na49 Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 You probably won't end up blocking her because you like hearing from her. It's nice to know that she is still thinking of you, even if she hasn't mentioned wanting you back. You can keep fielding the texts/calls if you want, but you won't heal by doing that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdubinva Posted May 2, 2015 Author Share Posted May 2, 2015 Those texts are unsolicited and have not been part of a broader conversation she and I are having. I'm not sure why they are increasing in frequency now. She may be lonely at those times, who knows. If she has to feel a little bit of the pain that I did then fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdubinva Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 Yeah, I did pretty much get burnt in the end. We've been hanging out for the past month or so with a few sleepovers. Physical but nothing serious and when she told me today that she and the other dude were going for a run this afternoon it floored me. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 So what are are you going to do next? She will text you again and what will happen? You'll be back on here asking what it means. I totally understand. I have been there. When will you get fed up with it all? I'm not sure this did it, but something has to. She mentions this other dude like no big deal. That means you are just a girlfriend to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdubinva Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 But I'm getting some and I need to reach the point with her where that does not matter. I may not have a choice now though! Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 But I'm getting some and I need to reach the point with her where that does not matter. I may not have a choice now though! "a few sleepovers. Physical but nothing serious" So what exactly do you mean by "I'm getting some"? You're getting whatever she has left over. What do you think that point will be where it doesn't matter? I doesn't seem to matter to her anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdubinva Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 There's nothing wrong with getting laid, eh? We were together for about a year so I'm sure it's nothing to her although I'd like to think there is. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 There's nothing wrong with getting laid, eh? We were together for about a year so I'm sure it's nothing to her although I'd like to think there is. She's using you. You clearly still have feelings, so this is not a good situation. But I don't imagine you'll listen and will continue this until she tramples all over you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdubinva Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 I am getting walked over.. that's why I brought this up. I need to totally disconnect from her and walk away. It's not easy though - we've passed txts tonight and are in each others business. I am going to smoke and lay down and relax. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 I am getting walked over.. that's why I brought this up. I need to totally disconnect from her and walk away. It's not easy though - we've passed txts tonight and are in each others business. I am going to smoke and lay down and relax. Look how much time you've wasted because you're afraid of doing something that's not "easy". Most things that you need to do in life aren't "easy". Stop answering her damn texts for one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdubinva Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 Day one of no contact with her. I can't deal with this rollercoaster ride any longer. NOW I need to stick with it. She's a selfish individual and I'm positive I'll hear from her again so it will be challenging. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 Day one of no contact with her. I can't deal with this rollercoaster ride any longer. NOW I need to stick with it. She's a selfish individual and I'm positive I'll hear from her again so it will be challenging. Block her number if you don't trust yourself to not respond. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdubinva Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 I'm thinking about blocking her number. I'm also considering sending an email calling her out on her behavior. I know she's not promiscuous but I also damn well know she didn't tell MIKE that she slept with (or even saw) me last week. I think one email where I call her out on her actions will keep her from wanting to hang out or anything like that again - plus give me a little satisfaction. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 (edited) I'm thinking about blocking her number. I'm also considering sending an email calling her out on her behavior. I know she's not promiscuous but I also damn well know she didn't tell MIKE that she slept with (or even saw) me last week. I think one email where I call her out on her actions will keep her from wanting to hang out or anything like that again - plus give me a little satisfaction. The e-mail is a really bad idea. She's going to spin it to put you back right where she wants to. You don't have the self-control to be able to handle that. Blocking is the best idea. There's nothing wrong with admitting that you need a bit of outside assistance to get your recovery started. But yeah, don't fight selfishness with pettiness. It's not going to go your way. Plus, you're partially responsible for allowing her to use you like that. Edited June 27, 2015 by Simon Phoenix Link to post Share on other sites
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