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Bf had a sex dream with a female friend. I'm thinking about taking a break

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Some couples have sex dreams about other people, but it doesn't mean anything.

 

You shouldn't break with him for an innocuous dream.

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minimariah

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My reaction after reaching your post on this thread: http://replygif.net/i/586.gif

 

FFS...so if I dream about killing someone, that makes me a psycho?

If I dream I'm wearing a dress in public, that makes me a transvestite?

And all the times I dreamed I was naked in school, it made me a creep?

 

That's ridiculous, judging by you other posts, you have a very strange way to deal with reality.

 

ehhhhh... it's not that ridiculous.

 

i've seen "was dreaming about this chick" turn into "i'm leaving you for her" more times than i can count. seriously. it is what it is.

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You realize that people can't control their dreams, right? Hold someone accountable for their actions, not the pictures that their mind conjures up when they're sleeping.

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ehhhhh... it's not that ridiculous.

 

i've seen "was dreaming about this chick" turn into "i'm leaving you for her" more times than i can count. seriously. it is what it is.

 

In that case, way more things are happening besides dreaming.

 

It's not the dream's fault. And yes, it is THAT ridiculous.

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minime13

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Finding someone attractive is one thing.

Dreaming about f**king someone is another level, I wouldn't be ok and that is a red sign for me.

 

And before somebody calls me a hypocrite, if I dreamed I was having sex with another person that wasn't my boyfriend, I would break up the relationship.

I take dreams very seriously.

 

Most people don't take dreams seriously because they are subconscious thoughts in a blender.

 

They are a mixture of things on your mind, and you should not let them make life decisions for you.

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I agree. I think you're reading too much into it. You can't control what you dream about. Hell, I've dreamt that I've slept with other women while was dating AND while I've been married. But, I never told girlfriends or wife about those dreams. WHY?!?! They're not real! They never happened and never will happen!

 

I agree, why tell your s/o you dreamed this?? What good could possibly come of that?

 

I would wonder the motivation of someone who did this. It almost seems they wanted to upset her, but hiding behind it being "just a dream."

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Most people don't take dreams seriously because they are subconscious thoughts in a blender.

 

They are a mixture of things on your mind, and you should not let them make life decisions for you.

 

No, they are not.

 

They are your subconscience speaking, they show us our real feelings that we try hide in our everyday life.

 

You all can mock me if you want, but I take dreams seriously, they are not just images and you are all lying to yourselves if you think so.

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minimariah

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In that case, way more things are happening besides dreaming.

 

actually, in that case -- things STARTED with dreaming & it developed from there. you know... subconscience & stuff.

 

It's not the dream's fault.

 

of course it isn't - but a dream can often be a red flag... a sign, if you will. like i already said, i've seen it too many times to count... i'm sure people thought it was "ridiculous" in those cases, too.

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minimariah

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You realize that people can't control their dreams, right?

 

they actually can.

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actually, in that case -- things STARTED with dreaming & it developed from there. you know... subconscience & stuff.

 

Following that logic I ask again: if I dream I'm killing people, that automatically makes me a psycho?

 

of course it isn't - but a dream can often be a red flag... a sign, if you will. like i already said, i've seen it too many times to count... i'm sure people thought it was "ridiculous" in those cases, too.

 

Yeah it can lead to bad things if people TAKE IT SERIOUSLY instead of ignoring it because dreams are just random images thrown by our brain.

 

It's the same logic if people take seers seriously, following what they say and making life decisions based on it. Of course it will influence their lives this way.

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Following that logic I ask again: if I dream I'm killing people, that automatically makes me a psycho?

 

 

 

Well perhaps we need to report you, as well as the OPs bf, to The Adjustment Bureau so they can fix you right up... :)

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minime13

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No, they are not.

 

They are your subconscience speaking, they show us our real feelings that we try hide in our everyday life.

 

You all can mock me if you want, but I take dreams seriously, they are not just images and you are all lying to yourselves if you think so.

 

Subconscious speaking and a mixture of things in your mind are kind of the same thing. The thing about dreams, though, is that they are a blender of these thoughts, and you only remember certain things.

 

Like the dream I had when I was a child, building lego space ships under a picnic table. Care to analyze?

 

I'm not mocking you, but dreams are only dreams until you decide to make them into something else.

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If I knew that my bf had that kind of dream I would be mad as well, however, I can't say that I never had sexual dreams, so I think I would be more understanding.

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A dream is a dream, I dream of having sex with men I dont even know, or I know but I never spoke to, and I am sure I dont even wish to speak to. You cannot control your dream. If dreaming of having sex with someone may be a reason to take a break from a relationship, I think the boyfriend should be happy that you left since I don't see any strong relationship with a person who wants to control dream. I think you bf likes you and likes to communicate. You are making a mistake to end a relationship because of a dream. It is stupid and immature, unless there is any other personality issue you may have.

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Why are people still responding to this thread? The OP never came back. This is a dead thread.

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