Author lakers Posted May 1, 2015 Author Share Posted May 1, 2015 What did the phone bill show? How far back did you review it? I went back on the phone bill, and for the month of March there is no texting or calls, but for April I found a lot of texting and only a few calls, it seems he re-sign because of stealing company's money. After my wife said it was just a co-worker and a friend since they worked for many years, and she felt bad that he resign because he's wife ain't working and he is no longer has a job, but still my wife would text him, and made few calls, location wise I was able to find her locations she always went to work and went home . The major issue is she lied and sending that one photo of her body was still a major problem, I trusted for 14 years, this month of April was the worst ever in my life with my wife. Now I will go and tell his wife So she can know that even though he said he wouldn't cheat on her, but he still text my wife not sexually , but my wife would text him back and be the instigator. I talked to my wife more last night and she cried , she said she didn't ever have sexually encounters with him or never did anything with him, but still she lied about not texting and I can say she was being the instigator. I want to save the marriage more because of our children and we are college sweethearts, but I feel like I'm heartbroken because of her lies. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 What's scary is that there's a whole world of private communication - from Facebook Messenger to Snapchat to Vine - you may not even be aware of. Here's a test - ask your wife for her phone. Spend an hour going through every app on there searching for history. If she refuses you access, you have your answer. You may be standing on the tip of the iceberg... Mr. Lucky 4 Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 I'm sorry for your pain. Yes, she lies. Her lies have made your marriage inoperable. If it were me - I'd have her leave immediately and file for divorce. The kids will be fine as long as you don't talk mean of their Mom and spend time with them and allow them to know how much they are loved. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 Generally nude pics are sent after someone has seen the body in person. Actually that's not true. Sending nude pics/selfies without ever knocking boots is pretty typical. Yes, sometimes it's a result of an already full-blown affair, other times it's an invitation to something more but just as often it's meant to be "harmless" () naughty fun. As for this particular situation, we don't really know if these two have actually consummated their relationship but the nude pics on their own should be enough to make anyone question their partner and their relationship. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Grapesofwrath Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 I agree that the nude photo alone is enough to warrant intervention. Scouring her phone. Calling the BW. All of that is within bounds. Cheaters notoriously admit to that which they think you already know. They will say it's because they don't want to hurt you, but really it's because they don't want to deal with consequences or dig themselves deeper into a hole. If this OM "resigned" from his company because of stealing their money (a.k.a. embezzlement), I doubt highly this was a resignation. He was most likely fired, and if this accusation of embezzlement has any basis in fact, then he would be facing criminal charges. Does this sound like a stand-up guy who can be taken at his word regarding his actions with your wife? Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted May 1, 2015 Share Posted May 1, 2015 If she's hiding it from you than she shouldn't be doing it and secondly, she shouldn't be lying to you about it. Hearing that your wife may be the instigator and pursuer is hard to take. She needs to get some independent counselling to find out what's really going on with her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted May 2, 2015 Share Posted May 2, 2015 what company does she work for. I want a job where women send me naked butt pics as part of a day's work! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted May 2, 2015 Share Posted May 2, 2015 Look. Tell her your setting up an appointment for her to take a polygraph test. Let her know that it's the only way for this mess to be taken care of since you can't trust her any longer. If she tells you no then let her know that it's either that or she can talk to you attorney but make her understand that she has the choice and if she wants to save the marriage because she screwed it up then she'll take it and if not then hit her with divorce papers. You can always call it off but she has to know you mean business. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted May 2, 2015 Share Posted May 2, 2015 Did she say why she was upset you spoke with the other guy? Did (does) it seem like she is trying to protect him? If you can't reach his wife (he may have you blocked from contacting her) you may need to drive over there and see her face to face. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted May 5, 2015 Share Posted May 5, 2015 Hi Lakers, What is happening with you? Do hope you are taking some action in the matter. Have you been able to talk to the co-worker's wife? Wish all the luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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