

 

 

 

 

But also, she should have asked these questions before f--king you. Hello! So, it's her fault too.

 

Ditto. Her fault too.

 

I agree though Alpha maybe your just that good lol?

 

But she has liked you from even since before you went on your date. She's liked you since before you even went up to her and said Hey my name is Alpha. And now she has you and has had sex with you and wants a commitment.

 

Just be honest with her..Could you see yourself with this woman though?

[alphamale]

Originally posted by HoldOn

But also, she should have asked these questions before f--king you. Hello! So, it's her fault too.

that is funny but true!!! On the first date she asked me if I am just looking for sex or a relationship and my response was "it depends on the woman". I have not led her on in any way at all and have been totally honest to cover my ass down the road.

 

I think she is usuing the great wild sex to "hook" me. Sorta like she thinks that I will think the sex is so fabulous (which it is!) that I'll stick around.

[Stone]

HUMMM If it's that good WILL you stick around?

[alphamale]

Originally posted by EC

I agree though Alpha maybe your just that good lol?

could be EC...I've never had too much trouble with women liking me and falling in love with me. usuually i have to get rid of them.

 

But she has liked you from even since before you went on your date. She's liked you since before you even went up to her and said Hey my name is Alpha.

this is the same woman i posted about a while back that took my business card when i asked her out but did not give me her contact info. then the next day i came into work she had sent me an email. i wrote her off cause she did not give me her # but was suprised when she did in fact email me like she said she would. doesn't happend too often.

 

 

Just be honest with her..Could you see yourself with this woman though?

too early to tell rite now EC. it has started off as a sexual thing and will most likely end as that.

[Merin]

I agree.. she should've asked these questions INCLUDING IF you were sleeping with anyone else if that was important to her BEFORE she started having sex with you.

[Pocky]

Originally posted by alphamale

Why do women always do this shyt? Why can't most of 'em just stay casual and why do they fall in love with you after they have sex???

 

Honestly, if you want casual sex, hire a hooker. The whole purpose of dating and getting to know people is to separate the unattainable from the attainable. You should know that by now, considering you're seasoned in the ways of women. There's always going to be a point at which she'll ask where this is going and if there is anything more than just a romp whenever you're in the mood. And as long as she's searching for Mr. Right, if you're not considering a relationship, you're just distracting from the process. Move along - you've been loitering too long.

[HoldOn]

too early to tell rite now EC. it has started off as a sexual thing and will most likely end as that.

 

Well, there's a reason not to have sex on the first date, ladies.

 

So, how would a woman know if you were actually interested in having a rel'p or if you're just trying to get into her pants? Just wondering.

 

 

Alpha, do you anticipate ever wanting a relationship? Do you think you'll want one when you meet the right woman?

[EC]

this is the same woman i posted about a while back that took my business card when i asked her out but did not give me her contact info. then the next day i came into work she had sent me an email. i wrote her off cause she did not give me her # but was suprised when she did in fact email me like she said she would. doesn't happend too often.

 

Right the one that had a friend and they both thought you were cute when they saw you at some thing lol. shes been stalking you Alpha..

 

But seriously I think its a turn off when a woman tries to use her sex alone to capture a man?

 

You had told her it depends on the woman..so I bet she took that as a challenge and thats why shes giving you all that wild sex.

 

LIke I said be completely honest with her..ifs shes cool with it then continue having wild sex..if not then move on. Im pretty sure you can find wild sex elsewhere. lol

 

I've never had too much trouble with women liking me and falling in love with me. usuually i have to get rid of them.

 

Join the club

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Nothing was established that you were exclusive. You have every right to f*** whoever you want. You should have said "Yes I am sleeping with other people, so what?" Thats what i say when someone asks me! I guess since the sex was so good, and that you were having a good time together, that she thought this might go somewhere and that you might feel the same way and chose not to sleep with someone else.

[whichwayisup]

Alpha, you know how women work, so this should not be a surprise to you. HELLO! Women can only have sex with a guy for so long before emotions come into play. (For you I agree with the others...She should have asked these questions earlier.) ...BUT...

 

How old is she? I bet she's at child bearing age and ready to see what's out there to settle down? Just wondering.

 

Maybe you should get a tshirt made up - Just good for afew F**ks...Nothing more, nothing less! (jking!)

 

You know the real reason why you're not gonna committ to anybody new...IT IS CUZ YOU have your love out there already but you both are TOO stubborn to really try to make it work!

[CurlyIam]

Some women do get emotionally involved if they sleep with a man on current basis. Human nature, we're made to procreate and keep the male near us to protect us from the others.

 

what do you want, Alpha? what the hell do you want? Her not to tell ya anything? Not to demand anything? sorry, this is not the fantasy world, that's real life.

 

What woman will let you sleep with her and then come and leave as you please? Make that an attractive, fairly intelligent, sain, single woman. Not to forget who's got no inhibitions in bed.

 

I think you've lead her on. If you had answered "I'm just looking for a good time", you would have been honest. 'Cause that's all you can give. A good time.

