no freinds and no gf what am i doing wrong is having a gf hard to get

[joel]

ok is it just me or is finding a gf or even a date a hard thing. 24 yr old never had gf or dated before. before i was shy and quiet guy, now changing and being more talktive to ppl but still lack freinds to hang out with- mostly ppl who are aquiatances-classmates. to u guys is it really hard to find a date or gf for the typical college guy or is it just me not trying hard enough.

yes i read in an article about gals apporaching guys and askin em out...... well this never ever happened to me. what do u do. i have posted my pic here before and most ppl sayt i am avg to good looking.

some ppl tell me to be freinds with the gal first then ask her out others say jsut ask her out after small talk ... so hard to even figure out of askign out for a date and finding a gf or even a date.

the thing is i never even had a female freind before in my life i have had guy friends but not many just one or 2 close ones, i wish i was a groupie once in my life.

ppl tell me to join clubs, org.... i done it did it -most ppl end up being aquitances and not freinds so whats the use. ppl these days seem to have thier own life and freinds and don't want to hang out with me for some reason.

i do make sacrasatic comments- an exdample, not sure if its turning em off.

john-i have a freind who has 3 tests in one day

me-wow luckly guy hey

john-wowo the story we have to read this week is long hey-(10 pages story)

me-yea they should have made a novel out of it

basically i am asking is making freinds and gettin a date or even gf really hard these days or is it just me-weird , sacrastic personaltity. i also laugh at my own jokes that i make -not sure if the person would think it is funny or not. maybe that turns ppl off

[Merin]

Joel, Perhaps you're trying to hard to win people over?

 

Be yourself... don't try so hard to be funny...

 

While joining clubs is all good to go make sure you're joining in to do things that YOU would enjoy regardless know what I mean? Don't join something that you're really not interested in with the hopes you will find an interest in it.

[alphamale]

hey JOEL why don't you talk with ConfusedinOC (aka: COC).

[dgiirl]

one thing I noticed with a lot of my friends, when they stopped searching for a bf and became truely happy with being single, they found a bf.

[Quiet Guy]

Joel,

 

Know where you coming from. I am about a year younger than you and in similar boat, on the GF front that is. I have always struggled to get dates etc and when i do try to move to next stage, get the old 'i just want to be friends' & 'your a nice guy, but'. i have even had 'your not good looking enough' used on me.

 

I cant give you much advice, as having trouble of my own, but think you have to try to relax and be yourself, as nothing will happen if you put on an act. It's hard and sucks at times and can be really depressing but as i have learnt you just have to wait and see.