would you rather live a single life forever or kill yourself?

[fireflywy]

Key sentence here being you get laid. I havent been laid in 1.5 months. its starting to eat away at me. Sure if I got laid all the time i probably wouldnt be wanting to kill myself either.

 

Dude quit worshipping the Mighty V and learn to separate what you DO from who you ARE and your worth.

[Jonp219]

Meaningless sex is "B" sex compared to really knowing the person.

 

I'm going to catch a lot of crap for this, but why not just pay to have a little meaningless sex if that's what's bothering you most?

 

Similar price to a fairly expensive date, you have a job.

 

I have been away on my project for several months and have not stopped it to hook up in well over 2 months. Yet, I'm not bothered at all.

 

Just hire a girl to get that off your brain, then focus on something else...

 

True, if sex is all you want then do what Loveweary is saying.

 

However, I must warn you. I had meaningless sex from a hooker about a month after my break-up and it was single worst experience of my life. Never in my life will I ever do that again. I didn't think sex could ever be an F but that **** was a Z.

[StephenSG]

to be honest, the last 6 months of my life have been shrouded in large amounts of alcohol, MDMA and cocaine. I dont know what that has done for my depression but im sure its made it worse. those drugs help me talk to women though

[Jonp219]

to be honest, the last 6 months of my life have been shrouded in large amounts of alcohol, MDMA and cocaine. I dont know what that has done for my depression but im sure its made it worse. those drugs help me talk to women though

 

Oh, I get it now.

 

You're confident with women when you're on drugs, so when you sober up for your date you lose that confidence. Hence why your dates don't flourish into something more.

[Simon Phoenix]

Key sentence here being you get laid. I havent been laid in 1.5 months. its starting to eat away at me. Sure if I got laid all the time i probably wouldnt be wanting to kill myself either.

 

1.5 months? 1.5 months is nothing -- it's been more than 1.5 months for me, hell, I've had droughts 10 times that. Yeesh.

 

Edit: Toning down my message a bit. Either way, the pity party needs to stop.

Edited May 15, 2015 by Simon Phoenix

[I_Give_Up67]

I've been to plenty of professionals and although I always make a conscious effort to change it never works. Some people just need that special someone to survive, it's that simple. The alphas can survive on their own, the betas can not. I'm also contemplating suicide because I can't live on without her. I realized that I messed up more than I thought I did. I thought It would eventually feel like I can do just fine without her, but truth of the matter is I can't. Stephan listen these guys, they have a better head on their shoulders than I do. Be happy that you can ATLEAST get dates, I can't get ****. However it doesn't matter because no one will ever be able to replace her.

 

Jon- I've followed your story and the crushing heartache you have been dealing with. If I may offer you a slightly different outlook on labeling yourself as a beta. First of all, don't label yourself. If you must label yourself, then give yourself the Lexus of labels, call yourself a super alpha. Why put yourself in a mental crevasse without a ladder to ever climb up? Look man, I know you think you lost your world when your GF split. As a 48 y/o man, I can't count the number of "I'll never find another one like her(s)'" that I said at the time of my past breakups. It is going to take you a minute to get over your Ex, but five months or twelve months from now, you will feel differently.

 

Please try and keep an open mind and heart. This is the best way to open up to the possibility of meeting someone new. I've said this in at least a couple of other threads now, but take this time to learn to be alone, and get to know yourself. Learn to be independent. Learn to draw your strength from within. I promise you if you do these things, you will discover a new found confidence and independence.

 

If you can get through this minor slump you're in at the moment, I'd like you to be able to show your Ex just what she gave up. There's no better way to do this than to be genuinely happy.

[Itspointless]

Key sentence here being you get laid. I havent been laid in 1.5 months. its starting to eat away at me. Sure if I got laid all the time i probably wouldnt be wanting to kill myself either.

You are seriously bothered because you did not have sex for 1.5 months. Get a life. Seriously!

 

edit: made my reaction somewhat more decent, as I saw a similar post by simon Phoenix.

Edited May 15, 2015 by Itspointless

[ASV]

If you can get through this minor slump you're in at the moment, I'd like you to be able to show your Ex just what she gave up. There's no better way to do this than to be genuinely happy.

If only had I the certainty that, even if I've truly moved on and won't take her back, she'll eventually look back and will realize my worth, trying to get me back, I would probably heal much faster. Call it pride, call it insecurity. I just want to get that piece of quietness back to my self-esteem.

[elaine567]

If only had I the certainty that, even if I've truly moved on and won't take her back, she'll eventually look back and will realize my worth, trying to get me back, I would probably heal much faster. Call it pride, call it insecurity. I just want to get that piece of quietness back to my self-esteem.

 

But you are defining your worth by what SHE thinks of you, who is SHE? What makes her so special to judge your worth?

Does SHE have a degree in "worth"?

[ASV]

But you are defining your worth by what SHE thinks of you, who is SHE? What makes her so special to judge your worth?

Does SHE have a degree in "worth"?

