Age difference

[BigB]

There is this family that recently moved into town, and they are friends with my family.

 

Several people have been encouraging me to ask out their daughter.

 

She's a bit younger than me, I think she's around 20. I'm 26. I'm pretty sure she's a virgin, not sure if she's dated much.

 

How big is that age difference? Not just numbers different, but "life" different?

 

I've always dated girls my own age, or slightly older. So I'm a little hesitant.

[CurlyIam]

Around 20 like... 21 or 22, or like 17, 18?

 

I have this rule about 6 years max. as an age difference. Maybe it's stupid, but it saved me a lot of trouble.

 

I think it's not the age diff you should be focussing on, but the girl. If she's interesting and mature and if you like her, continue to see her. Else, don't. Focus on people, it's the best technique !

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

If she's a mature person than go for it. But if she's still stuck in HS by gossiping and all the teenage stuff that stay away. Ya never know until you actually go out with her. Age is only a #. Its the mentality that I'm concerned about.

[faux]

If the girl is at least eighteen you don't have to worry about breaking any laws. As far as experience, you might have to find out what she has been doing with her life, or what she plans to do with her life. Maturity may still enter into the situation, but experience will probably count for more with your age difference.

 

I am six years older than my sister, and I have been through a great deal more than she can presently imagine.

[BigB]

Originally posted by CurlyIam

Around 20 like... 21 or 22, or like 17, 18?

 

19-20- or maaaybe 21. I was told she's the same age my my 2nd youngest sister. If I base anything off my sister.. well I've lived a lifetime more than her.

 

I don't know her that well yet, she's very shy around me. She's pretty friendly with my Mom, and my sisters. Not into the whole high school drama as far as I can tell. I think she's in college now.

 

hmmm..hmmmmh..hmmmm...

 

I'll have to do some more recon.

 

There is also the "dating a family friends daughter" factor I have to consider, if it didn't work out, I'd still have to see her, and her sisters, and her parents, etc.

[Dreamgirl03]

that much of an age difference aint that bad..i`m nearly 22 and i have dated guys that are 20 years older than me rather than only 6..lol. So, i dont consider it a bad thing..but then again..if she acts like an immature brat then it can be a bad thing..lol.

[jp79]

It depends, of course. What are you doing with your life, and what's she doing with hers? If you're doing a PhD in biophysics and she's a highschool dropout, in all likelihood you don't stand a chance to make it work. Same also goes if she's very mature and you're not... although in this case it MAY work. See my point though? Forget the numbers... with a 6 year difference they mean nothing. Instead, look at the maturity, the responsibility, the goals, the interests, etc. In short, all those things that matter in a relationship.

[CurlyIam]

Naah, I vote for "no".

 

Imagine this little girl who knows nothing about men develops an infatuations for you, starts crying 'cause you won't pay enough attention and tell her mommy who'll tell your mommy and cause a whole dramma.

 

 

Keep your distance, flirt a little to make her feel good, but don't, do NOT ask her out.

 

Stick to gals your age, the one you can date and dump when you feel like it! Always, always prepare your exit. I'm surprised how a smart guy like you didn't figure this one out!