How to stop wanting another chance

[Clarkwg]

I was in a long term relationship for nearly a decade & we have a child together. The relationship was very on & off throughout most of our time together yet none of us ever got involved with anyone else during our off time as we kind of knew we would end up back together as we always did.

 

Now our last break up was in November & this time she has moved on & got involved with a new man who she claims makes her the happiest she has been for years. Then a month ago she said she had dumped him & started texting & ringing me with irrelevant stuff, anyway we ended up spending time together & becoming close again for her to then drop me & get back with her new bloke.

Our relationship was far from being a perfect one, she is not a good person either & in this latest episode I believe she absolutely used me & emotionally abused me so with all that in mind I should never ever want her ever again right? But it's not that simple, although I hate how she has made me feel I do believe she has the powers of manipulation over me like no other so how can I make her never want me or lead me on ever again?

 

Iv no doubt this latest relationship won't last as hers never do, her longest ever is 2 years apart from me, I guess that's because I was a mug & took more crap from her than any other bloke was ever prepared to but Iv really had enough now & I need her to never darken my door again.

 

We do have a child so I will need to see her a few seconds per week for pick up & drop off but apart from that what else can I do to move on before she starts bothering me again whilst I'm still vulnerable to her because right now I know she could get me even though it's not what my head wants.

Any advice would be great thanks.

Edited April 26, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[No Limit]

Time for you to set up boundaries. In almost a decade she's never behaved like a girlfriend to you, so she's no girlfriend material. Ergo you should stop entertaining relationship stuff. If she bothers you, you ignore it. You keep things polite and friendly for the sake of your daughter, but that's it. No sex, no comforting her, nothing like that.