Author ConfusedInOC Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by KissMyTiara How about uncontrolled emotion but controlled action based on that emotion? Now that I would agree completely with. Link to post Share on other sites
KissMyTiara Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC My ex likes me that are soft spoken, show very little emotion and make her want to chase them. I did everything wrong that I could have. Not afraid to admit that. I feel too hard, too fast. I was "too into" her which caused her to not be "into" me. That's the best way to explain what happened. Once the newness wore off and she didn't have to chase me, she got bored. Well, from what I know of you, this girl wasn't for you in the first place. A person who needs to chase and conquer is a commitment-phobe. It didn't matter if you were mushy or a hard-ass...if she knew that you loved her, that's all she needed to get bored. Trust me on this. That's who I was a few years ago. The right relationship for you will be with someone who finds each and everyday with you to be a new and exciting adventure...not a bore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ConfusedInOC Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by KissMyTiara Well, from what I know of you, this girl wasn't for you in the first place. A person who needs to chase and conquer is a commitment-phobe. It didn't matter if you were mushy or a hard-ass...if she knew that you loved her, that's all she needed to get bored. Trust me on this. That's who I was a few years ago. True. She is also very confused about what she wants. The right relationship for you will be with someone who finds each and everyday with you to be a new and exciting adventure...not a bore. I pray I find som when the next one comes along. Link to post Share on other sites
KissMyTiara Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Let the record reflect that I tried to help you, not attack you, as you have done me. And don't insult the rest of us by saying you were merely "correcting misinformation." Two wrongs DO NOT make a right, CIOC. Link to post Share on other sites
whitewhale Posted May 15, 2005 Share Posted May 15, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Bad, the msg you send is "I cannot survive without you" Even worse... what about your needs and wants? You made it all about her. Women cannot respect a man who has no needs or wants or desires. Familiarity breeds contempt. You must make space so she can miss you. Give of yourself but give intermittently, not all the time. Incorrect, COC. You caused her to wear out on you. wow. I haven't finished reading the thread, but I must now say this: it's in a nuthsell what I've read in "why men love bitches" you could rewrite that book alpha with "why women love bastards", when of course both bitches and bastards (in this context) are just people who are independent survivors and can do without the significant others - or so they signal! very good advice to COC I think Link to post Share on other sites
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