GarrusVakarian Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 This is probably nothing. But yesterday while driving home. Funnily enough from a date. I had a missed call from my ex gf that I broke up with 9 months ago. Not really sure how to approach it?, definitely wasn't expecting it. 1. It could of been accidental?. But didn't even know she had my number still?. She has blocked me on all forms of social media, fb etc. So why would she keep my number?. 2. She wants to talk?. Who knows?. I am thinking should I drop her a text, saying got a missed call from you yesterday is everything ok?. Or should I just leave it and see if she tries again?. To be honest, I still really like the girl, but she dumped me due to different priorities?. Before that it had been going really well. I don't want to be chasing her for fear of any false hope. Any advice?. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Ignore. If she has something important to say, she'll call again. She didn't even leave you a voice mail. Just by the way, this happened to me once -- and I obsessed about it for days before finally sending a text asking what he wanted. Turned out to be an accidental butt dial -- and boy did I feel pathetic for asking him about it. I'll NEVER make that mistake again! 8 Link to post Share on other sites
seminoles84 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 You seem to be doing very well based on what I can gather from your post. I would suggest not breaking contact.. if it was important she'll try again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Always ignore until you get something of substance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DJOkawari Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I can definitely understand what everyone is saying, but I'm of the opinion that you could text her something short, not asking if everything was ok but just keeping it all business: "Hey. Missed your call. Do you need something?" Realistically, she would probably just want something simple (or it was a mistake), because like everyone said: if it was more important she would've made a bigger deal out of it. Depends on how your emotional state is regarding that sort of contact from your Ex. If you can handle it, then send the text. The only reason I suggest this is that personally not asking would leave me thinking about it more. I might even regret not finding out what is was and that would set my healing back. However, I also don't think it would hurt me to send that text. It depends on how you deal with things. Link to post Share on other sites
brokengirl85 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I can definitely understand what everyone is saying, but I'm of the opinion that you could text her something short, not asking if everything was ok but just keeping it all business: "Hey. Missed your call. Do you need something?" Realistically, she would probably just want something simple (or it was a mistake), because like everyone said: if it was more important she would've made a bigger deal out of it. Depends on how your emotional state is regarding that sort of contact from your Ex. If you can handle it, then send the text. The only reason I suggest this is that personally not asking would leave me thinking about it more. I might even regret not finding out what is was and that would set my healing back. However, I also don't think it would hurt me to send that text. It depends on how you deal with things. Do not follow this advice! Do not text her or call her! I'm sure it was accidental. It happened to me once, I blocked a guy and sometime later I was checking on my blocked contacts list (I know, I have a couple and accidentally press the wrong button and called him. Omg it felt so bad. Just forget about it, do not contact her 1 Link to post Share on other sites
10yearsgoneaway Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I would send a text. Myself and others don't always leave voicemails. In this day, the "missed call" notice serves as that. She may have also not left a message because she was unsure of what to say? or thought you were avoiding the call. It's up to you of course. Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I would send a text. Myself and others don't always leave voicemails. In this day, the "missed call" notice serves as that. She may have also not left a message because she was unsure of what to say? or thought you were avoiding the call. It's up to you of course. She was very sure of what to say when she was breaking his heart in half. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
DJOkawari Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I just don't vilify dumpers as much as the other people posting here. They're just regular people trying to make their way in the world. For me NC is for protection from those that can hurt us. That's because we are vulnerable to them. It isn't a punishment for them. If you are feeling vulnerable then don't reach out. If you aren't, then do whatever you feel like. The safest option, for your mental state, is obviously just to do nothing about it. Just don't dwell on it I guess. That's my problem when it comes to these things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
frigginlost Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 (edited) Just wow! So many think a simple text is like feeding the Devil incarnate. It's been 9 frickin' months! OP, if you are truly, truly, truly, okay with a response of "sorry, it was a butt dial" have at it. Just be prepared emotionally that it may be absolutely nothing. Really, some people need to lighten up... The OP is actually torturing himself by not knowing. Can you imagine what would happen if he saw her in person right now? Not only would it absolutely floor him, he would re-live the "I wonder what that text was about" all over again... Edited May 12, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator NC offense complaint.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I can definitely understand what everyone is saying, but I'm of the opinion that you could text her something short, not asking if everything was ok but just keeping it all business: "Hey. Missed your call. Do you need something?" Realistically, she would probably just want something simple (or it was a mistake), because like everyone said: if it was more important she would've made a bigger deal out of it. Depends on how your emotional state is regarding that sort of contact from your Ex. If you can handle it, then send the text. The only reason I suggest this is that personally not asking would leave me thinking about it more. I might even regret not finding out what is was and that would set my healing back. However, I also don't think it would hurt me to send that text. It depends on how you deal with things. Don't follow this advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Do not reply. Block. