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tokyo Established Member

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[size=huge][color=#FF6666]CHEERS[/color] for [color=#009900]CURLY, HOTGURL, MOIMEME[/color] :bunny:

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alphamale Established Member

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Originally posted by moimeme

You don't. And you tell them exactly what I said to tell them. That you have no idea, that the chance there'll be a relationship is remote but not impossible.

there is an excellent chance of a relationship with the right woman. but how do I know she is the right woman after one week???

tiki Established Member

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Originally posted by alphamale

how do I know she is the right woman after one week???

 

Because she's not sleeping with you. ;)

 

People give up the goods waaayy too easily. All in the name of a 'lay'.

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People give up the goods waaayy too easily. All in the name of a 'lay'.

right TIKI...and then she has the balls to tell me that I'm afraid of commitment when I was already married for 3 yrs and she has NEVER been married and is 39 yrs old! :laugh:

Linlin Established Member

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Alpha,

 

I kind of have to agree with you somewhat.

 

If you get involved with someone and are honest I don't see the problem. I have a FWB for 4 months. Although I have friends feelings for him and care what happens to him. I am not in love with him and will never expect a romantic relationship with him. He is not right for me or my children to be invloved in our lives as a companion/parent.

 

We had a discussion on the weekend about what will probably happen with us. Either we will just drift apart or I will get a boyfriend and have to end it. He is a perpetual bachelor, irresponsible and will never marry and I am in no rush to get into a relationship again. So it works for us in a limited context.

 

I really guess it depends on the people and the situations and the life experiences that they have.

 

Then again, I always say I should have been a man, since I tend to behave emotionally like one sometimes.

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alphamale Established Member

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Originally posted by Linlin

Then again, I always say I should have been a man, since I tend to behave emotionally like one sometimes.

Thanks LINLIN for you input. But to deprive your feminine charm and beauty to all of manhood would be the ultimate misfortune.

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well she did it on purpose.

 

figuring you would, commit so you could countinue having great sex.

 

two months from now, it will be sat. night chic flicks and fondue.....and long talks and cuddling. rarely sex, nothing like it was that first night.

 

Run like the wind, ALPHA, it is a trap.

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

Run like the wind, ALPHA, it is a trap.

I think you are right LRB. I have been thinking the same thing myself. In addition she says that she cannot take the pill cause it causes hi blood pressure. Then she said she does not want to have kids but would not mind having sex without a rubber as long as we use the "rhythm method".

 

I'm getting the funny feeling she wants to get knocked up. I mean, whould a woman who does not want kids have sex w/o a condom and not be on the pill at the same time?

laRubiaBonita Established Member

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Originally posted by alphamale

 

I think you are right LRB. I have been thinking the same thing myself. In addition she says that she cannot take the pill cause it causes hi blood pressure. Then she said she does not want to have kids but would not mind having sex without a rubber as long as we use the "rhythm method".

 

I'm getting the funny feeling she wants to get knocked up. I mean, whould a woman who does not want kids have sex w/o a condom and not be on the pill at the same time?

 

 

i would not, with any dude i had only known a week, and knew he was only after sex..... that is just to risky for me.

Linlin Established Member

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Originally posted by alphamale

But to deprive your feminine charm and beauty to all of manhood would be the ultimate misfortune.

 

Thanks Alpha, I appreciate it.

 

All I am saying is that different relationships serve different purposes depending on your situation.

 

FWB and I are upfront. There can't be in "in love with each other" feelings or one of us will get hurt. In fact, it started off just as ONS sex and has developed into this strange sort of friendship where we do go out as a couple but we are not a couple. He told me the first night that he wouldn't marry me and I laughed and told him I wasn't looking for a husband. We don't discuss dating other people or sleeping with other people, but we know it is going on. I will miss his friendship when all is said and done.

 

If the girl you are seeing can't handle something like this, I would end it. It will only get messier. Tred very light here my friend. I would have a talk again and if she doesn't listen, I would run.

 

I do disagree with some people about the sex thing. Just because you give up the goods quickly and enjoy sex, doesn't mean that you are not relationship material. Some people to me are more sexual than others. Then again, I have been married before and I have no clock ticking. With me, what you see is what you get. Not everyone is like this.

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Run Alpha run!~

 

Freak that she knew what she was doing when she got into it with you. Then she figured if she gave you good sex all of a sudden a light bulb would go off in your head saying yeah I want her! Well it isn't so. I'm telling you she took that comment you made as a challenge. She also hasn't been married and is lokoing for 'the one' and you are not really looking. You more like if it happens it'll happen.

 

I say continue being honest.

 

She let you splurge in her face after knowing you for a week? :sick::eek:

Linlin Established Member

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Originally posted by alphamale

. Then she said she does not want to have kids but would not mind having sex without a rubber as long as we use the "rhythm method".

 

I'm getting the funny feeling she wants to get knocked up. I mean, whould a woman who does not want kids have sex w/o a condom and not be on the pill at the same time?

 

 

Run Forrest, run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

FWB and I don't use anything. But I have an IUD and we both have recently been tested for STI/AIDS.

 

We have an agreement, that if either of us sees anyone else, we wrap it up!