 

She has been the only one I deemed truly "worthy" who has taken me out of my loneliness.

[I_Give_Up67]

She has been the only one I deemed truly "worthy" who has taken me out of my loneliness.

 

I know exactly how you feel. I've been exactly where you are right now.

 

What finally helped me deal with this has been to simply open my eyes, and see my Exs' for what they truly were.

 

They were human beings, just as flawed and screwed up as everybody else! Nothing more, nothing less! I know you can't see this right now, but give that some thought. No one is perfect, no one.

[Jonp219]

But you are defining your worth by what SHE thinks of you, who is SHE? What makes her so special to judge your worth?

Does SHE have a degree in "worth"?

 

Here's the thing. These people were there for us when no one in the world wanted anything to do with us. They loved us when no one else did, and they pushed us when no one else could. Judging by my past I can say that I've always been at my best when I'm with someone, and I was at my highest peak when I was with my previous ex. I'm sure Van feels the same way, these women gave us wings. And although we're putting them on pedestals I think they rightfully belong there. At this age (24 & 25) either everyone is taken or no one is looking, and then you have the undesirables which is where I fall into. I know one of us is going to end up doing something stupid this summer, it's the absolute worst time of the year.

[StephenSG]

You are seriously bothered because you did not have sex for 1.5 months. Get a life. Seriously!

 

edit: made my reaction somewhat more decent, as I saw a similar post by simon Phoenix.

 

1.5 is a lot for me..

[Jonp219]

I've made a decision.

 

I've decided that the moment I know she's moved on to someone else will off myself in the least painful way. I'm going to make fake accounts and follow her on her on Twitter and Instagram. The moment I see a picture of another guy or if she mentions anything about another guy, then I will proceed to the next step. I'll be patiently waiting and see what happens. I'm not changing my mind, my decision is final.

[ASV]

I've made a decision.

 

I've decided that the moment I know she's moved on to someone else will off myself in the least painful way. I'm going to make fake accounts and follow her on her on Twitter and Instagram. The moment I see a picture of another guy or if she mentions anything about another guy, then I will proceed to the next step. I'll be patiently waiting and see what happens. I'm not changing my mind, my decision is final.

Jon, dude, man up. Enough self-pity. I've been following your mourning and felt really proud of your improvements. At least think of your mother, who you put in so high regard. Hell, I find myself bitching a lot and crying like a baby as well, but one thing is venting and the other one is..., enough is enough.

[Jonp219]

Jon, dude, man up. Enough self-pity. I've been following your mourning and felt really proud of your improvements. At least think of your mother, who you put in so high regard. Hell, I find myself bitching a lot and crying like a baby as well, but one thing is venting and the other one is..., enough is enough.

 

Nah man, I've thrown the white flag. I'm finished.

 

My mother has more to look forward to from my younger brother, he has a very bright future ahead of him. A+ student, been with the same girl since middle school, getting a full ride to a great university, tech. genius, and more. All I do is let people down and losing my ex is the straw that broke the camels back. Self-pity is wallowing in your sorrows, this is me accepting my fate. Certainty or no certainty I know I'm not going to get better because I will never allow myself to get better. I don't deserve it, losers don't deserve rewards for ****ing up all the time. This time I will not be a pussy, this time my actions will follow up with my words. You're right, enough is enough...

[loveweary11]

I've made a decision.

 

I've decided that the moment I know she's moved on to someone else will off myself in the least painful way. I'm going to make fake accounts and follow her on her on Twitter and Instagram. The moment I see a picture of another guy or if she mentions anything about another guy, then I will proceed to the next step. I'll be patiently waiting and see what happens. I'm not changing my mind, my decision is final.

 

Jon, I have a lot of faith in you, man.

 

But this post is gay.

 

A complete waste of your time to make accounts and it's only going to stress you out more.

 

I don't want to breed another son of sam but your reaction is all backwards. If I were going nuts, I sure wouldn't be killing myself. I'd be killing whatever the problem was.

 

You need to move on. Go through the motions of it.

 

You gave up way too fast on doing new things.

[I_Give_Up67]

I've made a decision.

 

I've decided that the moment I know she's moved on to someone else will off myself in the least painful way. I'm going to make fake accounts and follow her on her on Twitter and Instagram. The moment I see a picture of another guy or if she mentions anything about another guy, then I will proceed to the next step. I'll be patiently waiting and see what happens. I'm not changing my mind, my decision is final.

 

 

Jon,

 

Please allow me to PM you.

[Simon Phoenix]

1.5 is a lot for me..

 

Well, you aren't going to get much sympathy from most for that. You are basically crying because instead of getting a $100,000 stipend every month, that you only are getting $50,000. If that's one of your primary problems you're looking for reasons to piss and moan. There are married people that go that long without sex.

 

Get a hooker if you need a release, but you sound rather foolish and spoiled pissing and moaning about that.

[Simon Phoenix]

I've made a decision.

