ready2moveon26 Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 My STBX and I have been separated for over a year and being the great, wonderful, and totally foolish person I am, I never filed for child support. He used to give me money fairly regularly, but I haven't received a penny since January, so I filed to receive child support. I was recently laid off and am on unemployment as is he. The support hearing has been scheduled for May 17th and it is in my county. We live about 2 hours apart. He gets our daughter every other weekend from Thursday to Monday. A few weeks ago the schedule got messed up because he wanted her on Easter and I didn't have any plans, so I let her go there on Saturday and I picked her up Sunday evening, so it wasn't even an entire weekend. The next weekend which was technically his, we had our family easter, so he said it would be easier if I just kept her and he'd take her the following weekend to make up for it. I let him take her and he should have had her the following weekend as well-which was last weekend. I called him last Thursday to see what time he thought he'd be here to get her and he said he hadn't planned on getting her at all that weekend. He said he'd call me on Friday and let me know for sure if he would pick her up at all that weekend. Well this weekend is technically MY weekend and he's left me a voice mail saying he'll be here to pick her up on Saturday morning. I do not want the weekends to get messed up because my friends and I are on the same schedule, if I give in to him and switch, I'll have nothing to do on the weekends I don't have her and her friends will be at their dad's houses on the weekends that I have her. I've told him and he says he wants things changed cause he's been getting her on off pay weeks and by the time he gets her, he doesn't have any money to spend on her. How do I fix this? I have always had a really hard time letting him walk all over me, hence the child support thing. He has been very cold the last few times we've talked and I hated that and he knew it. I want to stick to my guns on this, but what are his rights? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted April 22, 2005 Share Posted April 22, 2005 What? He says by the time he gets her he won't have any money to spend on her? Huh? So solution.. tell him to put aside some money to spend on her that way it's there when he has her during his visits... Disruption of routines can be really upsetting for Kids.. and it can't be all HIS way and whats conveinant for him... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ready2moveon26 Posted April 22, 2005 Author Share Posted April 22, 2005 I called him this morning and he answered. Things went well for the first 3 minutes or so, then he started getting mean. I began to cry but still said what I had to say. I asked him what was going on and he told me why he couldn't pick her up until Saturday morning rather than yesterday (keep in mind he called late last night) and then I said, why are you worried about it right now anyway, cause this isn't even your weekend. That is when he got mad. I wasn't going to give in on this one and didn't. He kept taking shots at me and I kept taking them. Then at one point I said, I'm a liar, that's all I do is lie. He said, well I'm glad you're finally willing to admit it. I was SO mad!...I replied with, I sure wish I'd hear you say those words cause everything you say is a lie and I haven't trusted your word for a LONG time. He followed up with, I don't give a ***** what you think. I was mad. Then he informed me that he doesn't think our daughter is ready for Kindergarten, because he knows I am sending her. I think he was just looking for another reason to fight. I asked him to tell me why she wasn't ready in his eyes and he said, she just isn't. Our daughter is overly ready for kindergarten, she is 4 and can read! If I make her wait another year she is going to be so bored, she'll get into trouble. I'm afraid she'll be bored this year as it is. I also asked him what he wanted- meaning custody wise. He said he wants her all the time but he knows that will never happen, which I took as he wants her only because I want her and he wants her only when it is convenient for him. Otherwise he'll be needing a babysitter. UGH!...He makes me SO mad!!!!! I can't believe how mean he was to me...he's NEVER been like that before! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ready2moveon26 Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 My daughter had kindergarten assessment on Thursday in the same town where her dad lives so I just went ahead and took her over to his mom's house where he was so she could stay for the weekend. His mom jumped all over me for not being more strict with her and letting her cry because she didn't want to stay. She doesn't want to stay because she is afraid she is going to miss something fun with me. He doesn't play with her or pay attention to her when she is there so that is another reason she doesn't want to go to his house. I am not sure exactly what happened, but they ended up taking her to the hospital claiming she was sexually molested...they tried calling me but I was on my way home and my cell phone was dead. The had her all checked out and they found that she had never been messed with. I called on Friday morning to find all of this out. I went up there to spend time with her and see what her side of the story was. I took her to urgent care and she had a yeast infection. She has a follow up appointment on Tuesday. He blames me. I called today to see what time he is bringing her home tomorrow and he said he hadn't planned on bringing her home and that he thought we would just meet at the doctor's office on Tuesday and I could take her home from there. She has school on Tuesday morning and I don't want her to miss it. When I told him that, he said if you want her, you have to come and get her. So tomorrow after my mom gets out of surgery for her breast cancer, I have to drive up there for the third time in the last four days. I HATE HIM!!! He put our daughter through a lot of **** she didn't have to go through just to get to me?!?! What a jerk!!! What do I do now???????? Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 What? They took her to the hospital for being sexually molested? What's going on with that? Do you think it happened?? When could it have happened?? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Seek an Attorney. For real... get some help here. This isn't good for your daughter period, end of story. Link to post Share on other sites
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