I hear ya knocking revisited...............

[Mz. Pixie]

I know many of you who post on this forum are in the process of trying to move on like I am so I thought I'd post a new topic as a visitation back to the original.

 

How is everyone doing on this front?

 

My BF is wonderful and he really wants to run off and elope since the divorce is final. He's met the kids, they like him. All the kids got along. Of course we plan on having them spend more time together before the actual event.

 

Sunday night at dinner my bf was asking me if I was getting excited about our upcoming trip we're taking. This trip is the one that he wants to get married on. I mean, we've talked about it, but he hasn't actually gotten down on one knee yet. I was kinda hedgy about it. Yes, I am excited about the trip, and I'm totally 100 percent sure that I love him and want to be with him. This is the best relationship I've ever had.

 

I'm just scared to death. Why??? Well, I was extremely committed in my marriage- up until the last year. I worked so hard to keep it together and my exh wouldn't put forth any effort until it was too late. I am someone who never thought they would ever get divorced. I never even spoke the word until a couple of months before I left him- as in- if you don't start treating me better I'm leaving. I had known my exh since high school and I thought I knew him so well. Turns out you never really know someone until you divorce them!

 

My BF has done nothing to make me think that he would neglect me, hurt me or anything of the like but yet I'm just scared!

 

I just keep thinking of how hard the last year has been and how bad it hurt me to divorce and how much it has cost me emotionally. I have been through hell in my life way before this and nothing could break me or so I thought. Turns out divorce could. I just keep thinking that I couldn't make it through another one should it not work out. Crazy things run though my mind about the whole thing which I know are irrational but it's like I can't help it.

 

I hope some of you are making better progress than I am...........

[ollydolly]

Originally posted by Mz. Pixie

My BF is wonderful and he really wants to run off and elope since the divorce is final.

 

My BF has done nothing to make me think that he would neglect me, hurt me or anything of the like but yet I'm just scared!

 

I'm glad you've found love again. Have you ever heard the song "We've got all the time in the world?"

 

You're scared because you've been burned by someone you didn't think would burn you.

Take your time, don't rush into marriage again no matter how wonderful he is. With kids involved it takes a while to put it all together well.

 

I'm a bit scared too. My BF would marry me tomorrow if he had his way - he's the marrying kind. But I will not marry him until that scared feeling is not there at all.