[Merin]

Originally posted by whichwayisup

 

 

You know the real reason why you're not gonna committ to anybody new...IT IS CUZ YOU have your love out there already but you both are TOO stubborn to really try to make it work!

 

Word!

[tiki]

Get it all out there and lay it out on the line. That way, there's no pre-conceived notions.

 

Has she set a wedding date?

 

Some gals think sex should only come with relationships. I'm one of those gals. BUT, I know where I stand if I'm giving up the flammables.

[whichwayisup]

Word!

 

NANANANA Alpha! That's two of us who can see right through ya!

[Merin]

Originally posted by whichwayisup

NANANANA Alpha! That's two of us who can see right through ya!

 

[hotgurl]

Why do women feel they own you after you've slept together?

 

Because the mechanics of sex are different for men than women. You are inside her penetrating her. this makes woman more vulnerable when having sex. Plus we have emotions & crap.

 

On the first date she asked me if I am just looking for sex or a relationship and my response was "it depends on the woman".

 

You gave a purposely ambiguous answer. So you wouldn't blow you chance of getting layed. She was trying to figure out what you wanted and this answer leaves it wide open so she can hope and dream it'll turn into something more. Obviously she digs you. You should have said I just looking for something casual and open for now. More up front and clear. Obviously she thinking she's the right woman.

[HoldOn]

You gave a purposely ambiguous answer. So you wouldn't blow you chance of getting layed. She was trying to figure out what you wanted and this answer leaves it wide open so she can hope and dream it'll turn into something more. Obviously she digs you. You should have said I just looking for something casual and open for now. More up front and clear. Obviously she thinking she's the right woman.

 

yep. that's what I was going to say.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by HoldOn

Alpha, do you anticipate ever wanting a relationship? Do you think you'll want one when you meet the right woman?

of course I do HOLDON, with the right woman who also wants me.

 

 

Originally posted by EC

LIke I said be completely honest with her..ifs shes cool with it then continue having wild sex..if not then move on.

OK, that sounds good EC

 

 

Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

Nothing was established that you were exclusive. You have every right to f*** whoever you want. You should have said "Yes I am sleeping with other people, so what?"

That's sorta hard to say to a woman after she's given u the BJ of the century and let you splooge all over her face.

 

 

Originally posted by whichwayisup

Alpha, you know how women work, so this should not be a surprise to you. HELLO! Women can only have sex with a guy for so long before emotions come into play.

yeah, but two freakin' weeks? WTF!

 

How old is she? I bet she's at child bearing age and ready to see what's out there to settle down? Just wondering.

She is 39, no kids, never married.

 

You know the real reason why you're not gonna committ to anybody new...IT IS CUZ YOU have your love out there already but you both are TOO stubborn to really try to make it work!

this could very likely be the case WWIU. But I cannot be with her anymore because it takes too much of an emotional toll on me. We've beat this dead horse many times.

 

 

Originally posted by CurlyIam

I think you've lead her on. If you had answered "I'm just looking for a good time", you would have been honest. 'Cause that's all you can give. A good time.

What do u mean C.I.A.??? I was honest. At that point in time I did not have enuf time/info about her to decide anything.

 

 

Originally posted by tiki

Has she set a wedding date?

No, but she's picked out the wedding dress fabric

 

 

Originally posted by hotgurl

You gave a purposely ambiguous answer. So you wouldn't blow you chance of getting layed. She was trying to figure out what you wanted and this answer leaves it wide open so she can hope and dream it'll turn into something more.

I did not give an ambiguous answer HOTGURL. I gave an honest answer with the limited info I had at the time.

[moimeme]

considering you're seasoned in the ways of women

 

If he was, he wouldn't be so surprised at this development. If you'd read any of my oxytocin posts, [color=orange]ALPHAMALE[/color] you'd have read about all the hormones the body kicks into play when people have sex. Unfortunately, they work more efficiently on women than they do on men and what they do is create the urge to bond emotionally.

 

So quit playing the innocent.

 

I did not give an ambiguous answer HOTGURL. I gave an honest answer with the limited info I had at the time.

 

This is just bogus. You know damn well how she'd interpret it - hopefully. Next time, if you want to claim you're an honest man and be believed, tell the woman 'I am just in this for the sex. There is a very remote possibility that I might want a relationship too, at some point, but I wouldn't count on it. If you're still interested in having sex on those terms, let's go'.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by moimeme

This is just bogus. You know damn well how she'd interpret it - hopefully. Next time, if you want to claim you're an honest man and be believed, tell the woman 'I am just in this for the sex. There is a very remote possibility that I might want a relationship too, at some point, but I wouldn't count on it. If you're still interested in having sex on those terms, let's go'.

If you've only known someone for seven days how would you make a determination on what type of relationship u want with them.

[Adunaphel]

Hotgurl and moimeme, that was very well said.

[moimeme]

You don't. And you tell them exactly what I said to tell them. That you have no idea, that the chance there'll be a relationship is remote but not impossible.