ascendotum Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 It was only a matter of time. Women are not too shy. If you are good looking, they will let you know about it. Yep. If you hang around any good looking masculine guys this century its like the dating life for the typical average woman . Opportunities are popping all the time and while many of the women are not outright asking them out, they will often find an excuse to casually initiate conversations and once they get a feel that the guys ok, then the IOIs come on thick (alcohol ramps up the flirting so even good looking aspergers dude wont miss it). Good looking but geeky or shy guys may start a bit late from the starting line, but its only a matter of time as women look around as to who is single & available. D's friend who has women gawking at him, if that was normal I cant imagine a guy like that get to 30 with no gf unless he works with all males and doesn't socialise much. If the women glancing at him are not that attractive and the guy only has eyes for pretty peitte blondes, then they might not register. Link to post Share on other sites
Gwwm123 Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 Necris I completely agree with you. My mom tells me the same thing, you have to date other woman you might not find attractive initially, you never know what might happen. I dont think i have high standards for woman, I dont mind if they are short, chubby, tall, long hair, short hair, blue or brown eyes, blonde or brunette but I do like them with big breasts and somewhat good looking. I have a friend that tells me I could do a lot better than that but that is what I like. I do not think it is fair to date someone you dont find attractive, not for you not for them. It is true your chances do shrink, even more if you want that model type (which I find very very unattractive). If you want to just fool around and have a good time then I would say go for whatever sticks as long as you are honest to that person and knows that you are not going to take things to a different level. For me I want a relationship, and I am not going to settle for a girl I dont find attractive enough for me to give her my love to, and I hope she doesnt either. Not with that said, that does not mean I base things purely on looks. She mightbe my type physically but if emotionally I do not connect with her then I am out, as it has happened twice before. Link to post Share on other sites
csny111 Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 Well, generally I believe you should be fair when it comes to looks, and a lot of guys try going out of their league. Might not be a popular opinion, but if you are 875 lbs, you're probably not gonna get a girl who is 120. Just kind of a fact of life. You might, but for us that are 120, we'd appreciate it if you'd steer clear of us. Link to post Share on other sites
caltron Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 Well, generally I believe you should be fair when it comes to looks, and a lot of guys try going out of their league. Might not be a popular opinion, but if you are 875 lbs, you're probably not gonna get a girl who is 120. Just kind of a fact of life. You might, but for us that are 120, we'd appreciate it if you'd steer clear of us. For someone who purports to be religious you sure don't sound it, basing it on looking. Yet another hypocrite. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 One just has to look at the difference in attitude on display when the people on this message board reply to struggling men and struggling women. It's like night and day. A struggling man's best way to success is to emulate those men in his REAL WORLD who are doing well with women. Arguing with bored office workers and house wives on a message board won't help you anymore than trying to get with women you find unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 I don't know either. It's dangerous to make the assumption that a woman is globally unattractive. There's always going to be someone better looking or at least as good looking as you who will find her sexy and attractive. And women know that. Sooner or later you're going to be dumped or, worse, cheated on, by the woman you settled for, and your friends are going to make fun of you for all eternity. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Necris Posted May 1, 2015 Author Share Posted May 1, 2015 Investigate "Mindfulness" Mindfulness Helps People Live with Schizophrenia - Mad In America MIndfulness has also been proven to help in OCD and anxiety too. I also heard meditation could help, not sure where to start though. Link to post Share on other sites
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