simon_uk Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 She just called me at 4AM and left a coice mail, she didnt say anything, just played the song 'Wrong Impression' by Natalie Imbruglia! Is this a good sign or a bad sign??? I dont know, check ouy yhe lyrics here. http://www.lyricsstyle.com/n/natalieimbruglia/wrongimpression.html Is she jsut trying to say goodbye or what? Today is ger birthday!!!!! Please help me, I am in tears here wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 If you are on NO CONTACT, don't call her. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I didn't check out the song, but I think it's lame to call and just leave a song for a message. If she has something to say, she should just say it. I recommend you disregard the entire thing as some kind of episode she was going through and wait for something real. She shouldn't send out little signals like that. She should be sending big ones, or else none at all. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 it was a lame drunk dial, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
No Foolin Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I don't care if she wrote the song........ What do you think is going to happen? Survey says: more drama. You are still alive even though shes not there. You will be alive days down the road as well. Walk it off...... Any stable human would have found a real way (like talking) to get into contact with you. Her passive contact smacks of unstable thinking. Don't you be unstable and repsond back brother No Foolin Link to post Share on other sites
Author simon_uk Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 The song is definitely significant to our relationship. She left me because she didnt think I would commit to her anytime soon!!!! She had lost faith. I guess the reason she used a ong is because I had sent her a letter last week and I also put in a CD with a song about my feelings for her. I am a musician and she knows how powerful music is to me. Simon Link to post Share on other sites
No Foolin Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 house full of crickets on that one................................... Your doin this to yourself, its all you brother. Why do you do this to yourself? Those are the questions you SHOULD be asking. Not what song your going to put on someones machine. Think about that for awhile. How about putting some effort into what you want to do with your life and possibly prepping yourself for your next great love............Or you could continue to kick yourself in the nuts, giving your power to a ghost. Does that make sense? I know what her song means. It means she has you by your balls and you are at her beckon call. It means she really doesn't know how strong you actually are; and when you decide to get your nuts out of your purse, sack up and realize your a person of stature, honor and value thats when the growth begins. Funny thing is I didn't even hear this song (don't need to hear it). You are better than this! Walk it off. No Foolin Link to post Share on other sites
Author simon_uk Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 yeah well I f***ed up now because I rang her this morning, expecting her voice mail. She answered the phone!!!!! I told her I was expecting her voice mail and she laughed. I told her to have a great birthday and she said she will, ring me now and see if it goes to voice mail. So I did, it didnt and she answered again, we laughed some more, then she just went off the phone. Sent a text saying, well that didnt go to plan happy brithday. Nothing back!!!! Now Im back to square one! :-( Link to post Share on other sites
No Foolin Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 ......................crickets............................................crickets.........................................crickets.............................................. Intervention time. Its over, there are three things in life that are promised. Death, taxes, and all relationships end. You are doing this to yourself. Wash/rinse/repeat- You are doing this to yourself. You cannot even consider recovery or coping while in this mindset. You want her back.......however, its over. Everyone knows this but you.........Admit it and join the club brother. No Foolin Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen_Angel Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I'll let you in on a little secret...we females tend to play games. I know it's been said before, but I may as well repeat it. This girl wants you to hang around and be her back-up plan. Sure, that may sound good to you right now, but how can you respect yourself if you allow her to control your life?! Think about it. This is YOUR life, not hers. The only person who should be in control here is YOU. Don't fall prey to her machinations. Stand up for yourself, be strong, and DO NOT CONTACT HER. If you don't allow yourself to heal, you'll never find a girl who is worthy of you...one who doesn't play as many games. Hehe. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 i agree with no foolin your just doin this to yourself and i guess in your case PAIN MUST BE PLEASURE to be putting yourself through all this but i guess when you have had enough of these games that is when things will change for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author simon_uk Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 How exactly am I putting myself through this? She called me and left a romantic song on my voice mail! That affected me and made me think that she is beginning to have doubts. How is that putting MYSELF through pain exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
