Pretywoman Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 I wrote it here to find out what was the cause of his silence and disappearance few months back.. As usual the responses were, its over and moved on. Frankly, I pinned that small hope that he would contact me ever again. After 2 months of no Thank you after sending him birthday cards and birthday wishes, I was actually nearing to giving up.. Yesterday marked the best memorable day. He text-ed me by SMS with a new mobile number. Then he called me. He apologized that he didnt contact me for long time. He did say that due to situation that he gone quiet. Ok what I am trying to say is he may gave tons of bull**** reasons. But he did attempt to text and call me.. Whoever in NC mode, the chances are you will hear from them again... Good luck and wishing you all the best.. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Girl Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 This is so sad 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy47 Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 He is fishing. Think very carefully about what you do next. Just remember how upsetting the last few months have been and for goodness sake don't be GRATEFUL. He has neglected to contact you as promised. Poppy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pretywoman Posted April 30, 2015 Author Share Posted April 30, 2015 Poppy thanks the reminder.. I will rest assured.. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria_Smellons Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 Don't confuse contacting you, with caring about you. Genuinely caring. They're not the same thing. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 While a lot of people in NC have a part of them that wishes the other would reach out, a part of them also knows that to do so would open up a whole new world of hurt for them all over again. I pray that you get to this point, and fast. The better off you'll be. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Josmatjes Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 Pretty, don't give your power back to him. Things must be going wrong with him to contact you. Don't be a fallback girl, your so much better. I know your hurt and you still have deep feelings for him which is normal. But if he isn't free for you now he never will be... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 Ok what I am trying to say is he may gave tons of bull**** reasons. But he did attempt to text and call me.. And? What happens next? So he called you. Nothing else has changed, right? Also, why want someone who ignored your bday wishes and disappeared. Then reappear, you want continued contact now with him? Sorry I don't know your backstory so not sure if your A is over or just on hold. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Minnie09 Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 What exactly did he say in his text? Why did he text you? Did he want anything? And what do YOU want? You will end the affair, as soon as you're ready. And you will continue the affair if you want to continue the affair. Ask yourself what you want and then act accordingly. It doesn't matter whether or not he sends you random texts. Link to post Share on other sites
lostinlust80 Posted April 30, 2015 Share Posted April 30, 2015 Pretywoman, I feel like we're in the same scenario but I'm a little further ahead of you. I was NC with my AP for 5 mths also when he popped back into my life saying all the right things. I thought he mustve realized his mistake if he came back, right? WRONG! After a month of being hot and heavy, he disappeared again and this time it sucks more bc I feel like I really shouldve known better this time. Good Luck! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
nowa1234 Posted May 16, 2015 Share Posted May 16, 2015 While a lot of people in NC have a part of them that wishes the other would reach out, a part of them also knows that to do so would open up a whole new world of hurt for them all over again. I pray that you get to this point, and fast. The better off you'll be. So true.. This is exactly how I feel.. For the first couple of months after BU i desperately wanted him to reach out to me, yet I knew that if he did, I would be hurt again and weak.. So when he finally did reach out, I ignored but this was very very hard for me not to respond.. It is so easy to fall in to the trap of feeling bonded and connected again.. And it hurts so much.. But this is the only way to recover - IGNORE 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grapesofwrath Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 I wrote it here to find out what was the cause of his silence and disappearance few months back.. As usual the responses were, its over and moved on. Frankly, I pinned that small hope that he would contact me ever again. After 2 months of no Thank you after sending him birthday cards and birthday wishes, I was actually nearing to giving up.. Yesterday marked the best memorable day. He text-ed me by SMS with a new mobile number. Then he called me. He apologized that he didnt contact me for long time. He did say that due to situation that he gone quiet. Ok what I am trying to say is he may gave tons of bull**** reasons. But he did attempt to text and call me.. Whoever in NC mode, the chances are you will hear from them again... Good luck and wishing you all the best.. I agree you must ignore it. The only silver lining is that it's still over but this time you had the power and made it happen. You got your power back. Keep it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RoseVille Posted May 17, 2015 Share Posted May 17, 2015 OP, your post sounds as though you were GLAD to hear from him? Like, you're suggesting OWs stay the course and just wait, because we'll hear from them again? I'm hoping the intent of your message was the exact opposite. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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