Diezel Posted May 2, 2015 Share Posted May 2, 2015 I totally agree with SoulCat. If not, then why do you think she is "moody". Women are good at picking up stuff like this and insecurities. And if not now, TRUST ME, she'll eventually find out. And then dump you. Which probably would do you some good. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author forest97 Posted May 2, 2015 Author Share Posted May 2, 2015 Well guys i only see her on weekends to be honest, and only saw her on Wednesday for her birthday meal with her friends. So we only talk through text and the occasional call which we just talk normally and have a laugh, not today she's just turned miserable and short with me. She is going to book getting a tattoo soon and she said i was going with her a few weeks ago, now she says i never said that and i'm not going with her. It's like she is taking me shopping next weekend for my birthday and a meal with her dad's side of the family, i asked her is he picking us up, she says i don't know, no emoji's or anything. I've asked her have i annoyed or upset her, she says no again so i don't know. She also tweeted something about how she shouts fu*k off at her phone regularly when people annoy her. she says its not about me but its got to be, all her friends have favourited it and i think she may be with them so. Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted May 2, 2015 Share Posted May 2, 2015 Yep, she can tell you are insecure. You don't think so, but if you asked her if you upset her when you know you really hadn't, that's insecurity and she smells it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author forest97 Posted May 2, 2015 Author Share Posted May 2, 2015 She said she's off to the house party now and she says she loves me so that's got to be good, although she did say "n'night for later, speak whenever! I love you :* <3 " i don't like the sound of speak whenever, because that doesn't sound like tomorrow? Tomorrow, should i text her asking her how her night was and how she is etc or not? Link to post Share on other sites
SoulCat Posted May 2, 2015 Share Posted May 2, 2015 Tomorrow, should i text her asking her how her night was and how she is etc or not? No. You should leave her be. If she wakes up with the mother of all hangovers, the last thing she'll want to deal with is your neediness. Again, she'll come to you when she's good and ready. Forest, you have got to start to realise that your constant need for reassurance is going to suffocate her. It's gonna kill your relationship. As someone else pointed out earlier in this thread, you are not her babysitter. She's 18, an adult. You will be too in a few weeks time. Start acting like one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author forest97 Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 The night went amazing she said and she enjoyed it a lot! But she is still moody, and this weekend coming up she's meant to be taking me shopping for my birthday and going out for a meal with her dad's side of the family which i think is happening still. I was meant to be staying over and now she said i can't as she has a lot of college work to do, i said i wouldn't distract her. She keeps saying no, now i have no way of getting home as it will be late and my parents aren't in (and i do not have a key) so i cannot get into my house. I don't get it, she will be spending the Saturday with me throughout the day and then at the meal in the evening, so how will me staying on the Saturday distract her from her work, she won't be getting any done? I said i would leave earlier on the Sunday (on the bus) but she still says no. It just sounds like excuses to me, if she really wanted to see me and for me to stay she would make happen, right? Opinions please? Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Yep, you are being pushy and needy. This isn't going to last much longer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author forest97 Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 Yep, you are being pushy and needy. This isn't going to last much longer. I'm being pushy by her cancelling on me, when it was supposed to be a day and night spent with her for my birthday? Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Yep, I know it's shopping for your birthday, but she's already telling you that she has college stuff to do... if you can't read into that and THEN you insist on leaving earlier the next day, it's being pushy. Trust me, you have told us that you have played it "cool" with your neediness, but she can pick up on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author forest97 Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 Yep, I know it's shopping for your birthday, but she's already telling you that she has college stuff to do... if you can't read into that and THEN you insist on leaving earlier the next day, it's being pushy. Trust me, you have told us that you have played it "cool" with your neediness, but she can pick up on it. But it was meant to be our first proper catch up since she was back, you know and for my birthday. Just wanted to cuddle her and talk to her, its been so long, then she cancels on me, when there is no way she can do work on the day i would be staying, so why would it matter if i did or not? Is she making excuses? Link to post Share on other sites
123321 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 It's perfectly safe as far as sports go, the baby seals virtually never put up a struggle. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 when there is no way she can do work on the day i would be staying, so why would it matter if i did or not? Is she making excuses? That's not up to you to decide whether she can do work or not. If that is her reason, that is her reason. You can't debate that with her, nor try to negotiate by saying you will leave at the earliest. It could be an excuse. Or it could be legit. And she could study after dinner with her family and then start early in the morning. The point is, it doesn't matter. You should respect her decision. If it's your birthday and that was your planned time together, then consider that. Ultimately, I don't think it matters to you what anyone says, you are going to jump to your own conclusions anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 , i asked her is he picking us up, she says i don't know, no emoji's or anything. I've asked her have i annoyed or upset her, she says no again so i don't know. If you are seriously this upset because your GF doesn't use emoticons when testing you no wonder she curses at her phone when people annoy her. Grow up & calm down already. I do predict that you are going to lose this girl because you are really being a downer. Link to post Share on other sites
fardaxel Posted May 5, 2015 Share Posted May 5, 2015 If you want a chance at saving this, you need to flip this horrible dynamic. Stop calling her, texting her, emojiing her, whatever. Just stop, and be silent. In the absence of saying anything worthwhile to say, say nothing. Go hang out with friends, or watch a movie, just do something other than what you're doing right now. Let her come to you. You're smothering her, and you have to stop by taking a step back. Link to post Share on other sites
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