sanne Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Simon, cmon man why'd you do it? She CALLED you, you weren't supposed to call at all. In your case, it looks like it's truly over for you two. I'm not sure that you have even accepted this yet. Take it from me, you'd much rather be broken up and doing NC then being with someone who sends you mixed messages. Remember a week or two ago when I was posting how great things were going with me and my ex, well that all came crashing down because of me. I mistook her behavior for wanting to get back together and rekindle things and in the end I get the whole "we should both date other people first before we get back together" story. So I mean, if it's meant to happen, the timing has to be right for both people, not just you. So now I have to start NC all over again, and let me tell you it does suck, but at least now I'm coming to terms with the fact that there is nothing I can do to fix the situation, it's no longer in my hands. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I could make out from the title of the thread that it was from you Simon, for God sake , why you want to be in dilemma always, why don't you sort out the matter and face the consequences whatever it is good or bad ?? Breaking up- missing-getting together-breakingup -....this is cycle... Talk to her and don't have grey areas..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author simon_uk Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 I tell you what I wont post at all if it bothers people that much! I am in love, I miss her, I dont know how to get her back but I want to. She sends me a song that suggests to me, she loves me and misses me! Maybe you have all been through this before and it didnt work out, so you assume that is the case for everyone. Maybe mine wont work out either. I dont know but I dont need people having a go at me. Tell me what you think by all means but dont 'for gods sake' me. I have not pestered her (I sent her one letter in five weeks for my own closure), I have not begged her, I have not pleaded with her. She sent me the song and it touched my heart. Perhaps I am wrong for looking at it that way. You know some people do get back together and I am hopeful I will be in that group!!!! I came here for help not abuse Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk I tell you what I wont post at all if it bothers people that much! I came here for help not abuse Chill Simon, By no means I meant to hurt you, you are misunderstanding me. If my words hurt you then I am sincerely aplogise for it and hope you would forgive me. May be I am not conditioned to say things sweetly, so my words are blunt but the underlying theme is only to be good for you. I have been reading and replying to your posts from first day and so I made an opinion. I never said that you break from her or you don't love her or miss her, but dilemma of any kind is bad and gives one mental torture.It has no bearing on outcome whether good or bad. Yeah I was in dilemma for 10 months and the outcome was bad, but I have never felt that way for you. If you please read my previous posts to your previous threads I have maintained a consistent line that 'yes, your chances of getting back is very high so work towards it but don't bank too much on the outcome'. I just wish to say you that please come out of the dilemma, go and talk to her, make things clear that you want to be with her and ask her to reply to it after thinking.Where did I mean that things will not work out tell me ?? I think there are some issues with her regarding you, which you can know only when you talk candidly. I hope you got my point and once again I apologise for my words.Seems the number of ppl who dislike me on LS is increasing day by day. God Bless you and may you get what you wish. bye Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen_Angel Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 We're not out to hurt you, Simon. We want you to come here and express your feelings, because it's just as much your right to do so as it is ours. Unfortunately, some of the advice could be considered "tough love." I happen to agree with everyone here. I would want people to be just as honest with me. As far as the song is concerned...as I mentioned in my above post, girls play games. Unless/until she states flat out, "Simon, I want you back," ASSUME NOTHING. We're all hopeful. Most of us want to give it another go with the ex, but that doesn't make it the right thing to do. There's nothing wrong with holding on to hope; just be sure you're applying an ample amount of logic as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author simon_uk Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 I am sorry! i am just falling apart. I am sick of it to be honest! I just love my girl so much! as we all love our exs' probably! I was getting over it, I was resigned to the fact that she isnt coming back. I know I am not 100% to blame for the break but I know it was my actions that ultimately lead to its demise. i would do anything to rectify it but unless she wants that any effort would be futile. I vowed I wouldnt contact her and I didnt. The song touched me and mad eme believe she loved me. I over analyze sometimes, not just in love but in anything. I called her to say happy birthday because it is an important day for her and I wouldnt be so childish as to ignore it. We parted on good terms, not hating one and other. She has her own mind and hse has made her choices but I dont begrudge her for that. She has broken my heart but I would never put my sadness in front of her happiness, ever! Sorry for being sensitive. I dont dislike you greenhorn, I dont dislike anybody here. Link to post Share on other sites
snoop_dawg22 Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 You say you came here for help but you are not taking anything that's been posted ( previously ) into consideration. If you want this girl back so bad then maybe you need to focus on getting yourself together first. From the sounds of it you can't live without her. You have to learn to be alone and know that it's not a bad thing. She will not come back to you b/c of some letter and a cd. No one can make you love/want to be with someone. It is by choice. She chose to be with someone else and dude the only thing you can do is accept it and try to move on. She may have been drunk dialing or may want to hear from you since it's her b-day. But did she say " You know what Simon, I love you and I want to be back with you"? The song may have lyrics to that extent but it's not her verbally saying these things to you. Actions speak louder than words. If she wanted you she'd be with you by now. And maybe she's confused too. Just leave each other alone for a while and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author simon_uk Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 Thanks for the advice but she ISNT with anybody else. Link to post Share on other sites
snoop_dawg22 Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Oh sorry. I guess I got you mixed up since I've been thread jumping. Link to post Share on other sites
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