Are these good signs my ex may still be in love with me? your thoughts??

[Anthony90]

also if this means anything, i did try the NC rule and 2 weeks later she messaged me and engaged in conversation again. after this is when we started to get to this level.

[Simon Phoenix]

also if this means anything, i did try the NC rule and 2 weeks later she messaged me and engaged in conversation again. after this is when we started to get to this level.

 

It's not No Contact if you answer. If you are going to go No Contact, that means No Contact. You didn't go No Contact, you just didn't initiate contact. As soon as she did, you answered. That's not No Contact.

[fireflywy]

thank you to all replies.

 

wow this really hits home on the situation. you guys are right, im looking for justifcation as to what im doing is the right thing. things seems to be going in a positive manner but there is always doubt in my mind that it will never be again. maybe i am on over anxious person.

 

 

as to what was said above, should i be doing this ASAP or still spend a bit more time with her having fun and showing her how good we are.

 

we have been messaging today and she just said in one of her replies when i said id love to take care of you and look after you while you recover from being sick

 

she replied

 

trust me you have done and look after me enough. you did more then enough actually so thank you so much! (p.s so cute you cooked me dinner the other night) :) good to know your well babes! all i want is to get better and start gym again!! i hate being sick

 

Anthony, you have people saying she's using you, you have people saying stick to NC, you have me saying address the situation. In other places on this board you will have other people say that YOU as the dumper have to do all the moves to earn trust.

 

The truth is, none of us here know everything. The man who only posts one time can have more wisdom then the person who posts 10,000 times but at the end of the day, you can't have a relationship by committee for YOUR ultimate decisions. You have to decide what YOU want from here based on what you know or any insights you gain from being here or where you are out there.

 

If you want to take more time as it is while keeping in the back of your mind all the possibilities (reconciliation, her leading you on, leaving her, etc) then do so. If you want answers, with those same possibilities in mind, and you think it will give you more peace of mind to know one way or the other, then ask her.

 

Only YOU can make the decision. What does YOUR intuition tell you?

Edited April 23, 2015 by fireflywy

[trippi1432]

Anthony, on this forum you will get a lot of different advice....from people who have been hurt, and people who actually know how to love, you have to take it at face value. fireflywy, gives some good advice..........step back from the situation and really evaluate what you want. Your compassion is evident and you are doing nothing wrong in the realm of wanting a compatible relationship.

 

I think what happens, in the processing phase of reality, is a bit of a narcissistic phase...putting you first. Some people never move out of it because it is about control. What a lot of people forget, when you are sharing a life, nobody has control...it's shared responsibility.

 

My advice, you know her and you know you....we don't. I've not seen anything yet in your posts to change what you are doing...the line in the sand is when you really want to move on.....my ADVICE: as an ultimatum....you will lose, that is where your experience with her is important.

Edited April 23, 2015 by trippi1432

[casey.lives]

Once people who are attracted to each other are "friends" the possibilities are endless. Yes, it's a wonderful sign!!!! You value her as a person, it's natural to want to stay friends. Just be the best friend a girl can have.. and soon... she'll be back in your arms. Good Luck, Cheers!!