LeaveMeAlone Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 What if she is thinking: What the hell happened to him, he begged and said he would do anything for us and now he's completely disappeared, what a jerk! If he would of wanted to fight for us he would of not given up after a week. Im glad i left him. Is there a chance she might be thinking this? That just because I'm completely quiet she might think I've stopped caring and fighting for her? Frankly, no there's no chance she's thinking that. If she felt what you said in the first paragraph, she would have reached out in some shape or form. The fact that she hasn't should tell you a lot. She's probably fixed on another guy right now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 What if she is thinking: What the hell happened to him, he begged and said he would do anything for us and now he's completely disappeared, what a jerk! If he would of wanted to fight for us he would of not given up after a week. Im glad i left him. Is there a chance she might be thinking this? That just because I'm completely quiet she might think I've stopped caring and fighting for her? Its pretty unlikely. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 What if she is thinking: What the hell happened to him, he begged and said he would do anything for us and now he's completely disappeared She's not!!! Is there a chance she might be thinking this? That just because I'm completely quiet she might think I've stopped caring and fighting for her? No. No chance!!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 What if she is thinking: What the hell happened to him, he begged and said he would do anything for us and now he's completely disappeared, what a jerk! If he would of wanted to fight for us he would of not given up after a week. Im glad i left him. Is there a chance she might be thinking this? That just because I'm completely quiet she might think I've stopped caring and fighting for her? About 0.000001 percent chance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 24, 2015 Author Share Posted April 24, 2015 About 0.000001 percent chance. So she's not sitting and waiting for me to contact her and being afraid that i've given up on her? Link to post Share on other sites
mightycpa Posted April 24, 2015 Share Posted April 24, 2015 So she's not sitting and waiting for me to contact her and being afraid that i've given up on her?She's more than likely relieved she doesn't have to deal with all that ****. The best case is that you're actually earning her respect by not being "THAT GUY." The probable case is she doesn't think about it at all, and she is happily doing whatever it is she wants to do. The worst case scenario that you're worried about? If she's not knocking down your door trying to find out why you didn't "fight" for the relationship in reaction to her drama queen dumping, then that's not what's happening. You don't have to worry about that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 28, 2015 Author Share Posted April 28, 2015 Today is the worst day in my life. I "accidentally" visited her instagram and I got the chock. The bitch has moved on. On a date or whatever it was with a new guy. Here I was counting the days, reached day 37 today of NC and was really hoping to hear from her sometime soon. I was on a good way to moving on and heeling until I saw what I did today. I guess I was completely wrong about her. I never imagined that she of all would of do this so soon. All that she said to me, did and that I did for her, it looks like it never meant anything for her I can see now.. I feel disgusted. I feel betrayed. I feel devastated. I feel angry. I feel humiliated. Most of all I'm disgusted. I guess this was the end of this story for ever. Unfortunately it wasn't a happy one, some people like me need to learn the hard way. Link to post Share on other sites
wizer Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 At least now you know. Don't beat yourself up by saying it never meant anything to her. It did, otherwise she wouldn't have stayed with you as long as she did. It's like saying people who were married for 20 years then get divorced wasted most of their lives. It was good while.. it was good. Then it wasn't. Link to post Share on other sites
NC-Thomas Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 You have some fallacies in your reasoning: The bitch has moved on. On a date or whatever it was with a new guy. Having a date with someone new doesnt infact mean they moved on. it looks like it never meant anything for her I can see now.. Just an assumption. Also DVX, you should stop hoping for anything. You are in control of yourself and nothing more. I still have my ex's from 1 year ago and 2 months ago blocked. I don't want to know anything. Remember: Ignorance is a bliss and curiosity killed the cat! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 28, 2015 Author Share Posted April 28, 2015 You have some fallacies in your reasoning: Having a date with someone new doesnt infact mean they moved on. Just an assumption. Also DVX, you should stop hoping for anything. You are in control of yourself and nothing more. I still have my ex's from 1 year ago and 2 months ago blocked. I don't want to know anything. Remember: Ignorance is a bliss and curiosity killed the cat! It's not a good sign at all. To be dating after only a month. For me it's done. I mean there is no way I would take her back after this. I hate myself for having the wrong picture of her all this time. It took her almost a year before she started dating after she left her ex. Now it's been only a month since we broke up and she has already moved on and posting pics? She never even once posted a picture of us no matter what the occasion was. Link to post Share on other sites
wizer Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 She never posted a picture of the two of you and yet she's with new guy a month and she's posting pictures? Weird. It's almost like she's doing it to spite you. Link to post Share on other sites
ls819 Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Why did you guys break up? How long was your relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
