What would make you end a friendship?

[Firesqueak]

Would the reasons be the same whether the friend was male, or female?

 

Are the expectations that you have for your same sex friends different then opposite sex friends?

 

Do you find that you are more, "tolerant" of friends of the opposite sex?

 

In that same note, do you expect more from your same sex friends?

[Pocky]

Gender has no impact on whether or not I nurture a friendship with someone and the reasons vary depending on the situation. .

[tiki]

I (at this time) have no male friends. I just expect my female friends to be respective to my relationship with my husband and my family. Not a lot of pre-requisites or anything like that. Overall, just don't screw me over!

 

Lying and a lot of drama turn me off.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Same sex friends are different than opposite. If my best Friend (girl) sleeps with my ex, that accountable for termination of the friendship. But if your Bf with a guy, and are sure that that friendship will not turn romantic, you can tell so much more to. They won't gossip or steel you BF.

 

But what would it take to end a friendship? Betrayal. Most friendships are lost b/c of guys. She slept with my ex. My ex likes my BF. BLAH Blah.

 

Become friends with a gay guy and alleviate all the nonsense!

[blind_otter]

Chicks get catty and nasty.

 

Dudes tend to turn the relationship into some kind of quasi-romantic entanglement.

 

I need to become a hermit with an internet connection.

[bicyclejunk]

Sheer change of Personality/Views

 

If you're friends with someone and they start

acting different or they become ANNOYING because

of some belief they have or some new personality trait that really

differs from yours, i'd say that would make me end a

friendship and It has, twice.

[Jtizzle]

Im not really picky in PICKING my friends, because i am a black female rapper and i have a variety of friends..from white punk all the way to wormbook asians...now keepin them as friends is where im picky...see in my childhood days i had my share of same sex friends, but females tend to be gossipy, envious, and jus bring drama to a totally drama free situation. it was like the friends i had were tha total opposite of me, and i got wise as to how they would treat me and I them..if we went to lunch and they had no money, i would buy for them, listen to their problems and give advice,jus all that..

 

and EVERYTIME each one of those same sex friends did me grimey. i end friendships when you take my kindness for a weakness, when you smile in my face but the main person to say something when i turn my back, not takin up for me when i am in a tight situation ( b it sumone talkin about me and their there when it happens, or if i am in a fight or argument with someone) basically not havin my back 100% of the time as i would have their back, makes me end friendships..

 

far as opposite sex friends, i get along well with all of them...we have no problems, and any probs we do have its usually round that time for me , so they usually dismiss it as my womenly trait fa the month

[bubblygrl5]

I stopped talking to a good friend of mine. I have a bf, and she has a bf. She used to tell me how WONDERFUL the single life was when I had met him and she was single - I felt like she wanted me to miss it. For a while, I broke up with my guy, and she met hers - she would brag about how HORRIBLE the dating scene was, and how she was so glad she didn't have to be out there.

 

Her bf is pretty rich. (Well, his daddy is.) Mine has a good job, but hers is a bazillionaire. She always puts down the gifts I get, and brags about hers. She got about $1000 worth of gifts for her bday, and while that is great, I certainly don't expect that. She puts down some of the places I like to go out (totally normal clubs/bar/etc), and tells me about these upscale lounges that are so much more sophisticated where she drinks champagne. I can;t help it if I'm happy with pouring some vodka into my snapple when i get desperate!

 

She is just SUCH a snob these days, I can hardly deal with her. She stopped eating, and saves her paychecks to buy more expensive clothes now.... I don't even know who she is anymore.

 

Anyway, this is more of a rant than a post. But yea...snobby people. I don't like that.

 

Bubbly

[AngelEyz]

anybody who lies to me or betrays my trust will get their friendship with me terminated. i prefer other females for friends because guys always secretly have feelings for me and that causes more drama than the girls do.

[amerikajin]

Well, in the past I've ended friendships over...

 

...money. A guy who I once considered to be one of my very best friends, and a roommate no less, "borrowed" $350 from me...and disappeared never to be heard from again.

 

...a girl trying to disrupt a relationship with my girlfriend. A female friend of mine, who for years couldn't decide whether she wanted me as a friend or more than that, finally decided she wanted more - after I'd already found a strong relationship. She kept meddling....until I more or less had to write her off.

 

...being disrespected. Just recently, a dude I thought I was becoming friends with stood me up without any apologies.

 

...personality clashes. By far the most common. Sometimes you think you know someone, then realize that the more you know them, the more you know they aren't like you.

 

...losing respect for the person's character. Another "friend" of mine went back to his home country and "forgot" to pay the rent for the month that he owed.

[Firesqueak]

I've had to end relationships because of various things.

 

I've found that with my male friends, it's because they fancy themselves my "boyfriend" after a time. Then, when I do find someone I want to date, they get mad.

 

Note, I do not sleep with these guys before hand, and I let them know straight up that I want them for friendship only.

 

With my female friends, it's because they're so competitive. I had one friend that put me down because of my car. Then, she put me down because of my boyfriend (now fiance). After a while, I stopped calling. If I want to feel guilty, I'll call my mom. ;-)