Bustoff Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Hi. I am trying to decide what to do with my marriage and I'm hoping to talk with others who have experience in this area. I just registered. Can't post much more right now. I'm taking a break from my bike ride, sitting by the river. Just thinking.................. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Hi. I am trying to decide what to do with my marriage and I'm hoping to talk with others who have experience in this area. I just registered. Can't post much more right now. I'm taking a break from my bike ride, sitting by the river. Just thinking.................. Welcome! Feel free to share as you see fit! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Esraem Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Welcome. We are here to listen and put in our two cents when requested. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Details will help. How old are you? How long married? If kids, ages? Are either one of you having an affair or had one during the M? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Hi. I am trying to decide what to do with my marriage I'd recommend loving your wife, cherishing your children and living a large life. Unless there's something you haven't told us :confused: ? Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bustoff Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 I'd recommend loving your wife, cherishing your children and living a large life. Unless there's something you haven't told us :confused: ? Mr. Lucky Been married 22 years. Wife has lost interest in sex and companionship. She wouldn't go to a counselor. We have a comfortable lifestyle, materially, but we don't have any closeness. We both turned 60. It bothers me cause I'm very active. She's not. She works and watches tv. I have many interests. I tried an affair but didn't like the dishonesty. Divorce seems like such a drastic thing but I get so frustrated. She wont see a doctor. How's that for a start? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bustoff Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 I'd recommend loving your wife, cherishing your children and living a large life. Unless there's something you haven't told us :confused: ? Mr. Lucky We don't have any children between us but she brought two into the marriage that we raised. It seems like we have a lot - except we don't have the things that really matter. We're just roommates, but like I said, materially we are comfortable and I know that counts for a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bustoff Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 I've seriously thought about having an affair. The one I had was very short and I stopped it because I really didn't like her that much. I have to admit I would be interested if I ran into someone I liked. I love my wife and find her attractive but she has no physical interest in me, and I keep myself up so that is not an issue. I can't understand why she doesn't want to have much to do with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bustoff Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 My wife knew I was friends with "the other woman" but she didn't know that we did anything. We only had sex twice. That was a year or two ago. That drought with my wife has been going on for a decade or more at least. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 Been married 22 years. Wife has lost interest in sex and companionship. She wouldn't go to a counselor. We have a comfortable lifestyle, materially, but we don't have any closeness. We both turned 60. It bothers me cause I'm very active. She's not. She works and watches tv. I have many interests. I tried an affair but didn't like the dishonesty. Divorce seems like such a drastic thing but I get so frustrated. She wont see a doctor. How's that for a start? Well, I can certainly relate to some of what you post. Same age with some of the same issues - I'm active with sports, outdoors and travel but like yours my wife much prefers home, hearth and TV. One big difference, sex still good for us, my wife generous to a fault. We're also comfortable financially, in fact she no longer works. We've adjusted by largely living parallel lives for the last decade, bonding over the kids/grandkids but otherwise often doing our own thing. We each make some compromises, she'll travel with me on occasion and I'll watch a few of her shows. If you could fix the sexual issues, would something like that work for you? Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 I've seriously thought about having an affair. The one I had was very short and I stopped it because I really didn't like her that much. I have to admit I would be interested if I ran into someone I liked. I love my wife and find her attractive but she has no physical interest in me, and I keep myself up so that is not an issue. I can't understand why she doesn't want to have much to do with me. Have you had a heart-to-heart talk to her about this? Does she know this is how you feel? You mentioned that she wouldn't go to counselling, maybe for here there is no problem because she doesn't see things from your side. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bustoff Posted May 10, 2015 Author Share Posted May 10, 2015 Yes, I have tried to talk yo her. The conversation goes no where. Overall it is hard to communicate with her. I tried talking and I tried counseling. I saw her dad shut down like this when he hit his 50's. I think what is keeping me in is the thought of the trouble it would be to get out. If a genie could blink its nose and get me out I would do it. Link to post Share on other sites
givnofuxxbro Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 sounds like marriage..im 50..aint nothing left aint no intimacy so gotta change something before it changes you......sick of being lonely Link to post Share on other sites
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