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Originally posted by alphamale

:laugh: that is funny but true!!! On the first date she asked me if I am just looking for sex or a relationship and my response was "it depends on the woman".

 

well, if you understand women, you understand that she took that as "oh, he means me, i'm the one he wants to be with foever!!! (say that in a squealy voice to yourself and that's what you've got.)

 

:laugh:

 

also, if she gave you the best BJ ever and let you splooge in her face that you were afraid to be honest, you need to decide which is more worth it, telling her the truth and risk not getting more BJ's, or getting into a relationship in order to get more of them...

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Ahh, this is such a funny thread Alpha baby! :p

 

Run like the wind, ALPHA, it is a trap.

 

It's her Vagina plan...Trap ya after 2 weeks! Then make you fall inlove, give you head and let ya splooge on her face... :laugh:

 

this could very likely be the case WWIU. But I cannot be with her anymore because it takes too much of an emotional toll on me. We've beat this dead horse many times.

 

I hear ya.

 

there is an excellent chance of a relationship with the right woman. but how do I know she is the right woman after one week???

 

You don't. Just keep being honest with her when she wants to talk about it (oh and she will too! ;) ) and be honest with yourself. Don't stay with her if you don't feel it could progress into something more serious...Even if she gives good head and is good in bed!

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Originally posted by whichwayisup

Just keep being honest with her when she wants to talk about it (oh and she will too! ;) ) and be honest with yourself. Don't stay with her if you don't feel it could progress into something more serious...Even if she gives good head and is good in bed!

And use a CONDOM, ALPHA!

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alphamale Established Member

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita

And use a CONDOM, ALPHA!

I hate rubbers, LRB!!! It's like trying to sleep whilst inside a space suit.

whichwayisup Established Member

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I hate rubbers, LRB!!! It's like trying to sleep whilst inside a space suit.

 

Yeah, space suits are really uncomfy eh! You're cracking me up laughing now! :laugh:

GirlDown Established Member

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Originally posted by whichwayisup

 

 

Yeah, space suits are really uncomfy eh! You're cracking me up laughing now! :laugh:

 

i'd still rather be in a space suit than have a gross baby, especially with someone i don't care enough about to be with.

 

ew.

 

don't knock her up alpha...don't do it!!

 

she's too needy for you anyway...it'll get worse. if she says she doesn't mind not using a condom, ask her to get her tubes tied.

 

otherwise, it's bye bye BJ's, hello Barney... :sick:

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alphamale Established Member

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Originally posted by GirlDown

she's too needy for you anyway...it'll get worse.

 

I agree she is too needy, GIRLDOWN. She like gives me massages and makes me all this great food, going waaaaay overboard, what do I want to eat, how should it be cooked, when u want to eat, etc... She stocked her liquor cabinet with Jack Daniels and Bacardi which are my favorites. Wierd shyt. SHe is acting waaaay to desperate after only 3 or 4 weeks of knowing me. And then the sex, she is like "do whatever u want to me baby" and all that sheeyat.

 

Then when I was watchin TV she's like "oh baby, let me get u an ottoman so u can put yer feet up" and "oh, do you want a beer while u watch the pope's conclave?"

 

Man, I'm like WTF! I'm used to being treated like shyt by women. All this niceness and attention is a red flag 4 me. :laugh:

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She is pouring it on. Making you meals, doing stuff for you...It's a classic 'giver' situation...Then if you don't do something that she asks - BOOM all those 'nice things' she's done for you is gonna bite you in the ass! Then you'll say I didn't ASK you to DO all that for me...You know the drill on this one too Alpha.

 

Well, I guess soon enough you'll be posting about the breakup and her reactions...

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Let's hope we don't see "Alpha and child" as a future thread, otherwise my investment in condom shares might plummet.

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alphamale Established Member

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Originally posted by whichwayisup

Well, I guess soon enough you'll be posting about the breakup and her reactions...

yes I agree WWIU, should not be longer than a wk or two. i hate desperate and needy people, especially up front when you are getting to know one another. It is like....what is she hiding and why is she being so nice and attentive?

 

Maybe I'll just string her along for the sex until I find someone else.

whichwayisup Established Member

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Maybe I'll just string her along for the sex until I find someone else.

 

You are such a bad bad boy! :p

Linlin Established Member

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Originally posted by alphamale

Maybe I'll just string her along for the sex until I find someone else.

 

I think you'd be better off going elsewhere or let the palm sisters take care of it.

 

If you string her along, she might turn out to be a fatal attraction. :eek:

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god dammit Apha, not all women are like that!

I intimated this in my prior post, which I believe you commented on.

 

Not all women think you're special just because she had an orgasim with you.

 

Maybe it's just this one, or maybe you attract that type of women.

Men can "feel like they own you" after sex as well.

 

There are plenty of men out there that feel ownership of a woman after they have sex with a woman, and they get quite possessive and out of hand sometimes. We ladies deal with that sh*t too.

 

Why don't you tell her flat out you don't give a f*ck about her (in a nicer way of course). Don't say, "Oh, I don't know just yet, don't push me". You're just opening yourself up for more hassles with her.

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