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 If it's important, you'll hear from her again. Ignore, ignore, ignore. If that makes me a "NC zombie" then so be it. If you have any romantic expectations (which you seem to do) chasing this phone call is not a good idea. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Just wow! So many think a simple text is like feeding the Devil incarnate. It's been 9 frickin' months! OP, if you are truly, truly, truly, okay with a response of "sorry, it was a butt dial" have at it. Just be prepared emotionally that it may be absolutely nothing. Really, some of you NC zombies need to lighten up... The OP is actually torturing himself by not knowing. Can you imagine what would happen if he saw her in person right now? Not only would it absolutely floor him, he would re-live the "I wonder what that text was about" all over again... Can you imagine what will happen if he sends the message and then gets no response from her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Can you imagine what will happen if he sends the message and then gets no response from her? That would be a definite possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
LooperDooper Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Yep I agree, do nothing. Keep going on your life as if you didn't receive anything. There is nothing more peaceful than making yourself realize the other person can and will contact you if they really want, no matter what. You could have blocked them, you could have moved, if they really want to contact you to talk to you about something meaningful they WILL find a way. Just like we found a way to beg and cry, they will find a way to come to you if it is that important to them. So do nothing, don't make it easy for them to half reach you and you texting them, make them do all the work. Just my two cents. They better appreciate you as much as you appreciate yourself, so they can do their part if they truly want. Link to post Share on other sites
DJOkawari Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 Can you imagine what will happen if he sends the message and then gets no response from her? That would be a definite possibility. I agree that it is a definite possibility. Do you really think he would take that so negatively? I guess, I'm just not understanding the situation. I think the call is more of a mystery than anything else. It's too long after the fact for breadcrumbs and based on the story probably not something based out of hate. It's probably just a mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I agree that it is a definite possibility. Do you really think he would take that so negatively? I guess, I'm just not understanding the situation. I think the call is more of a mystery than anything else. It's too long after the fact for breadcrumbs and based on the story probably not something based out of hate. It's probably just a mistake. He stated he wants to get back together with her, so yes, anything other than "oh yes, I really want to be in a relationship with you again" would put him in the muck. If he really didn't care either way and was recovered, then whatever, but that's not where he is. Chasing after a missed call would be a really bad idea. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dyna85 Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 I wouldn't respond. She didn't do anything noteworthy. A missed call is a weak, non attempt at truly getting in touch with you. No further follow up on her part = no effort. I'd leave it be if I were you. Link to post Share on other sites
OK_computer Posted May 11, 2015 Share Posted May 11, 2015 What about TWO missed calls? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 What about TWO missed calls? Nope. If there's no voicemail/text laying out what she wants to talk about, then no. It's up to the dumper to come correct. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lauri Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Honestly, she most likely had a weak moment and reached out to you. I wouldn't look too much into it...for all you know she's having a rough time with another guy and she is looking for some validation. I wouldn't even call her back or text. Leave it at that. I have a feeling she will reach out again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
frigginlost Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Nope. If there's no voicemail/text laying out what she wants to talk about, then no. It's up to the dumper to come correct. Absolutely disagree. Expecting someone to spill feelings in voice mail is unrealistic. Some would, some would not. I had an ex that wanted to get back together that started with a simple missed call from her. I had moved on so I called back. We ended up meeting up for drinks two weeks later and she spilled her guts in person. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 I was dumped by my last ex-gf. I went NC for me then moved on and met a great girl who I'm with today. About 6 months after the EX-gf said "i'm done" and I left her house, she sent a LLLOONNGGGG apology text while my GF and I were watching a show. I ignored her. She then came by my house a week later and luckily I was napping. Another week passes and she sent a lllooonnnggg email, telling me she's trying to reach me, she missed me terribly, wanted me back, had stopped by etc.. I replied that I had a new GF and had moved on and wished her luck.. and yea.. it felt great.. My point? DON'T reply to a missed call. If she wants to get ahold of you, she will... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
SoThatHappened Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Ignore. If she wants to get in touch with you, she will. If it wasn't by accident, she'll contact you via another avenue or call again. Best bet is to ignore. People posting on here usually aren't indifferent, and you even said you'd be willing to work things out. If she dumped you, it's on her to reach out. My POV anyway. If you reach out and don't get a response or find out it was a mistake, you could get hurt. Why do that at this point? Again if she wants you back (or even just to talk), she'll let you know. Link to post Share on other sites
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