 

I've decided that the moment I know she's moved on to someone else will off myself in the least painful way. I'm going to make fake accounts and follow her on her on Twitter and Instagram. The moment I see a picture of another guy or if she mentions anything about another guy, then I will proceed to the next step. I'll be patiently waiting and see what happens. I'm not changing my mind, my decision is final.

 

And WTF at this....

[na49]

Holy sh*t this thread is depressing..

 

I'm just as bad, if not worse than most of the people here who are trying to get over their ex. I realize that I have a better chance of finding someone new if I'm alive than if I'm dead though. I feel hopeless at times, so I get that, but our ex's really were not perfect, and neither were our relationships with them.

Edited May 15, 2015 by na49

[Jonp219]

Jon, I have a lot of faith in you, man.

 

But this post is gay.

 

A complete waste of your time to make accounts and it's only going to stress you out more.

 

I don't want to breed another son of sam but your reaction is all backwards. If I were going nuts, I sure wouldn't be killing myself. I'd be killing whatever the problem was.

 

You need to move on. Go through the motions of it.

 

You gave up way too fast on doing new things.

 

I would consider that to be backwards. Because then you have to live with killing this person and that's just more pain you have to deal with (in my opinion). I rather just be in peace and not have to worry about these vial, cynical, immoral, abhorrent, noncommited, party animal floozy's I see every day. I don't want to try anything out because I know i'm not going to like it. New adventures make me think of her, and new places make me wish I was with her. Moving on is not an option, only thing I want to move on to is a coffin. Don't tell me I didn't try, I've been trying for the past month and a half to no avail. I thought I was getting better until one day I woke up and realized I can't live without her. Since then I've cried more than 4 times a day, I've completely lost my grip, and I haven't seen my friends in over 2 weeks. You ever seen someone in their death bed? Gripping the covers of their mattress, just trying not to let go? That's I feel like right now. You want to fight it, but deep down you know the inevitable needs to be set in. And frankly, I'm just tired of fighting. I'm ready to take the easy way out when the time comes.

[TunaCat]

I've made a decision.

 

I've decided that the moment I know she's moved on to someone else will off myself in the least painful way. I'm going to make fake accounts and follow her on her on Twitter and Instagram. The moment I see a picture of another guy or if she mentions anything about another guy, then I will proceed to the next step. I'll be patiently waiting and see what happens. I'm not changing my mind, my decision is final.

 

What will this do for you?

 

Do you want to be considered the crazy ex who just won't let go because that's EXACTLY how you'll be seen.

 

Get over it already and move on.

[na49]

I've made a decision.

 

I've decided that the moment I know she's moved on to someone else will off myself in the least painful way. I'm going to make fake accounts and follow her on her on Twitter and Instagram. The moment I see a picture of another guy or if she mentions anything about another guy, then I will proceed to the next step. I'll be patiently waiting and see what happens. I'm not changing my mind, my decision is final.

 

She is going to date someone else at some point (if she isn't dating someone already). You do realize this right? I doubt she will never date someone else if she is in her mid 20's. You are the only one who can take your ex off the pedestal, and for some reason you don't want to. You really need to talk to a therapist about this. It's ridiculous.

 

Your ex was as perfect as my ex (meaning neither of them were perfect). Over the course of 3 months since she left me (for the second time) I have seen her with TWO different guys. TWO douche rockets have had their arms around her, f*cked her, made out with her, etc. She's got the biggest smile on her face. I saw her write about each of them. Writing how "in love" she is with them on her Facebook, how she is happy to find the one that she deserves, and how she isn't perfect, but is perfect for them. Killing myself didn't even cross my mind. Someone chose not to be with you. That's really all that happened, and you want to kill yourself over that. I think if someone else was talking the way you were, you'd see how silly it sounds. I hope you get help.

[Jonp219]

She is going to date someone else at some point (if she isn't dating someone already). You do realize this right? I doubt she will never date someone else if she is in her mid 20's. You are the only one who can take your ex off the pedestal, and for some reason you don't want to. You really need to talk to a therapist about this. It's ridiculous.

 

Your ex was as perfect as my ex (meaning neither of them were perfect). Over the course of 3 months since she left me (for the second time) I have seen her with TWO different guys. TWO douche rockets have had their arms around her, f*cked her, made out with her, etc. She's got the biggest smile on her face. I saw her write about each of them. Writing how "in love" she is with them on her Facebook, how she is happy to find the one that she deserves, and how she isn't perfect, but is perfect for them. Killing myself didn't even cross my mind. Someone chose not to be with you. That's really all that happened, and you want to kill yourself over that. I think if someone else was talking the way you were, you'd see how silly it sounds. I hope you get help.

 

Of course it would be silly! Because I don't want to see my friends die!

 

But i don't give a damn about myself lol. And you know what? Joke's on me because I am seeing a therapist, and I still want to do it.

 

It's rough that you had to see that because I would of BEEN offed myself, probably right in front of her too. But i'm happy for you, you have more to live for that's awesome! That's great!

 

I don't...

 

That's the difference between me and everyone else in here.