help me please!!!

[GHOSTBUSTA]

my girlfriend likes me & knows that i wont leave her. But she brought up a subject of wanting to see other guys like something like a open relationship but what makes it worst is that during that period if it happened, she wanted me as well what should i do????

[Ms Understood]

my girlfriend likes me & knows that i wont leave her. But she brought up a subject of wanting to see other guys like something like a open relationship but what makes it worst is that during that period if it happened, she wanted me as well what should i do????

I can't really imagine how you must feel. I get the feeling your girlfreind is becoming curios about herself, wondering if she can be the Witch of Seduction. I am completley against open relationships but if that is what makes people happy then thats what happens.

 

You are obviously not ready for this kind of emotional upset in what seemed like a stable relationship. Let her go. I get the feeling she may only use you for sex when she can't get it anywhere else. I believe sex, or making love should not be cheapened and have very strong opinions on this. Sex is something special and should not be cheapened. This is what she is doing.

 

If you think you can cope with an unreliable relationship and 'sharing' the owman you love then Good Luck.

 

But you will be a stronger man if you say 'No, you're mine and only mine' or simply, 'Goodbye'

[Tony T]

Go with your feelings. If this is something you won't tolerate, tell her goodbye. She is jerking you around big time, playing you for a fool. Probably testing your butt.

 

If you don't stand up to her and tell her if that's what she really wants, it's over between you and her she will see you as a wimp forever.

 

There is the remote chance she is just very dumb and thought she could get away with this. But the fact remains that you are seeing a lady who has a desire to date other men. To me, she's kind of wanting you to break up with her instead of her having to do the dirty work.

[sparkle]

I agree! Don't let her push you around. If you don't like the idea of her dating other guys at the same time as you, nicely tell her to take a hike.

 

Tell her good luck dating other guys, but that you're not going to put up with it. Let her know that she's not the type of girl you are looking for, and end it quickly. Only then will she see that you can speak up for yourself and express how you feel about her idea without being scared of her. Maybe then she'll show you some respect.

 

In the future, don't let girls jerk you around. If they're doing something that you don't like, tell them right away. And if they continue to do it, move on and find a new girl. There are still plenty of single chicks around that are looking for a relationship with one guy...and one guy only.

[Miss Mojo]

hi ghostbusta,

 

i think "open relationships" are the biggest load of crap. they are a poor excuse for wanting to have your cake and eat too. it's a bit like, "yeah, i really like this guy, but this way i can hang on to him while i see other people".

 

i know some people out there would disagree with me, and fair enough.

 

i would NEVER put myself in the position of being somone's reserve, which is basically what you would be if you continued a "relationship" with her while she saw other guys.

 

you obvioulsy want a monogamous relationship, and my advice would be don't settle for second best. there are heaps and heaps of girls out there who want a monagomous relationship too. she doesn't seem to be one of them.

 

spare yourself some heartache and let her go. to stay with her while she dates other people is going to wreak havoc with your emotions. relationships do not work when two people want different things.

 

the fact that she knows you won't leave her, will only give her reason to think she can get away with anything because you will take her back. do you really want this? i feel she is playing mind games with you here.

 

to stay with her while she wants to see other guys is setting yourself up for some BIG TIME hurt. if you can't handle her seeing other guys, do the courageous thing and tell her "bye bye". yes, it will hurt to leave her, but not half as much as it will if you stay with her as her "reserve".

 

stand up for what you want. tell her "it's my way or the highway", and if she doesn't want to date you exclusively, you know where she'll be heading - and it won't be in your direction.