frs1627 Posted April 27, 2015 Share Posted April 27, 2015 So me and my girl broke up after 2.5 years. We are 24 and established in our careers The thing is the last 6 months were bumpy and we tried to fix things but would always argue over little stuff. When we broke up we had a talk. There's was no fighting. No words to disrespect one another. Just tears on both parties. We agreed that it was best to take time to ourselves and work on ourselves. She came to terms with her bipolar type 2 and is going to seek professional help. She's going to spend more time with her family and try to harder stop her bad habits (smoking and drinking) Me...I'm going to go back to the gym and work out harder than ever. I'm going to try and get my board certification for my job. I love her so much that in order for her to be happy with herself and to work through her issues...I had to let go. Like I said it was mutual and peaceful. We hugged, kissed, and had sex...she lost it and was crying ballistically. Then that was it. I hope that we can get back together and I already know what to do....NC.... If anyone can relate.... Please respond... Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted April 27, 2015 Share Posted April 27, 2015 Sorry that things haven't worked out well for you. If you decide to go NC, be aware that it's a tool for healing, rather than a 'strategy' for getting someone back. Put your energy into yourself, and the future will be good, with or without your girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author frs1627 Posted April 27, 2015 Author Share Posted April 27, 2015 Sorry that things haven't worked out well for you. If you decide to go NC, be aware that it's a tool for healing, rather than a 'strategy' for getting someone back. Put your energy into yourself, and the future will be good, with or without your girlfriend. Thank you. I'm aware that its a tool for myself. I learned the hard way after my other break up. Its just not something that's easy to do. But I will try. I don't have the need or feeling to be texting her and I want to move forward in some way. Link to post Share on other sites
tobrieornottobrie Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 It's always hard to know what to do in these sorts of situations. I'm sorry that you've gone through so much. Would you be open to the idea of speaking with a professional counselor or therapist about this situation? Just something to think about. I hope it gets better for you, friend. the brie's cheese knees Link to post Share on other sites
Author frs1627 Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 It's always hard to know what to do in these sorts of situations. I'm sorry that you've gone through so much. Would you be open to the idea of speaking with a professional counselor or therapist about this situation? Just something to think about. I hope it gets better for you, friend. the brie's cheese knees I know it would be of some help...but I don't think its necessary. I'm trying to fill the void with positive actions towards self growth. I know everything is going to be OK in the end. I just want the happy ending of reunification... Link to post Share on other sites
tobrieornottobrie Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 I'm sure it's hard for you right now, hang in there. Focus on doing some of the things that you really enjoy... It's great that you're working out and working on that board certification. Do you like to read? Do you have any friends nearby that you can hang out with? Hang in there! the brie's cheese knees Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 You are not alone in dealing with such things. In fact... have you checked out all the boards forums and websites specifically for dealing with relationships involving bipolar people? So me and my girl broke up after 2.5 years. We are 24 and established in our careers The thing is the last 6 months were bumpy and we tried to fix things but would always argue over little stuff. When we broke up we had a talk. There's was no fighting. No words to disrespect one another. Just tears on both parties. We agreed that it was best to take time to ourselves and work on ourselves. She came to terms with her bipolar type 2 and is going to seek professional help. She's going to spend more time with her family and try to harder stop her bad habits (smoking and drinking) Me...I'm going to go back to the gym and work out harder than ever. I'm going to try and get my board certification for my job. I love her so much that in order for her to be happy with herself and to work through her issues...I had to let go. Like I said it was mutual and peaceful. We hugged, kissed, and had sex...she lost it and was crying ballistically. Then that was it. I hope that we can get back together and I already know what to do....NC.... If anyone can relate.... Please respond... Bipolar type 2 first hypomania then major depression. So she's up and she's down. The thing lots of folks don't get with someone like this, for whatever the underlying reason, is that when they are UP they are as additctive as cocaine to be around. When they are down they are so broken, it is either a total turn off, or if you are a fixer you want to get them UP again. I can relate. See my threads where I describe a relationship I had a while back with an erratic woman who comes back into my life time and again. She has never been, to my knowledge, diagnosed with anything. She did have the up and down cycle. One week or month not sleeping for days on end, full of life and energy. The next week or month being down on everything and everyone (especially me), eating lots one week then starving herself. Then the next week crazy hot sex, then the next week "dont' touch me". I know all to well. They have their good side and their bad side and the switch from one to the other, nothing in moderation. All you can do is NC move on with your life and IF and only IF she contacts you and YOU want her back as part of your life should you consider taking her back. While it is true NC is about you healing you this board is about second chances not break ups. So you have some interest in getting back with her. Go NC, get on with your life, heal, be open to meeting new people, have fun and meet someone who either does not have those issues or has dealt with them. It is so easy to say that and mean it when it is not you and someone you claimed to love. I know that. You will fail to be totally NC. If it helps come here and talk to us instead of to her (In the board on coping there is a thread just for that). Use this board to vent all you need to. I do. It has kept me sane. This makes some people on the board think things are worse than they are well whatever. Use this board to get it off your chest. Check out the boards out there where are specifically for people with diagnosed bipolar BF/GF/DH/DW or exBF exGF exH exW. They will know this even better than we here. Link to post Share on other sites
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