Methodical Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 Some people aren't happy unless they're stirring the shyte pot! Good for you blocking, that's better than telling them to leave you alone in way. By blocking, you took away their power. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hope Shimmers Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 When she started texting me I started shaking and felt sick... I truly am not cut out for this kind of drama and I hate him!! It's good you blocked. Have you totally close off avenues that they may be able to reach you? Your kids play together - you are neighbors? Can you do anything about that? The goal is to get to indifference. Hate is a fine line, and it tells me there are still a lot of feelings there. Not trying to be hard on you; just assess where you are at. Indifference only comes from time and complete NC so please don't be hard on yourself - now it sounds like you have put that in place whereas before they could weasel in. You WILL get there. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Josmatjes Posted May 9, 2015 Author Share Posted May 9, 2015 It's good you blocked. Have you totally close off avenues that they may be able to reach you? Your kids play together - you are neighbors? Can you do anything about that? The goal is to get to indifference. Hate is a fine line, and it tells me there are still a lot of feelings there. Not trying to be hard on you; just assess where you are at. Indifference only comes from time and complete NC so please don't be hard on yourself - now it sounds like you have put that in place whereas before they could weasel in. You WILL get there. There are feelings because of all the crappy things he does to bait me for no reason. I truly think he gets off on it... I thought I was at the indifference stage but I guess I wasn't there just yet... Link to post Share on other sites
AlwaysGrowing Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 There are feelings because of all the crappy things he does to bait me for no reason. I truly think he gets off on it... I thought I was at the indifference stage but I guess I wasn't there just yet... Maybe you need to figure out why his kind of bait works on you. Once you do that, you can change what kind of bait you respond to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Josmatjes Posted May 9, 2015 Author Share Posted May 9, 2015 Maybe you need to figure out why his kind of bait works on you. Once you do that, you can change what kind of bait you respond to. That's true. Maybe it's the attention... I don't know... Maybe it's remembering the way he used to be with me but now that guy is gone.... But the truth is, is that I don't think he ever really existed in the first place... It was all an illusion...I just need to give myself more time to move on from this.... Link to post Share on other sites
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