What's his deal??

[Rileycat]

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. He told me that he wanted me to stay away from him and not to speak to him. We broke up because he's very immature and craves attention. We were together for 2 years. He's a spoiled brat and acts very immature if things don't go his way.

 

Since we broke up I've blocked him on every social media sight. I've basically made myself invisible to him. I haven't seem him. I was VERY hurt from our breakup and the only way to cope was to disappear. A few weeks ago I noticed that he isn't blocked on my snapchat. I noticed because once you post things on snapchat you can see who views your pics or videos. At first when I noticed that he looked at a pic of mine I brushed it off. I figured that he was just browsing. He now looks like everyday. He has went a day or two without looking before but usually it's like everyday. He looked at pics from me being out of town and pics of me buying a new car or even just selfies. Basically he has seen what has been going on in my life on a daily basis. Once I noticed I didn't block him on there because I felt it's no harm him seeing me living well without him (thinking like an ex of course lol)

 

I personally find that confusing since he told me to stay away from him and not to talk to him. It's very open and it can easily be seen who's look at ur profile by you and I'm sure he knows that I can see that he checks my page everyday so I'm lost as to what he's doing. Not only that but we have a mutual friend and he saw a pic of the friend and I together (we are just friends) and he has now been very rude and cold to him. He's been lashing out in a very crazy way towards the guy but he has yet to come out and say that it's because of us hanging out. So we aren't 100% sure that's why but it seems like it.

 

I do miss him a lot. But I'm confused as to if his viewing my pics is a way for me to reach out because he doesn't want to reach out first or what his motive is. His dad said that by me ignoring him, im actually helping him as a person because he's used to getting his way. But from his recent behavior he's been lashing out in a very negative way. But like I said he told me not to talk to him!! Idk what I'm even doing myself I feel like I'm making him suffer but then it's like idk because he's so arrogant. It's almost like I feel that I'm making him act this way by ignoring him like forcing him or something. It's a strange feeling but I just feel like everything is my fault even his relationship with his friend. I mean I was only doing what he asked to stay away

[PegNosePete]

Since we broke up I've blocked him on every social media sight. I've basically made myself invisible to him. I haven't seem him. I was VERY hurt from our breakup and the only way to cope was to disappear. A few weeks ago I noticed that he isn't blocked on my snapchat.

If you had immediately remedied that situation by blocking him on snapchat then you wouldn't have this problem.

 

I suggest you do that ASAP.

[Space Ritual]

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. He told me that he wanted me to stay away from him and not to speak to him. We broke up because he's very immature and craves attention. We were together for 2 years. He's a spoiled brat and acts very immature if things don't go his way.

 

Since we broke up I've blocked him on every social media sight. I've basically made myself invisible to him. I haven't seem him. I was VERY hurt from our breakup and the only way to cope was to disappear. A few weeks ago I noticed that he isn't blocked on my snapchat. I noticed because once you post things on snapchat you can see who views your pics or videos. At first when I noticed that he looked at a pic of mine I brushed it off. I figured that he was just browsing. He now looks like everyday. He has went a day or two without looking before but usually it's like everyday. He looked at pics from me being out of town and pics of me buying a new car or even just selfies. Basically he has seen what has been going on in my life on a daily basis. Once I noticed I didn't block him on there because I felt it's no harm him seeing me living well without him (thinking like an ex of course lol)

 

I personally find that confusing since he told me to stay away from him and not to talk to him. It's very open and it can easily be seen who's look at ur profile by you and I'm sure he knows that I can see that he checks my page everyday so I'm lost as to what he's doing. Not only that but we have a mutual friend and he saw a pic of the friend and I together (we are just friends) and he has now been very rude and cold to him. He's been lashing out in a very crazy way towards the guy but he has yet to come out and say that it's because of us hanging out. So we aren't 100% sure that's why but it seems like it.

 

I do miss him a lot. But I'm confused as to if his viewing my pics is a way for me to reach out because he doesn't want to reach out first or what his motive is. His dad said that by me ignoring him, im actually helping him as a person because he's used to getting his way. But from his recent behavior he's been lashing out in a very negative way. But like I said he told me not to talk to him!! Idk what I'm even doing myself I feel like I'm making him suffer but then it's like idk because he's so arrogant. It's almost like I feel that I'm making him act this way by ignoring him like forcing him or something. It's a strange feeling but I just feel like everything is my fault even his relationship with his friend. I mean I was only doing what he asked to stay away

 

 

You are not responsible for his actions. Just stay the course. You literally have a full column on the "Cons" side of the equation and a big fat Zero in the "Pros" column that you can always refer back to the Original Post if you feel yourself getting weak and may want to contact him. So once again, should you begin to feel somewhat guilty, just reread your post. Thats should snap you out of feeling sorry for him. You'll be ok. Just block him on Snapchat. Out of sight, out of mind.

