sportygirl89 Posted May 10, 2015 Share Posted May 10, 2015 This guy I like is about to go to do mission work for two years. Last night we were outside with a big group of our friends. He started asking me where I saw myself after a year. My field has some what selectivity so I do have to be careful where I move if I wanted a job. We probably spent a good hour talking. Then he was like hold on for a second. Then walked over to a friend and they went off to talk. Not sure if I made him upset by saying I'm not sure or what because my field requires at least 6 months of experience. He wasn't asking anyone else about their future. Do I ask him out for coffee or lunch to see if I get the end of the conversation? Its almost like he was going to ask me something. I just thought he liked this other girl in group. Now I look back in its always just been friends for them. Men complain about us being straight forward.... Link to post Share on other sites
La.Primavera Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 He probably realized he was spending too much time talking with you while ignoring his other friends. If he was really keen he would have let you know. Honestly, I wouldn't bother with asking him out. He is going away for two years. Now isn't the time for him to start dating someone. Save yourself the trouble and find another guy. Link to post Share on other sites
lemoncello Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 If he were truly interested in you he would have directly asked you out on a date. Men are simple that way. If they like you, they ask you out. If they aren't interested in you, they won't ask you out. Don't waste your time on this guy, since he'll be doing service work out of the country for 2 years. Focus on dating more locally instead. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 This guy I like is about to go to do mission work for two years.... asking me where I saw myself after a year... wasn't asking anyone else about their future... thought he liked this other girl in group. How do you feel about a sister-wife, or perhaps a few of them? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sportygirl89 Posted May 11, 2015 Author Share Posted May 11, 2015 How do you feel about a sister-wife, or perhaps a few of them? Wrong religion this guy is Baptist. Way to judge though. Also, he was asked when interview if he had relationship, it was better for him not to have one at the time (multiple people at church have said that. Baptist do not have sister wives.... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Is this the same guy your other posts were about: new guy to your church, him having lots of women fawning over him? I thought you decided you were going to write to him while he was away on this mission trip & let things develop over time. I think asking him for coffee at least to say Bon Voyage is a good idea. Unless you are married you can't make career decisions for yourself based on him. Since his mission trip is 2 years if he asks again where you see yourself in a year, say something like Settling into my career & counting the days until you come home. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Wrong religion this guy is Baptist. Way to judge though. Also, he was asked when interview if he had relationship, it was better for him not to have one at the time (multiple people at church have said that. Baptist do not have sister wives.... Was I judging, or were you? I wouldn't make qualitative distinctions between Mormons and Baptists. It's just that Mormons are well known for the two-year missions and... oh, never mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sportygirl89 Posted May 11, 2015 Author Share Posted May 11, 2015 Is this the same guy your other posts were about: new guy to your church, him having lots of women fawning over him? I thought you decided you were going to write to him while he was away on this mission trip & let things develop over time. I think asking him for coffee at least to say Bon Voyage is a good idea. Unless you are married you can't make career decisions for yourself based on him. Since his mission trip is 2 years if he asks again where you see yourself in a year, say something like Settling into my career & counting the days until you come home. Nope not married and not the same guy. The other guy didn't even realize he was in a relationship when he got into one a week ago. Once a flirt always a flirt. Haha. So I'm good with passing the other guy. So I might just grab coffee before he leaves. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sportygirl89 Posted May 11, 2015 Author Share Posted May 11, 2015 Was I judging, or were you? I wouldn't make qualitative distinctions between Mormons and Baptists. It's just that Mormons are well known for the two-year missions and... oh, never mind. I've always been a monogamous relationship type person so sister wives wouldn't fit my life style. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I honestly think he was just making small talk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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