LDR and this current woman

[nakiami]

I have been in an LDR for already 1 and half year, I have just seen her for 2 weeks in those years, but we made a progress just through phone and internet.

Most of the time we are talking. Although there are some or should I say many many fights every week, we get back to normal after a while.

 

i can say she is kind of a girl who always say to break up when we fight, even she doesn't mean it.

She is always jealous to the point that I really don't go anywhere with some friends who have ladies in them as well, I have sacrificed my time for friends just to talk to her when sometimes it just leads to fights and arguements,

 

well that continues for a while, and I got used to it. I have cried too much for her whenever she says she will break up but now, even if she says that, I might not cry anymore.

 

the truth is, she is close to what I can say best friend as well and we are compatible on some parts. its just that sometimes I get tired of her ranting or being negative although I don't want to blame her. she has situations as well.

 

She is my first ever girlfriend.

 

Now I met this girl near or just the same city as I am, we got along together very well! I mean we feel connected to each other, we had same past etc.

but she has a BF too in another country, same LDR like me, and she face a little bit uncertainty with him too.

We are very close connected emotionally, share the same difficulty of having an LDR!

And I am really longing for someone who can be beside me, a friend, a girlfriend, I am kinda introvert which is I really want to fix it but i can't yet.

but I know my needs, just someone to hug or kiss. just someone to fulfill my desire to take care of someone.

I don't really know if my current LDR GF appreciates what i been doing for her, I've done lots, very long story, sacrificed time, money, effort, tears, and to what!? whenever she answers or call me, she will be always be doubtful if I have other girls, I stayed loyal to her, abstained from girls, whenever I get down or sad too, because of my situations, can you believe it she asked me if I am having affair!!!??

 

anyway, yes, I am thinking about this current girl which is I like very much. and the thing is she respects me and like me so much too, which is all I could wish for and very appreciative. Its just we have our own relationships,

We are not doing sex or anything, although we kissed . which is I am kind of sad because I feel I am cheating which is I am. but what can I do!?

 

And there is no sure time that me and my GF are going to be together soon. I have my career, she has, we live other side of the world, she is in US i am in Japan.

 

I am really getting confused bout my emotions, am I just longing for someone to touch that I am really being blind by the realities?

 

 

Thanks..

[ExpatInItaly]

You already know what you need to do, OP. It's obvious you aren't happy with your girlfriend and there's no logical reason to continue this relationship. End it now. But don't end it for the sake of this other girl, who isn't single anyway. End it because it's toxic and adds too much negativity to your life.

[Penguin_hugs]

I suggest reading the comments from your other threads where the suggestions are the same.

 

It seems like your relationship with our LD GF is over. You fight, you don't feel she appreciates you, you have no intention to close the distance and now you are thinking about another girl.

 

You should end it- because it's not healthy. You don't have to stay with someone simply because it's the first relationship.

[justwhoiam]

Your girlfriend sensed you are longing for a girl near you that you can kiss, hug, etc. You indeed kissed this new girl. And I assume you felt her body too...

 

Your girlfriend is right. You're having a story with some girl on the side. I guess you didn't think you could do it, but you did.

 

Now I'd like to ask you: how much can you trust this new girl? You've just met her and she didn't resist you one bit. She's cheating on her boyfriend and it all happened too quickly, apparently. So do you think she'd be devoted to you?