MissBee Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Well, my homeopath must've had her knickers in a twist. She certainly didn't fancy me because I was in the lifestyle. Heck, I had to google when she told me what she did. And she is accomplished, not merely a casual interest. We drank wine and spirits in moderation; it wasn't considered evil. We're both omnivores. She had been vegetarian at one time (not when we met) and I was/am gluten-free. She adopted my diet, and she even started riding and traveling with me. It's not a cult-like thing at all. Openness and acceptance are what characterize it to me. One of the most beautiful things about her is that she accepts people for exactly who they are, as they are... she doesn't judge using her own self-concept as the yardstick. Not many people are that open minded. I don't think one needs to be in a cult to prefer someone whose lifestyle matches your own. This is in all dating, even if you aren't "holistic." Different people of course will have their needs and wants in a relationship and that dictates the important they place on particular things, but in general, if something is a lifestyle choice for you (and not a side hobby), most folks choose a partner who shares in that, as lifestyle isn't just something you put on and off but is how you live everyday, what you believe, how you'll likely teach your kids, determines what you choose in terms of food, health etc and that can cause rifts in relationships if the person you're with doesn't share those ideals. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 (edited) Women who are into a holistic lifestyle tend to prefer men who are also into it... I don't think one needs to be in a cult to prefer someone whose lifestyle matches your own. Well, that's basically what I'm saying... that there are those who live essentially in a holistic way, and then there are those who subscribe to it as a lifestyle and identity. The former is simply preferences, whereas the latter is subscribing to the whole image, the lifestyle, to supplement their identity and they end up making a lot of judgements based on whether someone else is also a subscriber. Groups that do that are cult-like. I didn't say they're literally in a cult, but cult-like in that their identity is subjugated to the group and it's approved practices. Kind of like the hippies who look more like hippies than the actual hippies ever did, change the way the speak as a way of identifying each other, adopt new beliefs, all the rhetoric and pomp... because for some reason simply being who they are isn't enough. Their identity needs to be supplemented by belonging to whatever group... that's cult-like. Some are so invested in the image that they employ bumper stickers on their cars so they can be identified as such by strangers from a distance! People who are authentic and secure in themselves don't need to supplement... they're content to just be. Edited May 9, 2015 by salparadise 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 If she's good at playing the Didgeridoo, then she's a keeper. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 Well, that's basically what I'm saying... that there are those who live essentially in a holistic way, and then there are those who subscribe to it as a lifestyle and identity. Did you know that some have been known to change their names (usually first) legally to some Buddhist or whatever unusual name that's not their own anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
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