na49 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I think you should just text her already. You've had 51 days to plan what you are going to say, so just say it to her. Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 You should not break no contact!!! Who cares what she thinks? I've been 6 weeks no contact and I'm so proud of myself!! He dumped me, well, he said he didn't love me, so I say, ok, goodbye! and he never tried to contact me again. I just want the time pass and get over him completely. Just forget about her, she is really not worth it! nobody really is! Just trust in yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted May 13, 2015 Author Share Posted May 13, 2015 I think you should just text her already. You've had 51 days to plan what you are going to say, so just say it to her. I don't even know what to say actually. Link to post Share on other sites
foolinlove79 Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 So many people who have been broken up with hope to hear from their ex. I get that. But it rarely ends the way you want. And its almost like having the hope they will contact you is stopping you from really moving on. Im one of those people who always has heard from my ex after a period of time. He says all the right things but inevitably he always finds a reason he isnt happy and i end up right back where i was. And you don't feel good about it. You think if theyd only realise their mistake and change their mind. Things would be different. Things are never different. You end up hating them and worse hating yourself for taking them back. Link to post Share on other sites
darkbloom Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 The feelings are still too raw at 60 days. Or even 90. I'm approaching 150 days of NC and I can honestly say that I could not have a conversation without being emotional. If I were to break NC, what is there even to say other than 'I'm pathetic and I can't live without you.' That's what any contact would be admitting. You may need to touch the stove again. But you have to start back over at day 1 and earn your stripes. You may not be able to move on until you've been soundly rejected again and stomped all over. The more days you earn, the harder it is to break NC. You don't get anything out of breaking NC except to start counting from 1. And anxiety. And heartbreak. So maybe three things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted May 23, 2015 Author Share Posted May 23, 2015 Day 62 NC. What to do now? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizrd3000 Posted May 23, 2015 Share Posted May 23, 2015 Day 62 NC. What to do now? Go for day infinity. Link to post Share on other sites
dyna85 Posted May 23, 2015 Share Posted May 23, 2015 Day 62 NC. What to do now? Keep going boy. Do not stop moving forward, unless you want to get slapped in the face again (figuratively of course). I mean, isn't it enough of a slap in the face that she hasn't reached out to you in over 2 months? You deserve better than someone who can go 60+ days without contacting you. We all do. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizrd3000 Posted May 23, 2015 Share Posted May 23, 2015 Man, it's really not THAT hard to understand. Alright, so lets say you contact her, and you do get back together... She'll know that you'll always wait for her if she decides to break up again because someone has caught her attention And this is the ****ing BEST case scenario. Worst scenario is her answering your texts after some time has passed, as she doesn't care anyway, telling you to move on already, since she's having sex with another dude, and this other dude wants her to stop talking to you. She obviously listens, as she cares about her new relationship opposed to her old one with you. Im just trying to show you what *could* happen if you do contact her. BTW, if you don't contact her; She'll try and contact you if she feels she wants/needs you. She won't do this if she feels like she doesn't. Do you wanna be the first one to shoot her a text, when she doesn't want/need you? I think the best way to go is NC. I did doubt NC in the past, but after some thinking, I realized it's just the best way to go after a breakup you did not initiate and/or was the cause of the breakup (as in you did something horrible, and even then...) Link to post Share on other sites
wizer Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Day 62 NC. What to do now? You've received almost unanimous advice from the posters on this thread not to contact her. Why do you expect the advice to be any different just because you are now past that magical mystical number *60* that you have invisioned in your head? Do not contact her. Doing so will accomplish nothing and will only set you back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted September 13, 2015 Author Share Posted September 13, 2015 6 months NC Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted September 13, 2015 Share Posted September 13, 2015 So what are you feeling? Has it been a true 6 months? Be honest. No cheating....just a little? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dvx Posted March 20, 2016 Author Share Posted March 20, 2016 So what are you feeling? Has it been a true 6 months? Be honest. No cheating....just a little? Another 6 months have passed since your post, just saw this Haven't been on here for 6 months. So I'm guessing now it's 1 year of total NC These last 6 months I haven't even been thinking about this girl. Been working out, traveling, working 11 hour shifts per day, just bought my first Rolex watch (was a dream I had since i was a kid) and now being able to afford it and enjoy life makes me think about the small things and achievements in life. It aint all about a ****ing girl, its about yourself. There are tons of girls out there, I'm just living life right now. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted March 21, 2016 Share Posted March 21, 2016 Another 6 months have passed since your post, just saw this Haven't been on here for 6 months. So I'm guessing now it's 1 year of total NC These last 6 months I haven't even been thinking about this girl. Been working out, traveling, working 11 hour shifts per day, just bought my first Rolex watch (was a dream I had since i was a kid) and now being able to afford it and enjoy life makes me think about the small things and achievements in life. It aint all about a ****ing girl, its about yourself. There are tons of girls out there, I'm just living life right now. BINGO DUDE! You got it! Our lives are our own and we are in charge of our own happiness. We choose who we share our own individual lives with! You're doing great dude! Link to post Share on other sites
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