j10 Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 My husband wants a horrible name for our unborn child. We kind of made a pact that if it was a boy he'd get to name him...but if it was a girl then I would get to name her. We don't know what the sex of the baby is yet and will soon find out. I never imagined such a horrible name. His name is Prajedes. Most people can't pronounce that. We are both Hispanic and want Hispanic names but common...what is that. EEEEEEWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!! Now I am really hoping its a girl mainly for that reason. Gosh what should I do?????? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky Dog Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I understand your concern; most non-Hispanic people will pronounce his name "prejudice"! All I can suggest (besides having his mother talk him out of it! ) is to find a better name yourself and mention it to him in passing so he that thinks he thought of it himself! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Did he explain why he likes that name? If it has some significance in its meaning - then maybe there will be some different names he would like with similar symbolic meaning? Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by Lucky Dog I understand your concern; most non-Hispanic people will pronounce his name "prejudice"! Exactly what I thought too. Refuse. It should be a mutual decision anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 So you made a pact; if the child is a boy your husband will name him. I think that you might have to deal with 'Prajedes' afterall, depending on how far your husband intends to take that 'pact'. If you are having second thoughts you should probably talk to your husband about those thoughts. Maybe the both of you can agree on another name, and 'Prajedes' could be a middle name. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 [/b]Maybe the both of you can agree on another name, and 'Prajedes' could be a middle name[/b] or use that as baby's legal name but agree to call him by a nickname. Link to post Share on other sites
Author j10 Posted April 21, 2005 Author Share Posted April 21, 2005 The nickname for that is Prax. This name has a lot of meaning to him and his family. Personally, I don't even want a middle name - but I think that I would rather have a middle name Prajedes that first. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Pick out a middle name. My first name is hard to pronounce...and all through school it was mispronounced. But I had a pronouncable middle name, so I was fine. Just give the kid a reasonable middle name, and all should be well and good. And learn from this...NEVER let a man make a decision by himself Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Me and my b/f did that to, I got a girl though so I get to name it BUT he got a "NO FRIGGIN WAY" vote, witch he used if you really hate that name ask him to choose another one Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I'm sorry but I would tell him hell no!!!!! In Spanish that names sounds even worse!!!! Do your baby a favor and find another name!!! Link to post Share on other sites
SexKitten Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 yeah, i don't think i am crazy about that name either, but some spanish names i don't really like anyway, so i'm not picking on your baby's father, i promise! try to find a compromise...maybe you should come up with two lists of names that you both approve of, and he could still choose from the list whatever name he wants to name the boy, or you the girl, but you'll both know the other agrees with it. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleMiss Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 I thought Prajedes was a girls name. I don't think it that wierd. I've heard that name before. Then again, I'm hispanic and live in a prominately hispanic community. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 LOL Hmmm... when I was pregnant with my Little people while I did ask for my then husbands input on names.. I also decided screw it.. I'm the one carrying this kiddo around in me for this damn long, I'm naming the baby! Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Just honestly tell him that you don't like the name. Maybe you could use it as a middle name instead. That would make more sense. Pick out something you both agree on for the first name use "Prajedes" for the middle name. If you don't want to do that then you need to tell him that you just don't like the name. He will understand. TEll him to pick something else out. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 What would posess anyone to name a baby something that the other parent clearly and utterly disliked anyway??? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Why would posess anyone to name a baby something that the other parent clearly and utterly disliked anyway??? Unless, the other parent utterly dislikes the other parent and is doing it just to piss them off? *Merins on drugs today, apologize in advance* Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Why would posess anyone to name a baby something that the other parent clearly and utterly disliked anyway??? Oookay!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Unless, the other parent utterly dislikes the other parent and is doing it just to piss them off? I can see that more if they're not together, but I can't imagine going against my husband's wishes and naming our child a name he hates. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by tiki I can see that more if they're not together, but I can't imagine going against my husband's wishes and naming our child a name he hates. Sorry I had my disclaimer.. drugs for me today.. feel like sh*t! I can think of a case where a couple who was (and is) still together.. she named the baby something he (her husband) didn't like and didn't want... but oddly enough although the 2 of them are still together they are one of those couples that cannot get along but won't leave each other alone... I don't know that she named thier son what she did just to piss off her husband... but I think it came down to she didn't have enough care for him maybe to really consider what he wanted too? Drugs, I'm on drugs.... Link to post Share on other sites
SexKitten Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 it could be worse, his name could be nicodimo, or tchilikutis. Link to post Share on other sites
XNemesisX Posted April 21, 2005 Share Posted April 21, 2005 That is a wretched name Tell him HELL NO Link to post Share on other sites
Author j10 Posted April 22, 2005 Author Share Posted April 22, 2005 Hopefully, I'll find out the sex of the baby tomorrow morning. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 Originally posted by j10 Hopefully, I'll find out the sex of the baby tomorrow morning. How exciting! Either way.. name it Merin LOL Best Wishes to you! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 ...or Merin Tiki.... Let us know! Congrats Mommy!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Elmo Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 I guess if I were in your situation I'd just be very honest with my husband and admit that saying "you name him if it's a boy and I'll name her if it's a girl" was a bad idea. I'd tell him that it sounded kind of cute and fun, but his name pick does not make you feel really positive...and you want your child to have the best start in life...that the name, while interesting, may make life harder for him. Then I would say...in a loving way...could you pick out a few other names? I will too...so you can have a say in the child's name if she is a girl. Just be very honest and kind and I bet he'll want to work things out so you both feel good about this. A unique name can be a cool thing for some kids....maybe 5% can make Fatima-Lavoris-Bertha Smith work for them. The other 95% pay dearly. Link to post Share on other sites
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