NC-Thomas Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 It's not a good sign at all. To be dating after only a month. For me it's done. I mean there is no way I would take her back after this. I hate myself for having the wrong picture of her all this time. It took her almost a year before she started dating after she left her ex. Now it's been only a month since we broke up and she has already moved on and posting pics? She never even once posted a picture of us no matter what the occasion was. Because maybe she figured you were going to spy on her Instagram. Also im not sure how long you were both together but this sounds more like a fling or rebound. Stop wasting energy on her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 28, 2015 Author Share Posted April 28, 2015 She never posted a picture of the two of you and yet she's with new guy a month and she's posting pictures? Weird. It's almost like she's doing it to spite you. Correct. She didn't post his face though, but I can clearly see it's a dude. Me and her went to hundreds of dinners and parties and occasions together, she never posted anything associated with what we did. Anyways I feel disgusted and must move on from this crap. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 Because maybe she figured you were going to spy on her Instagram. Also im not sure how long you were both together but this sounds more like a fling or rebound. Stop wasting energy on her. This definitely has ruined my plans of contacting her sometime in the future. Should I confront her one last time just to make sure and contact her right now? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Should I confront her one last time just to make sure and contact her right now? Why in the name of all that is holy would you even consider this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 Why in the name of all that is holy would you even consider this? Not sure why. Im really just pissed as hell right now. Why the **** is she dating after a month? The hell is wrong with her Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Not sure why. Im really just pissed as hell right now. Why the **** is she dating after a month? The hell is wrong with her Why can't she? She's a single woman. I can see why it's a bummer to you, but it's not a personal insult. She's trying to move forward, just like you should be doing. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Why can't she? She's a single woman. I can see why it's a bummer to you, but it's not a personal insult. She's trying to move forward, just like you should be doing. Exactly this. You may hate the path she has chosen, it might not even be the right path, could be a rebound, or it could be her soul mate. She is capable of making decisions for herself and unfortunately you are no longer a factor. Make your own decisions and find a path to heal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 Why can't she? She's a single woman. I can see why it's a bummer to you, but it's not a personal insult. She's trying to move forward, just like you should be doing. Like i suspected, NC is only making it easier for her to move on. Especially this fast after only a month. Damn. Here I am with zero progress while she has moved on. Is contacting her out of the question forever? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Like i suspected, NC is only making it easier for her to move on. Especially this fast after only a month. Damn. Here I am with zero progress while she has moved on. Is contacting her out of the question forever? Of course she moved on quicker -- she broke up with you. Which meant she started moving on emotionally before pulling the trigger. And stop deluding yourself, your No Contact isn't making it easier for her. Her having broke up with you is making it easier for her. She just does not want to have anything to do with you. You have this delusion that somehow you are her puppetmaster and all you have to do is yank her chain to control her. That's not the case dude. And if you continue to stagnate and do nothing, then yes, any contact with her would be out of the question forever because you would make a complete ass of yourself. You trying to contact her right now would be so unbelievably terrible. Link to post Share on other sites
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Like i suspected, NC is only making it easier for her to move on. Especially this fast after only a month. Damn. Here I am with zero progress while she has moved on. Is contacting her out of the question forever? Go outside and get a hand full of sand. Relax and just let the sand do as it pleases. Just watch as it sits there. Now grasp the sand so you don't lose it, really hold on tight because you absolutely cannot let that sand get away... Contacting her is out of the question for the unforeseeable future. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fardaxel Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Im worried of staying nc forever and keeping the unsaid words I wanted to say forever buried inside of me. It doesn't make sense waiting around for her to contact me when I was the one that did wrong? What do I have to lose? Dignity. People don't change in 30 days. It takes much longer than that. Link to post Share on other sites
fardaxel Posted April 29, 2015 Share Posted April 29, 2015 Today is the worst day in my life. I "accidentally" visited her instagram and I got the chock. The bitch has moved on. On a date or whatever it was with a new guy. Here I was counting the days, reached day 37 today of NC and was really hoping to hear from her sometime soon. I was on a good way to moving on and heeling until I saw what I did today. I guess I was completely wrong about her. I never imagined that she of all would of do this so soon. All that she said to me, did and that I did for her, it looks like it never meant anything for her I can see now.. I feel disgusted. I feel betrayed. I feel devastated. I feel angry. I feel humiliated. Most of all I'm disgusted. I guess this was the end of this story for ever. Unfortunately it wasn't a happy one, some people like me need to learn the hard way. A woman who dumped you and moved on is not a bitch. There's a lot about your attitude that needs work. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted April 29, 2015 Author Share Posted April 29, 2015 Of course she moved on quicker -- she broke up with you. Which meant she started moving on emotionally before pulling the trigger. And stop deluding yourself, your No Contact isn't making it easier for her. Her having broke up with you is making it easier for her. She just does not want to have anything to do with you. You have this delusion that somehow you are her puppetmaster and all you have to do is yank her chain to control her. That's not the case dude. And if you continue to stagnate and do nothing, then yes, any contact with her would be out of the question forever because you would make a complete ass of yourself. You trying to contact her right now would be so unbelievably terrible. Whats the worst thing that can happen if i contact her one last time? on day 60 like i've planed. NC made her forget about me and move on quickly in just a month. It hasn't done me any good. I still feel crap like the first day. The more time I waste on NC the more time for her to get more serious with the new guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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