shiftedblue Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 I love my husband, and he loves me, but there is a lot of animosity between us. The thought of divorce crosses my mind more than I want to say... We laugh together sometimes but we're often arguing about stupid jealousy **** (both of us are jealous about stupid little things). But the main source of anger and resentment is money and work. I have a decent job, I make pretty good money but for our area it's not enough to live "the high life" or anything-- our home is small. We can't raise a family here. He works seasonally and spends half the year unemployed. We're both educated people but he's just unambitious, and has stuck with physical labor. Me on the other hand, I have seen a 40% increase in salary in the past three years, three different job positions, and I just got accepted to grad school. While I don't see tremendous growth happening at my current company for various reasons, I feel I've done well so far. My husband doesn't seem to feel that way. He's pulling from the ease in which some of his extended family members and friends have gained homes and nice cars via their parent's assistance (neither of us come from wealth though) and I feel he's putting all this tremendous pressure on me to be the breadwinner and to be better than I am right now. It's not encouraging though, it's like he is nasty and resentful about how I am not getting higher up fast enough. I've suggested counseling but he has refused. He's not a man who will tolerate being backed into a corner so I don't know if an ultimatum would work. But I don't think I can continue on this way and I don't want to have a kid with him if this is how it's going to be... Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 Not good for a marriage that just happened in October. Barely a year into it. How long were you two together before you got married? Because I'm sure this HAD to be prevalent before the two of you got married. If you're not happy now, not even a year in, it's not going to get better anytime soon, specially if he is not going to budge at all. Decide what you need to do to be happy. Link to post Share on other sites
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