Benefits of Marrying Out of Your Race

[Donate]

I think by now most every race of people are aware the Earth is populated with a variety of different cultures. Sadly some still think their race should be the only one, but this leads me into my next statement.

 

Seeing how cultures grow and solidify themselves and become cultural 'norms', I feel that many people 'very good people' don't fit into these 'norms' and seek to find Love elsewhere in the World.

 

I was one of those people, growing up in Detroit, being a typical cultural stereotypical black male some 30+ years ago I found the existence to be not fitting with the world view of normality. So off to college I went, Museums, art festivals, language study etc. Needless to say, I quickly outgrew my wife at the time. Word to the Wise: We all keep growing, so make sure you and your partner grow together in like directions.

 

As I outgrew my partner, our differences began to become glaring and unacceptable leading to highlight personal attributes that just would not and could not change. So the inevitable divorce came and went. During my single years, I continued to grow, I traveled more and earned a second degree and started to date like minded people....low and behold they were not my same race.....Hmmmm

 

Still I ventured into where ever fate led me, cautiously. Met and dated a Irish female from a 100% full blooded Irish family [accent and all]. Very interesting experience. Whites, Italians, Korean, Mexican and Japanese...hmmm they were all different culturally speaking yet all shared common characteristics being women and human of course. Yet having been there and done that, the common thread, the need for Love persisted. Except for some attributes that were distinctly not American....the womans duty at home.

 

IMO, the poison to America is 'Women's Liberation' getting the woman out of the house and into the Work force....along with everything that comes with it. For some reason, in America the very notion of a 'House Wife' has come to be a dirty word, a shame, an insult, a slap in the face. Women in American want it all, they want to be able to make money, they want the mans money and everything in between...all the while not wanting to accept the responsibility of taking care of the home and raising the children. Kids are at the day-care, meals are purchased on the way home, the traditional family structure is gone. My ex-wife had no idea how to pick fresh vegetables from the market and many women these days can't and don't cook at all...and do so with pride.

 

In comes other cultures and races. Many of these traditional values are still alive in other races. My wife, who is Japanese takes pride in cooking and any home chore yet is open and ready to fit into modern society as a working woman. Most every woman I met who were not Americanized held to the traditional notion of a family unit. Which is great for the man who appreciates it and is willing to help and do their part in not over taxing their women. Simple things like helping with the laundry, cooking once in awhile, picking up things from the grocery store [without being asked], or even making them coffee/tea or giving them a relaxing moment, rockets you above and beyond everything their mothers etc have ever experienced.

 

Now with my new wife, we both have traveled the world. Still continued our education, both having Masters Degrees and both continue to reach out for new growth in our lives as professionals and at home. Still, nothing is more important the HOME, nothing is more important than US. Looking outside ones on race can have benefits.

Edited April 27, 2015 by Donate

[Auspecial]

This seems like a very over-simplified viewpoint of women.

 

For example, both myself and my housemate are unmarried working women. We both maintain the house and feed ourselves and pay our own bills. She currently has a boyfriend, but she likes going dutch with him. I don't currently have a boyfriend.

 

If I am not out in the workforce, how will I pay my bills? How will I eat? How will I maintain my house?

 

So many men out there seem to have the split notion that if a woman doesn't have a lot her own money, she is automatically a gold digger. But if she is working, she is a feminist shrew. But if she stays at home and takes care of the house, she is living off the mans dime.

 

It seems the only suitable woman to these guys is either an independently wealthy celebrity who buys him lavish gifts, or a woman from another country who is "submissive."

 

What about the millions of women out there like me, who support themselves because....that's what people do, if they want to survive and thrive.

 

I'm not going to go stand on the street and beg for money, or hope some man will come along and pay my bills.

 

I am going to work.

[Diezel]

 

So many men out there seem to have the split notion that if a woman doesn't have a lot her own money, she is automatically a gold digger. But if she is working, she is a feminist shrew. But if she stays at home and takes care of the house, she is living off the mans dime.

 

You said "many", not "all".

 

Find one that doesn't think like that.

[Donate]

This seems like a very over-simplified viewpoint of women.

 

For example, both myself and my housemate are unmarried working women. We both maintain the house and feed ourselves and pay our own bills. She currently has a boyfriend, but she likes going dutch with him. I don't currently have a boyfriend.

 

If I am not out in the workforce, how will I pay my bills? How will I eat? How will I maintain my house?

 

So many men out there seem to have the split notion that if a woman doesn't have a lot her own money, she is automatically a gold digger. But if she is working, she is a feminist shrew. But if she stays at home and takes care of the house, she is living off the mans dime.

 

It seems the only suitable woman to these guys is either an independently wealthy celebrity who buys him lavish gifts, or a woman from another country who is "submissive."

 

What about the millions of women out there like me, who support themselves because....that's what people do, if they want to survive and thrive.

 

I'm not going to go stand on the street and beg for money, or hope some man will come along and pay my bills.

 

I am going to work.

 

Seems that you missed the whole point of my post.

 

Its not about money or men taking care of women...in fact its not about money at all.

[davidromero43]

I think it is like sales. If I have a pool of 500 potential customers. But I only reach out to 100. I'm missing out on 400 more potential sales.

[Hope Shimmers]

I have no idea, based on the text of your post, what any of that has to do with benefits of marrying outside of your race.

 

What are you getting at? And BTW, you called her your "new wife" in this thread, and talked about how wonderful your relationship is, yet in another thread you started today also, you said you have been married for 11 years and you are looking for an affair.

 

You clearly have problems.

[Auspecial]

You said "many", not "all".

 

Find one that doesn't think like that.

 

I was trying to be politically correct.

 

But actually, I do know some decent guys out there with common sense who don't villianize "all" women.

[Auspecial]

Seems that you missed the whole point of my post.

 

Its not about money or men taking care of women...in fact its not about money at all.

 

 

It looked to me that you were over-simplifying American women. I was trying to illuminate the fact that many (MOST American women that I personally know,) DO work outside the home, as well as cook and maintain their homes.

 

Maybe your opinion has more to do with your prior experiences before you changed your environment.

[shvrk]

I have no idea, based on the text of your post, what any of that has to do with benefits of marrying outside of your race.

 

What are you getting at?

 

You clearly have problems.

 

That's what I was thinking. I'm assuming your ex-wife was black? Plenty of black woman are well cultured and can "pick fresh fruit from a farmers market." You ex-wife apparently just didn't. Everyone is so different race shouldn't even matter.