Fugu Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 I know i am his first choice,even though he wont admit it he was interested in me for long time when i was with an ex that i liked .So its not that,its more the lies In my eyes this ex is a pretty girl(i have seen her)..i am ok with me,people tell me i look good so its not that ,but i do feel jealous when i see her So it comes down to your insecurities then? It's really more about you than her, right? I think you have a right to expect disclosure, but it doesn't mean that he's a serial liar. He kept it from you probably because he just felt it wasn't important for you to know, since in his own mind, it wasn't important. I wouldn't just 'let it go' but I wouldn't dwell on it either. It's a mistake. People make mistakes, especially when they're younger and when relationships are ambiguous. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Fugu Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 We had a "fight" about this again today. I told him why did he use her,maybe she wanted to get married and he used her time instead.He said she is not that kind of girl she is more into career.Then i said but she has a boyfriend now and he said so what ? how do you know its serious now? he asked that 2,3 times during our conversation...at the end i said ,does it bother you she has a boyfriend? and he became angry again.And now he wont reply to any of my messages or calls(he is at work) Insecurity is a mood killer. His not responding to you is his way of establishing his space from you -- he needs it. I'm not saying he's right, but the problem is, the way you're going about it is all wrong. Right now, he only wants you to shut up and go away. He'll eventually get back to a good place but only if you let him. Link to post Share on other sites
Fugu Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 I hope i can get the strength to leave this behind me and see it for what it is. I think you'd better. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
towch Posted May 8, 2015 Share Posted May 8, 2015 (edited) We had a "fight" about this again today. I told him why did he use her,maybe she wanted to get married and he used her time instead.He said she is not that kind of girl she is more into career.Then i said but she has a boyfriend now and he said so what ? how do you know its serious now? he asked that 2,3 times during our conversation...at the end i said ,does it bother you she has a boyfriend? and he became angry again.And now he wont reply to any of my messages or calls(he is at work) Jesus Christ what the hell is wrong with you. Has it even hit you that the poor dude could have simple said something else. People ask for honesty and openness but can't handle it. You remind me of my Ex who asked for honesty and openness. I proceeded to tell her that the girl she accused me of liking 3 semesters ago was in my class lets just say it did not go well. I should have kept my damn mouth shut. Alas more secrets. Please please please you need to stop before something snaps that cannot be fixed. Edited May 8, 2015 by towch Link to post Share on other sites
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