[empresario]

It's normal to keep tabs on you after a breakup. I'm ashamed to admit it, but I do the same thing. I think the more abnormal thing is what you did...removing them completely. That's a very healthy way to do it and I commend you for that.

 

 

He is not suffering. He probably is jealous of what you're doing without him. He may escalate and try to contact you. However, don't give in. He is fine. Statistics show no matter how much you hurt someone, they accept it by month 3 and are happier (or claim to be) than they were at their highest point with you by month 9-12. It just takes time to move on. Both you and him are feeling normal things.

[Redhead14]

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. He told me that he wanted me to stay away from him and not to speak to him. We broke up because he's very immature and craves attention. We were together for 2 years. He's a spoiled brat and acts very immature if things don't go his way.

 

Since we broke up I've blocked him on every social media sight. I've basically made myself invisible to him. I haven't seem him. I was VERY hurt from our breakup and the only way to cope was to disappear. A few weeks ago I noticed that he isn't blocked on my snapchat. I noticed because once you post things on snapchat you can see who views your pics or videos. At first when I noticed that he looked at a pic of mine I brushed it off. I figured that he was just browsing. He now looks like everyday. He has went a day or two without looking before but usually it's like everyday. He looked at pics from me being out of town and pics of me buying a new car or even just selfies. Basically he has seen what has been going on in my life on a daily basis. Once I noticed I didn't block him on there because I felt it's no harm him seeing me living well without him (thinking like an ex of course lol)

 

I personally find that confusing since he told me to stay away from him and not to talk to him. It's very open and it can easily be seen who's look at ur profile by you and I'm sure he knows that I can see that he checks my page everyday so I'm lost as to what he's doing. Not only that but we have a mutual friend and he saw a pic of the friend and I together (we are just friends) and he has now been very rude and cold to him. He's been lashing out in a very crazy way towards the guy but he has yet to come out and say that it's because of us hanging out. So we aren't 100% sure that's why but it seems like it.

 

I do miss him a lot. But I'm confused as to if his viewing my pics is a way for me to reach out because he doesn't want to reach out first or what his motive is. His dad said that by me ignoring him, im actually helping him as a person because he's used to getting his way. But from his recent behavior he's been lashing out in a very negative way. But like I said he told me not to talk to him!! Idk what I'm even doing myself I feel like I'm making him suffer but then it's like idk because he's so arrogant. It's almost like I feel that I'm making him act this way by ignoring him like forcing him or something. It's a strange feeling but I just feel like everything is my fault even his relationship with his friend. I mean I was only doing what he asked to stay away

 

It's almost like I feel that I'm making him act this way by ignoring him like forcing him or something. It's a strange feeling but I just feel like everything is my fault even his relationship with his friend.

 

You are not responsible for his behavior, he is. Walk away. He's just immature and stalkerish if anything. Continue no contact and find someone else who can give you the kind of relationship you deserve.

[GoBlue]

You care that he is looking at your pictures because you still care about him. The truth is that you may miss him but there were severe problems between the two of you. Red Flags that appear in any relationship should be paid careful attention to. The pain of separation and loneliness needs to be endured to come out on the other side more prepared for a healthy commitment. Hang in there. Find a support group of friends or confidants to help you endure. Just refuse to compromise and make a decision that will have long-term consequences. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Rileycat]

It's hard for me because we have no good communication. I feel like we have feelings but no communication and that ruined us.... It's hard for me because I broke up with him because I thought he didn't care because he's so arrogant so it shocks me that he even looks at what I'm doing.

[GoBlue]

I completely understand - I really do. I have been divorced for six years now and I still wonder if my ex-wife ever thinks good thoughts about me. Breaking up is not an easy thing to go through, but it sure is easier than getting a divorce. That's why I encourage you not to compromise.

[Rileycat]

Now that I really am being honest with myself I think I feel bothered if he doesn't look. There's been days where he didn't look and it actually did bother me

[norajane]

Now that I really am being honest with myself I think I feel bothered if he doesn't look. There's been days where he didn't look and it actually did bother me

 

It's natural to want to have been important to a person who was important to you. It's natural to want him to regret losing you, and to pine for you.

 

But don't let that make you think that you should be with him. Just remind yourself of this:

 

We broke up because he's very immature and craves attention. We were together for 2 years. He's a spoiled brat and acts very immature if things don't go his way.

 

He is still that guy, so nothing would be different if you got back together. People don't change overnight, sometimes not for years. People don't mature overnight either, and sometimes never do.

 

Take care of yourself. Block him on snapchat. You're keeping yourself stuck thinking about him every time you check to see if he looked at your pictures. You might start putting specific pictures out there in the hope that he'll see them. You might start obsessing even more about whether he's looked and start checking every 10 minutes... Just let all that go and block him.